Attractiveness

@pAmela - what detox is this? details please
 
Mandlegrot said:
@pAmela - what detox is this? details please
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Detox is just the natural body process of getting out positive charges that the body doesn't want (metabolic waste, toxins, parasites) The body needs plenty of negative charges to neutralize these poisons to release them from the body. They come from anti-oxidants and minerals, which come from raw plants. This is the one thing all diets have in common, they help the body detox.
I just wrote about this in the general forum. And you can see my video in my signature. It's so important to understand this basic fact of health:)
 
Which part? The negative charges part? Scientists have just found the common bond between all anti-oxidants, it is that they are negatively charged. Bad things for us like radiation is found to be positively charged. Getting garbage out is very complicated without a very healthy diet because everything has to be neutralized first. Garbage gets stored in fat cells making us gain weight.
 
Nope sorry... it still makes no sense. It sounds like bad science to me.

What exactly needs to be neutralized? What are negative charges? What poisons? Umm, 'parasites? '

Great - you believe in this stuff and it works for you. But it's making zero sense to me, and I consider myself well educated.
 
PamelaViktoria said:
Detox is just the natural body process of getting out positive charges that the body doesn't want (metabolic waste, toxins, parasites) The body needs plenty of negative charges to neutralize these poisons to release them from the body. They come from anti-oxidants and minerals, which come from raw plants. This is the one thing all diets have in common, they help the body detox.
I just wrote about this in the general forum. And you can see my video in my signature. It's so important to understand this basic fact of health:)
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As a vegan I find I 'detox' very well :) Drink lots of water, and watch your fiber intake to help you clear out.

For toxins a really good one is to drink Green clay in the morning (google it, the best stuff is from south of france - although you won't find it for consumption in the UK any more due to the Codex Alimentarus, again google it if your not aware!) Clay helps to 'bind' toxins as it works through your system and excretes it through your urine. Some people don't believe it, but I drank it for 6 months (1 week on, 1 week off) and was full of energy, woke up good in the mornings, clear skin etc. Now its a pig to get hold of decent stuff and it costs a lot, but I really felt the difference. As someone who has to take a lot of medication I worry about crap sitting about in my body, it didn't seem to effect my meds but i used to take them an hour or so after the clay so they had all day to enter the bloodstream.

Check out the Alkaline diet too if you're interested - I don't subscribe to it 100% but I do beleive it to an extent and try to work towards a more alkaline based diet.
 
Mandlegrot said:
As a vegan I find I 'detox' very well :) Drink lots of water, and watch your fiber intake to help you clear out.

For toxins a really good one is to drink Green clay in the morning (google it, the best stuff is from south of france - although you won't find it for consumption in the UK any more due to the Codex Alimentarus, again google it if your not aware!) Clay helps to 'bind' toxins as it works through your system and excretes it through your urine. Some people don't believe it, but I drank it for 6 months (1 week on, 1 week off) and was full of energy, woke up good in the mornings, clear skin etc. Now its a pig to get hold of decent stuff and it costs a lot, but I really felt the difference. As someone who has to take a lot of medication I worry about crap sitting about in my body, it didn't seem to effect my meds but i used to take them an hour or so after the clay so they had all day to enter the bloodstream.

Check out the Alkaline diet too if you're interested - I don't subscribe to it 100% but I do beleive it to an extent and try to work towards a more alkaline based diet.
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I love clay too. I use green clay to wash my face (my skin is really sensitive). I drink it as well:) The thing that worries me about it is, I've read that if you take a clay bath, it can plug up your plumbing, Do you think it may sit around in your colon?
 
PamelaViktoria said:
I love clay too. I use green clay to wash my face (my skin is really sensitive). I drink it as well:) The thing that worries me about it is, I've read that if you take a clay bath, it can plug up your plumbing, Do you think it may sit around in your colon?
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Not heard of that, and I cannae see how? I think you'd have to be very rich to have that much clay in your bath to block you up, and whoever wrote that needs to recap on how to sit properly!!
 
i agree with TraceyGWill. Confidence is more attractive than physical appearance in many cases. So it really all comes down to how you carry yourself but it does not hurt when you notice more people checking you out. The two go hand in hand it seems. Overall I would say that honestly I believe at a lower weight or higher fitness level more people are physically attracted to you. I used to be in much better shape and I definitely have noticed that not as many women appeared interested in me.
 
