Why do I feel like it will never happen?

[Ms. Jedi]

Hi all. I am feeling a little less than hopeful at the moment. About a year ago, I lost track of everything I had worked for. I lost the plot even more when I realised my mother-in-law and her other daughter-in-law were going to SW and didn't think to ask me if I could join them. My MIL is ok with me but SIL is weird. It's like she hates me and wants to see me fail.

I realised I didn't have any support from them so 3 months ago I rejoined a different SW group and lost 1.5st so far. But I have made friends with a group of ladies who like to go out after weigh day and have dinner etc. The thing is,most of them are maintainers. I am struggling with willpower and the frustration that, had my MIL &SIL included me over a year ago, I might have been at my (or near my) goal weight like they are right now. It makes me sad and I feel hopeless.

My husband is no help. He suffers with depression and not the most supportive of men anyway. I have my kids and they seem to be the only ones who remind me of my goal. Having said that, I know it's up to me. But I am just hurt, you know? I am just feeling so cast-off and on my own. I will not say anything to the in-laws because SIL will make it all about her and I will be the villain again.

 

[Another Tracy]

Aww I'm sorry to hear your SIL and MIL didn't include you BUT you will have the satisfaction of knowing you found another SW group and that you will lose weight with or without their support. You have already lost 1½st so you are well on your way

I read somewhere on minimins that rewarding yourself with food is never a good idea, I don't do it, if I have had a good loss and I feel like giving myself a little treat I buy something small, a lipstick or magazine instead, maybe you could tell your SW friends that you are trying to not reward yourself with food and will skip dinner?

Good luck on your weight loss journey

you can do this

Tracy

 

[Ms. Jedi]

I read somewhere on minimins that rewarding yourself with food is never a good idea, I don't do it, if I have had a good loss and I feel like giving myself a little treat I buy something small, a lipstick or magazine

 

[Ms. Jedi]

I am on a tablet and am not sure how to use it! Lol. I quoted text then started writing mine and now it looks all like your text. Doh!

 

[Ms. Jedi]

Right. So I am only now a few pounds away from my Club 10. Weighing in at 9am today. Gosh I hope this day is good. Having a cup of decaf before my shower. I don't eat before my weigh-in so I better pack fruit and yogurt to eat at group.

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[Ms. Jedi]

Boooooo! 1/2 a pound on. And I thought I did so well. Poo!

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[Another Tracy]

it's so annoying isn't it when we have been good and stuck to plan and have an undeserved gain.

Keep at it and the club ten will be yours

Onwards and downwards

Tracy

 

[Ms. Jedi]

I just keep working at it. Need to maintain the positivity

 

[Ms. Jedi]

it's so annoying isn't it when we have been good and stuck to plan and have an undeserved gain.

Keep at it and the club ten will be yours

Onwards and downwards

Tracy

Thank you for this!