Really struggling

[Kelstar]

So today was day 3 of my restart - again!! And all was going great. But then I get home from work and my oh has bought loads And loads of sweets for halloweeners. Despite the fact that I told him that I had not bought anything on purpose as I didn't think I could cope w having it in the house. Not only did he bring it into the house but he opened it all up and left it all sitting out in a big bowl on kitchen counter - not even in a cupboard where I could avoid it!

I am so angry and feel like I am getting no support. So of course it's all I can think about all night. I should have just thrown it out but I didn't and I ended up cheating and eating some and then made matters worse by thinking stuff it and having a done toast.

. Am so angry with myself. So angry that I have to start all over again! I have never cheated and had an unplanned break before. Do u think it will take another 3 days to get into ketosis?

Was always so sure before that I could do this but now I feel like such a failure.

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[fatwelly]

Hi Kelstar,
Our other halves don't seem to think do they? He probally thought that he was doing a good deed since it's Halloween. Not to worry, we have all given into temptation at some point on our weight loss journeys. Just start again tomorrow honey and don't beat yourself up about it. I would not have been able to resist the sweeties either. Good luck for tomorrow. Be proud, you have lost an amazing amount of weight already. I bet you look fabulous. lol.:wow:

 

[GeMzY]

Brush yourself down... tomorrow is a new day!! you have done amazing so far!! there will always be temptations even more so when we reach maintaining its just life, you nibbled you didnt totally binge which is a good sign.

Dont beat yourself up (or your OH lol) smile & put it behind you

 

[Kelstar]

Thanks ladies! Think just venting has made me feel better already. No point dwelling on it just need to think positive and start again. I haven't failed until I stop trying. I am just always worried i have been overweight for do long and have so many failed diets behind me. Need to see it through this time

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[kellmo]

I take it your other half is man? As in a ridiculous, self centred creature? As in a species with empathy/understanding/common sense removed to make way for erections and football? Stupid fools they are!

Don't worry about the sweets, I've found they are the only 'food' I struggle to resist. My daughters went trick or treating last night and we had (an still have) a HUGE bowl of jelly, chocolate, lollipops and smarties sat in the hall calling my name. And then my auntie bought each of them one of those sweetie bouquet things that look like a bouquet of flowers, dozens and dozens of maoam, wham, chews, fizzers etc! Ahhhh! They're currently on my kitchen table :-(

Below is a list I keep on my phone of reasons why I do this VLCD. Each one had helped me lose the weight, particularly the 20 minute craving one. I made a deal with myself that when I wanted something I would read the list first and if. I still wanted it, I would. But I never have,

Here it is:-

Reasons why:-
CRAVINGS LAST 20 MINUTES. GET THROUGH EACH ONE, ONE AT A TIME.

Size 12 work trousers?
Fit into clothes.
Feel comfortable, happy, relaxed and not self conscious.
Clothes shopping will be fun again!
?? Andy.
Costing £30 a week, you can't give up.
Jeans and t-shirt
Black and silver monsoon dress. (NOW SOLD ON ENAY AS TOO BIG!)
Nothing tastes as good as thin feels?
Feeling proud, smug, sexy (remember that man in Asda?)
Not comparing myself to other women.
No leg rubbing in warm weather! ?
Won't dread photos of yourself.
Dancing, running, Zumba.
Edge hill student, Want to have self confidence.
Feel proud of myself
Compliments
Black size 14 dress (TOO BIG NOW!)
Beach in August!!
Under 11 stone, finally


you will feel the best you ever have in your entire life, so ask yourself this question; Is the 5 minutes you actually spend chewing and eating something worth not feeling fantastic?

What is 20 weeks out of 31 years? It's nothing, you'll be almost there.


How is it comfort when it makes you uncomfortable?

Every time I say no to food, I say YES to slim.
My stomach is not a dumping ground.


Ta dah!

So forget about the sweets, YOU need to do this, rely on nobody else, they'll never help you as much as you can help yourself!

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[Kelstar]

Thanks Kellmo. That is a great list - very inspirational. You are completely right you can only rely on yourself. i know I need to be responsible for my own weight loss but I just cant believe he did that after me expressly telling him I was struggling. I mean we dont even have kids there was no need to have any sweets in the house. I know he says that he thought he was doing a nice thing but sick of no one ever listening to me grr arrgh. plus he slopped off to bed and left me to hand all the sweets out. I think I need to stop worring about waste. I should have binned them the minute I saw them and got rid of the temptation. I need to stop that little voice that says - that is so wasteful! Isnt that how I got fat in the first place? - you have to clear your plate doesnt matter if you are full.

Can't imagine how you coped with all the sweeties you are so strong! and you cant even complain when they are the childrens. Well done hun

 

[kellmo]

No worries, we've all been in the same boat at some point and I've always had loads of help from the people on here. We all need a boost or a pointer and I'm always popping on here! (Usually just reading these days!)

I replaced food with this forum when I started and found it so useful, that and water!

The thing about wasting food was massive for me (I think it is for most people) but the comment about the stomach not being a rubbish bin really hit home, I used to clear plates (other people's too) so I didn't have to throw anything away. No more, i serve smaller portions and what's left gets put in the fridge, just a new habit I've picked up. The sweets are still on the table and I've given lots to my friend (so I spent £4 on them BUT I've spent an awful lot more on this VLCD and my new clothes so its no comparison really!)

Good luck, stay strong. Drink water (warm in this weather!)

Kellmo x x x

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