My C's Weight

[ailly]

This has been niggling at me the last few weeks at wi and I was wondering if anyone could shed some light.

My C is a lovely lady that, like everyone in our group, has some weight to loose. I really like that she is not super skinny etc but I do find myself how she is getting on with her weight loss journey, or if she is even on one as she doesn't look like she's lost any in the 2 months I've been there.

So I was wondering if as a c you had to be following sw, I would've presumed so...

Interested to hear your thoughts on this!

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[kingleds]

To be a C you have to have followed SW. That doesn't mean you have to e following it now, just that you have to have followed it at some point, as a paying member.

She might be at her target weight. Bear in mind SW allow you to set your own target weight, which doesn't have to be what other people consider to be a 'normal weight'

Or she could be struggling herself. They aren't perfect! I

 

[kerryathome]

you do have to be a SW member to be a consultant, however its not a magic wand to make you lose weight, they have the same struggles as we do with the extra pressure of people looking at them and wondering why they're not losing weight.

xx

 

[kerryathome]

one of the consultants that stands in for ours has lost 13.5 stone but she still has a way to go, but what motivation! someone lost 13.5 stone!! x

 

[kingleds]

one of the consultants that stands in for ours has lost 13.5 stone but she still has a way to go, but what motivation! someone lost 13.5 stone!! x

That's amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ailly]

you do have to be a SW member to be a consultant, however its not a magic wand to make you lose weight, they have the same struggles as we do with the extra pressure of people looking at them and wondering why they're not losing weight.

xx

I understand and appreciate that, I just wondered if they had to be following sw. And since she must have given what you ladies have said, then I would love to hear her story...

I find listening to others in it really motivating, whether they've lost 5lbs or 5 stone....

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[kingleds]

I understand and appreciate that, I just wondered if they had to be following sw. And since she must have given what you ladies have said, then I would love to hear her story...

I find listening to others in it really motivating, whether they've lost 5lbs or 5 stone....

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I think a good C should share their experiences with you defo. Mine is brilliant in this respect. I know that if I say something like 'I can't get used to not being fat' she totally gets its, unlike my hubby who thinks I'm mental x

 

[*Emsie*]

This has been niggling at me the last few weeks at wi and I was wondering if anyone could shed some light.

My C is a lovely lady that, like everyone in our group, has some weight to loose. I really like that she is not super skinny etc but I do find myself how she is getting on with her weight loss journey, or if she is even on one as she doesn't look like she's lost any in the 2 months I've been there.

So I was wondering if as a c you had to be following sw, I would've presumed so...

Interested to hear your thoughts on this!

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Does she not share her own experiences with the group? C's often have before and after pics to show etc Maybe it is because she is struggling a bit herself at the moment

 

[downtownsuzie]

Our consultant shares her stories with us.

She was saying that she picked up a 'light choices' cheesecake as a treat for Mother's Day (usually serves 6) - she said no way in hell would it have ever been divided into 6, usually she and her husband would have half each and was horrified to find out that it had 52.5 syns! She said that she wasn't prepared to give up 3 days worth of Crunchies just for half of a cheesecake! Haha

I love that she's honest with us and it makes us realise that she is just another one of us. She's been a consultant for 17 years, but isn't what most would consider 'slim'. She said that for the past 18 months she's been struggling with the same 8lbs.

She puts so much into her groups though and you can really see it. You can tell that she loves her job and while she's supporting us, we also support her. We've almost got Gold group status again

 

[ailly]

No she hasn't shared at all, though I've only been there 2 months. I think it would be good if they or a target member told their story to new members during their initial meeting....

I suppose I'm just so nosey. I love learning about peoples stories.

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[bevhunter1986]

It says in the advert that when I wanted to apply recently that you have to continue to be a paying member of sw as long as your s consultant. It doesn't stimulate that you still have to be following the plan but you must have done it.

I presume the paying membership ensures she gets access to up to date information for class members etc x

 

[Shirleen]

But again if she'd set her target at say 12 stone and she was that she may not want to lose anymore than that! As Kingleds said SW let you choose your own Target. You may feel she should be losing more weight but actually it's her decision.

 

[ailly]

She is a larger lady, so when I first started I did assume that as weeks progressed I would also see her lose too (i didn't know about setting own target).

If she's at target and happy, then she could still share her story couldn't she...

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[ailly]

Similarly if she's at target and not happy then she could use our group for support, though she might actually go to her own sw group...

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[*Emsie*]

She is a larger lady, so when I first started I did assume that as weeks progressed I would also see her lose too (i didn't know about setting own target).

If she's at target and happy, then she could still share her story couldn't she...

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Larger than who/what?
She could but maybe now is not a good time for her. If it is something that is important to you as a member of her group maybe you should try and find time to chat with her and ask her about how she found/finds sw or join another group where the c is more forthcoming about their journey?

 

[ailly]

Larger than who/what?
She could but maybe now is not a good time for her. If it is something that is important to you as a member of her group maybe you should try and find time to chat with her and ask her about how she found/finds sw or join another group where the c is more forthcoming about their journey?

Larger than healthy BMI (and as a healthcare professional, I do no the downside to using BMI, however it can be a useful tool)

Good idea about way to broach the subject with her.

It's not something that would make me change though, I love my C and my group. It's not that important, but something that would improve my, as well as others journeys possibly...

Ny issue isn't with the weight someone is, its about sharing your weight journey, be that loosing or gaining...

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[*Emsie*]

I set my own target at a unhealthy bmi. My reasons for this were partly because of vanity strangely enough because unfortunately due to being very overweight for a long time my body will never be a bikini body and I feel if I lose too much more my skin etc will actually look worse to me and upset me more than figures on a chart/scale.
Also because there is excess skin this could be adding to the numbers when there's not too much more than I am doing that could be done about it. I also do a fair amount of exercise now so my bmi could be affected by that.
I had considered becoming a consultant myself and I had thought that because people may think that I wasn't what they considered a healthy weight that I would probably have to explain myself from time to time. It is very personal to me though and after all my hard work at losing all the weight I lost I try not to focus on the negative side of it and enjoy the fact that I am a lot healthier and fitter and overall do look better if only with my clothes on.
Maybe your c is struggling herself at the moment and although it is part of her role to have an empathy with her group from her own experiences with sw perhaps the sharing of her story isn't that easy for her. Has she never said how much she has lost etc ?
If you love your c there must be some good things about her?