Vixxster
Nojo on the YoYo
Hi Malaika
If I were to say that what you think about overweight people is a completely reasonable thing to say, I'd be doing you an injustice.
I do think that in the majority of cases, very very overweight people are people who are not very happy with their lives for one reason or another. You show me a size 24 woman (or man) who says she really loves herself and the way she looks and is completely at ease with her life, a woman for whom nothing is going, or has ever gone, wrong, and I'll show you a liar. Or at the very least, someone who is kidding themselves.
For most overweight people, the weight is a crux on which to hold their burdens, but at the same time adds to them. I was one of those grossy overweight people who you'd probably have liked to shake on the street as you walked on by. At 23 stone and a size 28 standing at just five foot four high, you couldn't exactly miss me. At the time I used to shrug off my weight, tell myself I was happy in my own company and didn't really care what other people thought, when of course I did care, and I was envious of all the pretty girls in their size 10 summer dresses and went home and cried every time someone shouted out abuse at me on the street.
My weight loss thus far has taken somewhere in the region of 3-plus years and it has been a hard hard process, not least because for a long long time, my main hobby and passion in life was eating, because I didn't have much else to live for. If I tell you that my weight issues stemmed from having an overweight father and mother, and that we lost my mother to cancer at age 11, which was just the first in a massive array of funerals I attended yearly from the age of 11 until around the age of 18 you may just see that someone who's overweight may have other things on their mind than how big they're getting and how dangerous it is. I by no means use these issues as an excuse as to why I ate, merely as the catalysts for it. If you saw me on the street at size 28 after hearing this, would you still want to shake me?
Food is a legal drug, and just like alcohol it can be misused. Alcohol will just kill you quicker. To put it into perspective for you, when I've lost all the weight I want to lose, I'll have lost more than you weighed at your maximum weight stated in your profile.
Now, I am 14 and a half stone, around Fern's starting weight. 9 stone later and I'm still a size 16 and I still have a long way to go. For you to say what you have done here today and for others on this board to tell you that you're not being nasty I think is extremely tolerant of them and I think you have been very lucky to not come away with a more harsh response from a lot of people as I don't think what you've said here today is pleasant in any way shape or form, although I have met naturally thin people who also feel this way and can understand why you think it, because to be so grossly overweight is an alien concept to you.
However, we are all different. I watch that Supersize v Superskinny because in those large people, I see me. I see me and feel proud of how far I've come and how good it will be for them now that they've taken a step towards being a healthier person. Dieting, or eating healthily in this manner on a show such as this is akin to Food Rehab. Would you want to shake a drug user who may be on their way from rehab or an alcoholic who's possibly on their way to an alcoholic's anonymous meeting? Then why, WHY would you want to grab and shake an overweight person and preach to them about how they should lose weight?
People who think this way should take a long hard look at themselves and consider the fact that not everyone is the same, people are different, and an overweight person really must WANT to do something about their weight, just as a drug user must really want to quit and an alcoholic must really want to get sober. Tolerance is a wonderful thing.
Here endeth my two bits.
If I were to say that what you think about overweight people is a completely reasonable thing to say, I'd be doing you an injustice.
I do think that in the majority of cases, very very overweight people are people who are not very happy with their lives for one reason or another. You show me a size 24 woman (or man) who says she really loves herself and the way she looks and is completely at ease with her life, a woman for whom nothing is going, or has ever gone, wrong, and I'll show you a liar. Or at the very least, someone who is kidding themselves.
For most overweight people, the weight is a crux on which to hold their burdens, but at the same time adds to them. I was one of those grossy overweight people who you'd probably have liked to shake on the street as you walked on by. At 23 stone and a size 28 standing at just five foot four high, you couldn't exactly miss me. At the time I used to shrug off my weight, tell myself I was happy in my own company and didn't really care what other people thought, when of course I did care, and I was envious of all the pretty girls in their size 10 summer dresses and went home and cried every time someone shouted out abuse at me on the street.
My weight loss thus far has taken somewhere in the region of 3-plus years and it has been a hard hard process, not least because for a long long time, my main hobby and passion in life was eating, because I didn't have much else to live for. If I tell you that my weight issues stemmed from having an overweight father and mother, and that we lost my mother to cancer at age 11, which was just the first in a massive array of funerals I attended yearly from the age of 11 until around the age of 18 you may just see that someone who's overweight may have other things on their mind than how big they're getting and how dangerous it is. I by no means use these issues as an excuse as to why I ate, merely as the catalysts for it. If you saw me on the street at size 28 after hearing this, would you still want to shake me?
Food is a legal drug, and just like alcohol it can be misused. Alcohol will just kill you quicker. To put it into perspective for you, when I've lost all the weight I want to lose, I'll have lost more than you weighed at your maximum weight stated in your profile.
Now, I am 14 and a half stone, around Fern's starting weight. 9 stone later and I'm still a size 16 and I still have a long way to go. For you to say what you have done here today and for others on this board to tell you that you're not being nasty I think is extremely tolerant of them and I think you have been very lucky to not come away with a more harsh response from a lot of people as I don't think what you've said here today is pleasant in any way shape or form, although I have met naturally thin people who also feel this way and can understand why you think it, because to be so grossly overweight is an alien concept to you.
However, we are all different. I watch that Supersize v Superskinny because in those large people, I see me. I see me and feel proud of how far I've come and how good it will be for them now that they've taken a step towards being a healthier person. Dieting, or eating healthily in this manner on a show such as this is akin to Food Rehab. Would you want to shake a drug user who may be on their way from rehab or an alcoholic who's possibly on their way to an alcoholic's anonymous meeting? Then why, WHY would you want to grab and shake an overweight person and preach to them about how they should lose weight?
People who think this way should take a long hard look at themselves and consider the fact that not everyone is the same, people are different, and an overweight person really must WANT to do something about their weight, just as a drug user must really want to quit and an alcoholic must really want to get sober. Tolerance is a wonderful thing.
Here endeth my two bits.
