Hi Tipp, I've just been catching up as well. You're doing great getting back on track and fab news you've got help at work now too!
I read the post about your Grandson, and I just want to mention that it isn't necessarily the sentence you think it is. There are many who function well in society regardless. Indeed some find a niche that fits and manage to thrive. Some tech companies are actually actively recruiting people with Autism and ADHD because they know their brains work differently and they WANT the different ideas and thinking processes that these individuals can bring.
He sounds like a great kid, hold on to that and let him be who he is, I think too many people try to mould their kids and grandkids into what society would want, thinking they need to fit, but actually they are generally better being allowed to be different. To be loved just as they are (I know you will do that) We need to help them understand how to work alongside the rest of us, and we need to help the rest of us understand how to work alongside them. It's a two way thing that will gradually improve through time.
I know ADHD isn't the same, but knowing about it and learning about it, learning how to understand completely changed my relationship with my daughter. She was 13 by the time she was diagnosed and really I didn't think we would ever be close, we just couldn't get along. Her diagnosis and our learning and working to understand each other really changed things for both of us and we have a lovely relationship now, I'm really grateful.
I hope you get all the help you guys need to help him as soon as possible.