Honesty and Weight

[Woozle01]

What i really like about finding this site is that I can be honest and what I am which is so refreshing.

I am not saying that I am a dishonest person but the one area that I have never been honest about is my weight and my size. When other people talk to me about weight and size I always say "I could do with losing a few pounds", I would die if my other half actually knew what I weigh which is probably more than him and he's more than 6ft, I always try to think of myself as a bit overweight, stout, I avoid discussions on clothes size, i refuse to try anything on if I'm with my OH as I'm ashamed that I might need a size 18 and on and on it goes.

On here I can admit what I am ...... I'M FAT. There I've said it. I've been greedy and now I'M FAT. I know some people have medical problems which make their weight difficult to control but I am just plain FAT from self indulgence and greed and being too lazy to walk anywhere.

I think I won't look big (no I mean FAT) if I wear a baggy top and ill-fitting trousers but it doesn't work. I am FAT and I don't have to hide it on here. I will probably still avoid acknowledgement of it at home and at work (well at least until I'm not so fat) but here I can strip away the nonsense and tell you all that I am a fat person and I'm trying to do something about it.

Sorry for the rant guys but I've been honest and admitted it and I feel so much better for not being afraid to admit it. And I don't feel alone with it anymore and I can do something about it if I really want to.

There we go .... fat person signing off..... hopefully slimmer person signing back on soon.

 

[babystar31]

I can totally relate to that. The only person who knows my true weight in my best friend and my mum. Id rather die than tell people im over 18stone LOL. Altho i think i carry it fairly well. My doctor weighed me before i had an operation last year and he was shocked at the scales...he thought i was about 3 stone lighter....i always seemed to get that reaction from previous diet consultants too. BUT either way, i do weigh that, i hate it...and i dotn want to weight this heavy forever....s were all here for the same reason i guess! Good luck! xx

 

[lou1978]

I would hate it if my OH knew that I was 16stone 10 when I started this diet. He is having a pre wedding health kick at the moment and has his weight on a post it on the fridge which I am edging closer to each week. I think he just assumes that I weigh less than him (he is 13 stone 6 and obviously blind).

The shame of it.

 

[Elvira]

My OH knows how much I weigh (even though I am still a good 3st heavier than him) but he doesn't care I have no problems telling my three best mates how much I weigh but they are all overweight too. I think if they were slim, it would be a different matter!!

 

[Starlight]

NOONE knows my weight. My mum does my weigh in but I put my toe over the stones and she only sees the lbs

Look forward to the day I can get on and not feel ashamed of it

 

[Elvira]

The way I see it, it's just numbers. People can see I am fat so they must know that I weigh a fair bit :sigh:

 

[Dietkitty]

I didn't tell my OH my start weight. Just that it was too much and more than he weighed! Then I was telling him my loss in pounds and didn't tell him my actual weight until I got under 13 stone. I've faced up to it now and told him exactly how much I had gained on holiday as soon as I weighed and am now proudly telling him how much of that I've already lost

 

[MoodyMare]

Love this post! I can relate to it so much!

Im really looking forward to being able to openly discuss losing weight here and not scared to tell anyone what my start weight is! I find in real life if i try and talk to anyone about it (and not in an attention seeking like i want them to say it way) before i have even finished me sentence i get "oh shh your not fat!" except i obviously am! haha and i have a BMI to prove it! x

 

[Woozle01]

Hi Guys

It's nice discover that I'm not alone. Last week at week where everyone is slimmer and thinner and younger than me someone decided to get the scales out and hold a mass, public weigh-in for everyone in the team. I was mortified - I came over all hot and panicky - I knew I couldn't do it and bear the shame. I went and hid until it was all over - rushed off, thighs chaffing! I thought about sitting refusing to do it but hiding from it all seemed to be a better thing to do and it was not as likely to draw so much attention to me as having that "oh go on" "no I don't want to" conversation that would have taken place.

Having thought about it now I think it was a bit unfair and certainly humiliating (well for me in any event). I'd never suggest doing something like that.

It's a crazy world where the size we are and the weight we are seems to matter more than how decent a person you are.

I'll be glad to be able to not have to hide away and feel ashamed all the time though. In the past I've thought that I'm happy enough so why worry but the truth is I haven't , been happy and the fat, jolly person is just a myth - certainly in my case. When I was in my early 20's I was overweight and communal changing rooms were everywhere at that time - if I wanted to try something on I'd dread going to the changing rooms in case they were communal. I think that's why I ended up with a wardrobe of clothes that I was never able to wear because I ended up never trying anything on. Then when they didn't fit I was too ashamed to take them back to get my money back and tell them they were too small. I always wanted knee length boots but even when Mum would say "try them on I'll buy them for you" I wouldn't as I knew that they would never zip up over my calfs.

I was a bit peckish when I started writing this but sitting here recalling past humiliations and those same feelings rushing to the surface of how I felt then I'm not hungry anymore. Roll-on this evening and getting through another Exante day! X

 

[PrettyPaula]

i love this thread

i am honest with close people about what i weigh as it does shock people, i dont look like i weigh what i weigh if that makes sense?

i will probably never weigh less than hubby as he is underweight and trying to gain (half a stone in 3 years) what a git.

bottom line, i dont CARE what i weigh, i care about inches. and clothes size and how they look.

 

[Starlight]

Hi Guys

It's nice discover that I'm not alone. Last week at week where everyone is slimmer and thinner and younger than me someone decided to get the scales out and hold a mass, public weigh-in for everyone in the team. I was mortified - I came over all hot and panicky - I knew I couldn't do it and bear the shame. I went and hid until it was all over - rushed off, thighs chaffing! I thought about sitting refusing to do it but hiding from it all seemed to be a better thing to do and it was not as likely to draw so much attention to me as having that "oh go on" "no I don't want to" conversation that would have taken place. ]

Thats shocking theres NO WAY you should be put through that at work. Id have refused point blank, regardless of my weight