issues with my eyes/head

ellie1969

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does anyone else have these issues ?? in the way that when you see your reflection in a mirror or shop window and in pictures that you still see the same size person as before:cry: i know im a lot slimmer but in my vision im not ... my clothes are hanging off me and im 4 sizes down in clothes but in pictures that were taken when i was down at a friends in november i still see a massively obese person ... no-one else sees her just me !!
 
hi i have the same problem a lost nearly 5dtone and still seen the other me its horrible to feel like that then a got really poorly and put quite a bit bk on and a look bak and think there was nothing rong with me xxx
 
I think when you've been carrying weight and have had little confidence with how you look, it can take a while for your brain to catch up with how you're looking now. Although your self-confidence is still lagging behind, I have no doubt that it will soon catch up. You look fabulous and you need to tell yourself that sometimes and congratulate yourself on how well you've done. You lost that weight, not someone else, and you've done amazingly well.

If your clothes are hanging off you, can you invest in some new ones? And what about a new haircut? Little things that will give you a much needed boost and a brand new start.

Keep your chin up and most importantly the good work :)

Cheryl x
 
New clothes really really seemed to help - as did a really great new bra from a specialist shop - Bravissimo ftw!
 
The first time I put on a pair of jeans that actually fit is when I started really "seeing" I had lost weight, I think you should get some new clothes. I still feel big, but accept that after being overweight for 7 years it's going to take me a while to realise I'm not. Go shopping and feel proud of your loss. :)
 
I got a lot of new stuff at xmas ... jeans new tops etc but wear a lot of the old stuff daily as i am usually covered in mud and smell of horse poo LOL
 
I have the very same issues Ellie so much so Ive been told off :( today. Ive worn a slightly fitted sweater and I can see all my shape its weird but Im still thinking in overweight mode. I mentioned to a friend/colleague was it too much and was she sure I looked ok. She kindly gave me a good talking too which has done me some good. I think thats why I cant believe ive lost so much weight because I honestly dont see me a slim person. Odd!
I do need to buy new clothes the problem is I dont really know what suits me anymore as Im programmed into wearing black, navy, grey (I do love grey) shapeless cardigans etc. I think I will be better when summer comes well ........... hope so. My daughter has a window first week in February for her Mummy to go shopping!!!
 
its weird isnt it :( .... i need to put some of my bigger clothes on again and take pics then post them all over the house so i can see the difference. The tunic top i was wearing when i was at my friends I was never able to wear when i bought it as it was far too small.... when i wore it at hers it was too big .... the leggings I used to have to wear my knickers over the top as they rolled down over my flab.... they dont do that now and ive bought smaller pair but I still cant see a thin person.... even my son said i was talking nonsense
 
I know wierd - the sweater I wore today for work I bought last winter I honestly looked like Michelin Man in it no way could I have come down stairs in it let alone go to work!

So why do we do it Ellie its a mystery.
 
Its like anorexia in reverse when you are fat- when I was a size 26/28 I honestly did not see myself the size I was and even in photos I would kid myself that it wasn't that bad- now I have lost weight I can see the size I was back in August and it shocks me - now when I look at myself in the mirror I am over critical because I know I had blinkers on before and would see what I wanted to see. The other day our horse physio took a video of the horses and I am in it and I was shocked that I didn't look huge!!! Hard to see yourself change and accept it too!
 
Me too! I have been picking out the baggy styles and size 18's and then realising that actually, i'm a bit smaller now. The safety pin has been deployed again this week, cos I still haven't got to grips with weeding out the too big work clothes. I think I'm scared I will wake up and be huge again - daren't throw them out - 'just in case I need them again'. Potty really! I know I've cracked it, just need to convince the pudgy girl inside.
 
its weird isnt it :( .... the leggings I used to have to wear my knickers over the top as they rolled down over my flab....

Thought there was only me with knicker issues - LOL

We will all slowly get there girls, sure summer will make a big difference because we will feel so much better and more likely to wear lovely summer clothes. Might just even buy a dress or skirt these legs havent been out for years!

