I go for my weigh in tonight. I am still about 2 stone off where I want to be. I go on holiday with my friends on July 4th (25 days time) - I have been total from Febuary 24th and have not cheated once. I skipped the milk week too. I discussed my options with my LLC and she suggested starting mangment/lite for afew weeks before I go away to build my strength back up and get my body used to food. Its Magaluf im going to! So I plan to have a good time, and come back straight to LL again. Its my birthday next wednesday and im in a difficult position. Im at the stage where everyone is relling me how I loom good, and that I should stop because I look ill. All my friends are out drinking this weekend, I would love to have a drink for my birthday. Im scared. Im in touching distance of being fit and healthy for my holidays and my mind starts playing thoughts to me. I really just want some tuna, I want to fit in. As I type this im sitting in my car relaxing on my dinner break at work. I need some advice..what does everyone think is best for me? SouldI begin to introduce food now? Help. (I hope my weight loss is good tonight) and sorry for the long message guys!
First of all, don't be scared.
It's only a stray thought, a moment of insecurity. We all feel that we're standing at a crossroads sometimes. Uncertainty is a b*tch.
Are you tempted because it's your birthday? Is it because you're feeling left out from the 'normal' and routine things that your mates and yourself used to do? Is it a feeling of deprivation (so the raging child ego state!)?
Remember that - if you don't go out drinkining for your birthday, it is NOT the last time going out with your mates will happen! There will be plenty of nights when you can go out and enjoy yourself later.
Right now you are in the weight loss stage - the critical point in your life where you are putting effort into who YOU want to be. To sabotage it now would almost say you don't care. Whats more important - a few beers and some tuna at this moment (it will be gone in a blink of an eye...) or YOUR LONGTERM HAPPINESS?
My boyfriend originally lost about 11 stone on Lighter Life and he never wavered once. His health and his appearance was so important to him. Because he never gave into it, he is now so much happier with himself. He is no longer fake happy. He goes out and enjoys life, he goes out with his friends and he never feels like he has to hide anything. He is free. He reached his goal and is enjoying the rewards of being strong. He had his moments of weakness and frustration, just like you did. He also went through the comments where people thought 'he looked ill". But you know why they thought he looked ill? It was because they were all still thinking about the "Big Jolly Lyle". Give it time, LL works so very quickly for men - so quickly that your friends and family have no time to respond and change their personal perception of you. Be patient and work through the bad comments. People are scared of change.
Be strong. You're nearly done.
Only a little bit more to go. Stick it out.
Life will meet you with open arms on the other side.
x
