A whole new world - my journey to become a mum and a healthy me!

Well this is the beginning of week 4 for me, I started my journey on 24th March 2014 following Slimming World EE plan from home. I have loved being able to come on this forum, it means a lot to know there are so many lovely supportive people out there, and we are all in it together - and i wish all of you all the luck in the world xxx. Having read other peoples, i decided now would be a good time to start my own diary... hopefully one day i can look back and feel proud of what i've achieved and remember how i got there! I am going to record my losses and gains, my thoughts and feelings, through good times and bad as i begin my journey of weight loss to better health, happiness and hopefully achieving my long held dream to become a mum....a whole new world!

I'm 5' 11'' and was 41 recently, i live with my lovely husband and dog in a village near the sea in Hampshire. I have been obese for most of my adult life due to various issues/comfort eating. If you put together all the weight i have lost over the years in total i would be a skeleton! but sadly i never managed to lose it all at the same time - THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT.

Having wanted to become a mum for so many years now i have finally had to accept reality. We have seen a fertility specialist who having done tests told us there is nothing wrong with either of us, i still have regular periods/ovulate and yet nothing ever happens, the only constant that has been there through all the years of trying has been my heavy weight (in varying degrees but always there). SO having had to accept I'm now 41 and may never become a mum naturally has been heartbreaking, BUT we would love to adopt a child and become a family that way, so that's the big hope now, i would love to give a child a happy life as part of our family but to be approved for adoption i also need to lose weight to be a healthy active mum - which i totally understand. So either way i need to lose the weight so i can finally become a healthy happy me and to do this i need to tackle it head on in a constructive, steady, realistic way, SO THAT IS WHAT I AM FINALLY DOING. You never know, if i can manage to lose enough weight in the next year or so maybe i have just enough time left to have a miracle baby(if it was the weight stopping me conceiving all along?) or if it's just not meant to be i would love to adopt a family, either way I'm hoping to become a mum one way or another at the end of my journey, wish me luck!....Any comments and support are always appreciated from you all as i continue on my journey to become a mum and a healthy me!

Started 24/03/14 at 23st 3 1/2 lbs
Week 1 - Lost 3 1/2lbs
Week 2 - Lost 5lbs
Week 3 - Lost 3 1/2lbs

So today 14/04/14 i weigh 22 st 5 1/2 lbs, I've managed to get out of the 23's which feels great! i have lost 12lbs in 3 weeks so far, I'm thrilled! I know it's bound to slow down and this is ok, but I'm off to a great start. I am been trying to be as active as i can and hope i can manage another few pounds next week to reach the stone? I realise that it's going to be a long journey with good days and bad, but as long as i stay on it I KNOW I WILL GET TO THE END!

Not feeling great today, just had my week 4 weigh in and I have stayed the same - despite following plan and being more active last week...fed up! Especially as we have just come through the Easter weekend where there was chocolate and yummy food everywhere I looked but I didn't allow myself a single treat. Yesterday for my Easter dinner even though I wanted Lamb I had Turkey as it's lean, as it was Easter Sunday I had 2 x meringue next (3syns each) with strawberries(free) and some fat free yoghurt(free) so I don't think I did anything wrong there. The only thing is my stomach feels bloated and a bit painful(I am am about to ovulate) so I wonder if that has to do with me not losing this week? I guess I just have to accept there will be weeks like this no matter how hard I tried, try no to get down over it and move on to better weeks ahead.

Hi Jemima

Wow your story made me well up, I totally know how you feel although mine is slightly different.

Sometimes we sts and it's so disappointing but then the week after if you stay at it you could see a massive loss. I've had a few sts before and then eaten badly and put on, if only if waited lol

Good luck with everything, your determination and resilience is amazing

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Sarahc said:

Hi Jemima

Wow your story made me well up, I totally know how you feel although mine is slightly different.

