off the wagon

[cat yoyo greaves]

Ok so for the past week I have just not had my heart in it and have comfort eaten A LOT of crap I've had major issues in my marriage and not slept much as a result of that and my toddlers non sleeping.
I've put on 5 lb in a week and am really struggling getting the willpower to get back on it any ideas on how to get out of this major blip would be greatly appreciated I'm so unhappy right now and have noone I can really turn too

 

[Leapfrog]

Firstly, sending you hugs for the way you feel right now. I do hope you find someone to turn to - maybe a buddy on here?
At the moment you seem overwhelmed by several issues at the same time - your marriage problems, your toddler's sleeping issues, your eating habits. So you need to find a way to manage them. Your eating habits are 100% under your control and you need to take back that control. You have done so well so far. perhaps you need some acknowledgement of this to make continuing seem worthwhile?

Once you stop feeling bad about one part of your life, hopefully you can gain the confidence to tackle the other issues. Work out what you can change and how to go about it. Could your toddler's sleep issues be linked to the problems in the marriage? Are you arguing in front of him, for example? Could he subconsciously be absorbing the bad atmosphere? Can you talk to OH about it? Maybe he's not aware of the issues, or not aware that the issues have become so great for you? A marriage involves two people, so maybe try to discuss it sensibly.

I'm sure others will offer some good advice and put things much better than I can, but I didn't want to read and run. I've been in your position and know it is hard when you feel you have nobody to turn to.

 

[l0v3child]

Sending you lots of hugs and support sweetie xxxxx take your time, have some thinking time whilst your toddler naps during day and maybe that will lead to some planning. Please dont beat yourself up xxx

 

[cat yoyo greaves]

Thankyou both I have talked with my hubby and its gonna take some time to heal this hiccup I am trying to take control and get my diet back on track and so far today I'm being good we don't argue in front of our son he just generally is a crap sleeper always has been ....I think everything has just got on top of me

 

[l0v3child]

Bless you. Its good that you've talked to hubby to try and resolve your hiccup. Just remember theres a solution to everything, and everything needs time, just breathe and if meant to be it will find itself right Take care of yourself and do things that usually cheer you up, its hard to feel even an ounce of cheer when its relationship troubles (been there, got the massive cheating ******* tshirt!!!...not saying this is your problem, but it was mine!) but things will get better i promise!

xxxx

 

[peacelily]

Hi cat wondered where you had gone as haven't seen you on here for a bit. Sad to hear that things not going so well. And like others have said been there too so know how difficult it is to be in control of eating (and/or drinking) when things at home are crappy. And if you're getting no sleep it just makes it worse. If things have gone off the boil a bit re SW maybe just sit down and plan the next day rather than try to go too far ahead and if you make something make a bit more in case you don't fancy cooking the following day. Buy in some low syn treats and just use up all your syns every day. Even if you get STS at the mo you'll feel better than if it starts to creep up. As others have said just be kind to yourself and treat yourself in non-food ways with relaxing bath, DVD if you can concentrate or just get the little one into the buggy or car and go for a long walk or drive. Often helps me just to get out even if it's raining. You said you have nobody to turn to but just keep posting here and hopefully you will get through this blip. I so hope it starts to feel better soon. Sending big hugs x

 

[cat yoyo greaves]

Hi cat wondered where you had gone as haven't seen you on here for a bit. Sad to hear that things not going so well. And like others have said been there too so know how difficult it is to be in control of eating (and/or drinking) when things at home are crappy. And if you're getting no sleep it just makes it worse. If things have gone off the boil a bit re SW maybe just sit down and plan the next day rather than try to go too far ahead and if you make something make a bit more in case you don't fancy cooking the following day. Buy in some low syn treats and just use up all your syns every day. Even if you get STS at the mo you'll feel better than if it starts to creep up. As others have said just be kind to yourself and treat yourself in non-food ways with relaxing bath, DVD if you can concentrate or just get the little one into the buggy or car and go for a long walk or drive. Often helps me just to get out even if it's raining. You said you have nobody to turn to but just keep posting here and hopefully you will get through this blip. I so hope it starts to feel better soon. Sending big hugs x

I made a big tirimisu roulade last night to cheer me up .... It was uber tasty and 2 syns a slice

 

[peacelily]

I made a big tirimisu roulade last night to cheer me up .... It was uber tasty and 2 syns a slice

Wow that sounds yummy. I don't like cakes much but I do love tiramisu. Hope today has been an ok day for you and if not, well at least there's a new one on its way!

 

[cat yoyo greaves]

Wow that sounds yummy. I don't like cakes much but I do love tiramisu. Hope today has been an ok day for you and if not, well at least there's a new one on its way!

I'm getting there now and back on track dreading what damage I've done at weigh in tonight

 

[peacelily]

I'm getting there now and back on track dreading what damage I've done at weigh in tonight

Well it's just one of those line under it situations. You've been under so much pressure think you need to just give yourself this one. Good luck