- wonder if there are any courses running at my college for self-confidence? If your like me I just hate fuss and attention being focused on me. But Ive always been like that fat or thin :(
 
I always thought i looked ok too trudy till i seen myself in pics ... now i still think i look the same like my brain is programmed to see thats how i am... i only have face height mirrors in the house and have never had a full legnth mirror for 8 years... maybe its time to buy one and start seeing what im really like again. im a bit like gwyneth paltro in the shallow hal film with jack black.... only in reverse , i thought i was ok but i was huge lol ... i wake up everymorning and feel my ribs and pelvis bones to make sure its not all been some crazy dream :p
 
Get yourself a full length mirror - it does help! Then put on the old clothes and look how much they hang off you - then put on the clothes that fit properly and see the difference :) Invest in some new undergarments - my too big underpants make me laugh now when I pull them out of the drawer - I really need to throw them out, but I haven't been able to yet. I've also got a pair of yoga pants that are way too huge that I just won't give up, even though I can pull them up to my armpits now -- I get an ego boost by doing silly things like that when no one else is around. I also do the 15 minute reality check after hubby and kid have left - this is the time when I check all the bones and flab while naked in the full-length mirror. I spent so long avoiding looking at myself that I want to make sure I don't do that again - so I make myself look at the back and front and sides so that I am creating a realistic self-image. I know I am still a slightly overweight, flabby, middle-aged woman - but I also know I am no longer the morbidly obese woman that I was at this time last year!
 
Sander - you beat me to the full length mirror recommendation. "In my previous (aka fat) life", if my hair and make up were fixed, I was sorted and ready to go (in some form of "tent" dress or skirt - never trousers!). When I was perhaps halfway through my big weight loss, I bought a mirror and was horrified at my size then, having already lost five stone, because I don't think I truly "saw" myself before.

Now, some nine (cripes) years since that initial loss (ok having regained some!!!), I still... yes ladies still... look sideways in shop windows as I pass wondering who that person is before my brain clicks in.

It really is peculiar!
 
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Full length mirror is a good plan I think - I have one after years of only having face mirrors - was laughing Ellie about feeling your bones - I do that every morning too when I wake up and congratulate myself on another great Dukan day - I have to do this cos this honestly is the first diet I have been totally consistent on for months - nearly 5 months for us Ellie and I am damn proud of myself!!!! I am amazed that I can feel ribs and hip bones in the morning and that when I lie down and breath in (really hard!!!!!) I can achieve a relatively sucked in tummy!!! LOL!
 
Thanks supertonic - It's been quite a year. I love coming on minimins because there are so may of us that are going through the same adjustments to our self-image and behaviors. This thread about the head and eyes was great one, for years I denied that I had gotten fat - I got rid of the full-length mirrors, avoided all pictures, and kept myself dressed and covered up. Then when I tried to lose weight and failed a few times I gave up and decided to "embrace my curves" hah - and gained another 50 pounds. I think the key is really being honest with yourself about where you are at health-wise and in your choices.
 
Having lost 40lbs on Dukan in the last year, ive been reminded tonight that I still need to update parts of my wardrobe.. after trying to do aqua Zumba in my size 16 bikini with a size 12-14 body, I ended up flashing half of the other participants when my top kept flying up & my bottoms kept dropping down - managed to tie a knot in the bottoms & soldiered on "one-handed"!!
 
He He! Adds new meaning to zumba party, eh?!

I had a serious clear out clothes wise this weekend and got rid of the giant size stuff. I also found a really nice suit I must have hung on because it was designer stuff, max mara and blow me, it fits!! 10 years old, size 14, and it fits! Amazing. Still feels pretty cool..

The other curious thing that happened today was someone actually said that I must be naturally slim and how I didn't put on weight - excuse me? I just lost over 2 stone and Ive never had a problem ... My clothes tell a different story. I guess people don't really notice much.
 
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