Sometimes we sts and it's so disappointing but then the week after if you stay at it you could see a massive loss. I've had a few sts before and then eaten badly and put on, if only if waited lol

Good luck with everything, your determination and resilience is amazing

X

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Thanks so much Sarah, that means a lot x I'll just keep plodding on.... And congratulations on your amazing weight loss of 6st, you must be so proud! xx

Yeah it feels good to loose all that weight, still have 2 stone to go though. Actually 2 1/2 as I do put some back on. I'm on my phone so need to check my profile on my computer and update it.

Good luck with everything

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Thanks Sarah, good luck yourself, you have done so well, I really hope you get your happy ending x

Jemima Doll said:

Thanks Sarah, good luck yourself, you have done so well, I really hope you get your happy ending x

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Sounds like you deserve to get your happy ending too chick! Your story struck a chord with me - we are similar ages and I've been on a diet since I was.... forever ?!! I'm not a mum when it seems like everyone else in the world is - for me its been that the timing has never been right and now DH has been made redundant, ha, seems like the world is conspiring against us! Anywho, enough about me, I'm here to read more about your journey and 'm already rooting for you So, hello and keep going :vibes:

wibblefran said:

Sounds like you deserve to get your happy ending too chick! Your story struck a chord with me - we are similar ages and I've been on a diet since I was.... forever ?!! I'm not a mum when it seems like everyone else in the world is - for me its been that the timing has never been right and now DH has been made redundant, ha, seems like the world is conspiring against us! Anywho, enough about me, I'm here to read more about your journey and 'm already rooting for you So, hello and keep going :vibes:

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Hello wibblefran, thanks so much for your lovely comments and support - means a lot to know your rooting for me x I know what you mean about sometimes feeling the world is conspiring against you, but I'm sure things will get better for you and then you will get the timing just right! xx

My sister says the timing is never right to have a child you just gotta go for it lol. I'm single so I feel like I'm never going to get there. I also feel like I haven't get that person there that can tell me it's gonna be ok it will happen one day. Ah well I keep on going on dates, maybe one day.

I foster too, is that something you could think about?

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Sarahc said:

My sister says the timing is never right to have a child you just gotta go for it lol. I'm single so I feel like I'm never going to get there. I also feel like I haven't get that person there that can tell me it's gonna be ok it will happen one day. Ah well I keep on going on dates, maybe one day.

I foster too, is that something you could think about?

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Hi Sarah, I'm sure the right one will come along for you when you least expect it(always the way!)xx I did think about fostering as I know there are so many kids that need homes, if I can't conceive naturally we plan to adopt but I know that you need to be reasonably fit to be approved, so with my weight I very much doubt I'd be approved at the moment(and I assumed it was the same for fostering?).

Hiya,

Don't beat yourself up, you've lost such a lot in your previous weeks and you've done so well. A STS is alot better than a gain xxx

At the moment it feels like it's never going to happen lol.

I don't think there are any restrictions on weight, when I started fostering I was 19 stone. You should ask if your interested, I offer respite care as I work full time as a teacher and you need to be free in the day for meetings and things sometimes.

If you want to know anything just ask

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Sarahc said:

At the moment it feels like it's never going to happen lol.

I don't think there are any restrictions on weight, when I started fostering I was 19 stone. You should ask if your interested, I offer respite care as I work full time as a teacher and you need to be free in the day for meetings and things sometimes.

If you want to know anything just ask

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Thanks Sarahc, might look in to this X Sadly I've had a dreadful week...been rushed to hospital in agony, turned out I had a kidney stone - never felt pain like in. Due to being in hospital and on strong drugs I had to come of plan and have put on a few pounds, really upset. Still on drugs now but think I may have passed the stone, doing my best to get back on plan now and repair the damage. Still feel terrible but hopefully the worst is over.

Dear Diary...still feeling yukky but hopefully I am over the worst of the Kidney Stone from hell! from tomorrow(Thurs) i'm getting back on plan and aiming for that first stone off badge I was so close to before this happened. Feel a bit sorry for myself that this had to happen to me now, just when i was doing well, but i have to accept that's life, and there will be bad times along the way on this weight loss journey that I just have to move on from. I've NO doubt I will be back on track very soon. I know I AM going to get there because despite what has happened to me, once the severe pain had passed my mind just kept focussing on when I could get back on my journey, so I will continue putting one foot in front of the other over a period of time and I WILL reach my goal...

This is my first ever entry....to remind me of why I am doing this..

Hi everyone,

I'm starting Slimming World today and am determined that after years and years of being obese and dieting this is IT for me, I will finally get to a healthy weight and stick to it, and if I'm really lucky hopefully achieve my long held dream of becoming a mum one way or another....

I have been overweight for my whole adult life in varying degrees, managing to lose a bit of weight here and there (at my heaviest I am ashamed to say I was 28st - now I'm 23st and have managed to keep that 5 stone off), so now I have to lose the rest of it! We have wanted a baby for so many years now and during that time I have lost 5 stone but still am very obese. After years of trying we went to see a fertility doctor and had all the tests done, we were told there is nothing wrong with either of us - we were offered IVF if i lost weight but didn't want this as i feel if my body won't allow me to fall pregnant naturally i don't want to force it. We will not give up trying yet but have had to face the heartbreaking reality (I have just turned 41) that we may never have our own child. Now we have decided that our only hope of having a family may be to adopt which would be wonderful, however to do that you need to be as healthy as you can so whatever happens i have GOT to get another 5 stone or so off if i want to be a mum, which i want so much, so i am determined this is what i am going to do. Lots of people keep saying to me "you wait, you'll get that weight off and be able to adopt but then i bet you'll fall pregnant naturally!!". But i keep thinking it will never happen now as i have wanted it for some many years BUT a little bit of me still has hope(i still ovulate normally etc and am told there is nothing wrong with me), so could it be the last bit of weight loss could produce a miracle baby? I don't dare hope, but know i have to do this either way so that if i can't have my own child i can adopt.

Just wondered if anyone else has been in a similar position, lost a lot of weight and then suddenly fell pregnant after years of trying - despite being a bit older???

Well, sadly I'm still feeling unwell despite the fact that I'm sure the stone has passed, as a result so far i've not managed to get back on plan yet...feeling sorry for myself and really stuggling at the moment. DETERMINED though that I will be back 100% on plan by Monday at the latest(no matter how I feel!). I'll have to accept the last few weeks have been a right off due to being ill, and I didn't want or plan for that to happen so must stop feeling guilty. I know I won't have lost anything on Monday and may have even gained again, but 2 weeks of gains is nothing in the grand scheme of things, now I just have to focus on getting back on my journey and working towards my first mini goal!!

I did it!!! Despite having a dreadful couple of weeks due to the kidney stone, and gaining 4lbs last week after going off plan whilst in hospital etc, i'm delighted to say I have just had my week 6 weigh in and lost 6lb this week!! meaning I've managed to re-lose the 4lb I put on when I was really ill and lost an extra 2lb to boot! I'm amazed at this as I've not been feeling good and am only just getting back to normal (though during the time of feeling unwell after the kidney stone i wasn't eating lots just not the right things) and have been back 100% on plan for a while now which has obviously paid off.... as this means I have finally lost a stone and got my 1 stone reward..YES!!! I'm really happy as I wasn't expecting to get it today, so it's taken me 6 weeks but I have now lost a stone which I'm really happy about. I know I won't lose this much next week but that's fine, I'm totally back on track which is great and now need to carry on feeling better as I continue my weight loss journey to become a Mum and a healthy me!!

Well done

Thanks Cazdav!

Well done. Stay positive!

This may or may not resonate with you but the key to success is to try not to think in terms of ' days off plan and days on plan... '

It's taken me years to accept that and it's been the key to keeping the weight off for me. I was 15 stone 2 in 2011 and I've maintained at 9 stone ish for nearly two years now - although it's hard for me!

Three meals a day, moderate carbs, no stream of snacks and no alcohol ( if you can manage that) and the weight will drop off.

Best of luck

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