Ive been everywhere from a size 8 to an 18...... I find that when i loose weight i do get more attention... However this is not always good attention, my friends call me a serial monogonist (however you spell it lol) and i always seem to go for relationships rather than one night stands... I have never found weight to be a problem in being in a relationship... But i defo get treated different on nights out and feel more unfomfortable with my thinner friends
 
I'm now at the upper-end of my weight spectrum, but having been both (and I'm aiming to get back down to a slimmer, trimmer me!) I can honestly say that I have more male attention NOW than I did when I was slimmer. Maybe it's just the guys around here, but I find I struggle very little to attract guys now, but I can't keep them. Whereas when I was skinnier, I'd struggle to find someone but when I did, he'd stick around a long time.
 
Jenna88 said:
I've lost over 3.5 stone, going from obese to healthy and I still can't get a dog to bark at me never mind a fella. It's horrible as I thought losing weight would hopefully make me more attractive. Guess ill find someone eventually ...I hope haha!
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I was looking at your before and after pics last week - and would say that you were pretty lovely before and stunning now - these fellas need to get their eyes testing!
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I think most people are pretty shallow, and lets be honest no-one is going to stop a galloping horse to look at someone who appears to make no effort or have any self esteem ( and I think that's the biggy).

I also think people who know you don't actually pay that much attention to what you look like, so then ones sparkling personality will win out!

I'm divorced now but married in a size 24 and felt gorgeous all day - I look at the photos 19 years later and still love them.

I think dating is always going to more difficult for you if overweight, because people do judge, whatever we'd like to think. But confidence and a smile will probably win fair lad or lady.

Good luck xx
 
I cant say ive noticed a difference ,Fat or skinny i still have no confidence .My partner still loves me either way but its my own feelings .Even when i was at my slimiest i still compared myself to others ,not pretty enough or clever enough ect .I know i need to work on self acceptance and self confidence .
 
" comparison is the thief of joy"
such a true saying!
xxxx
 
It took me a long time to accept that on the whole most people are shallow. I know there are men out there that prefer larger women and find them more attractive than slimmer women, unfortunately as much as I would have loved to meet a guy like that when I was younger I didn't. Most of the men I know are lovely, but that doesn't mean they find large or larger women attractive, they would never be so rude as to come out and say it (most people wouldn't) but its obvious from their dating history or the sort of offhand comments I often hear them making amongst themselves.

My own personal experience as a large woman is that until I lost a significant amount of weight in my 20's I was pretty much invisible to the opposite sex. I am not saying its right and in a perfect world my mid 20's self would have been inundated with offers because I was outgoing, fun, kind, funny. I may have been big but I took care to be perfectly groomed, weekly manicures and pedicures, great cut and colour at expensive salons and nice clothes, I couldn't afford to pick up something in primark and go out with bedhead hair like my mates because being larger than average I just looked sloppy and not effortlessly casual like my friends. Men liked being my friend, apparently I was easy to talk to and they could have a laugh with me but they still chose to ask my mates out on dates.

It wasn't until I started a vlcd and lost a significant amount of weight that I finally accepted that a lot of people are shallow and that it didn't matter how perfect my nails or glossy my hair and how perfect my makeup was, they just couldn't see past the fat. When I lost the weight, the same blokes that wanted to be my mates wanted to date me, I'm no great beauty by any stretch of the imagination but all of a sudden you'd think I had morphed into supermodel with the amount of attention I got. This should have made me happy, but it didn't, I felt sad for the old me who used to try so hard to get the very same people to notice her that were now knocking on my door or texting me and also v angry that I lived in a society where I was invisible as a woman unless I looked a certain way. It really messed with my head for a long time.

Now, in my 30's and 2 children and relationship with a lovely man later, I am trying to lose weight so I can stay fit and healthy for my children, so that I can still run around after them without getting out of breath or having to sit out. My husband loves me regardless of my weight, but does he fancy me more when I am slimmer, most definitely.
 
mamagruffalo said:
It took me a long time to accept that on the whole most people are shallow. I know there are men out there that prefer larger women and find them more attractive than slimmer women, unfortunately as much as I would have loved to meet a guy like that when I was younger I didn't. Most of the men I know are lovely, but that doesn't mean they find large or larger women attractive, they would never be so rude as to come out and say it (most people wouldn't) but its obvious from their dating history or the sort of offhand comments I often hear them making amongst themselves.

My own personal experience as a large woman is that until I lost a significant amount of weight in my 20's I was pretty much invisible to the opposite sex. I am not saying its right and in a perfect world my mid 20's self would have been inundated with offers because I was outgoing, fun, kind, funny. I may have been big but I took care to be perfectly groomed, weekly manicures and pedicures, great cut and colour at expensive salons and nice clothes, I couldn't afford to pick up something in primark and go out with bedhead hair like my mates because being larger than average I just looked sloppy and not effortlessly casual like my friends. Men liked being my friend, apparently I was easy to talk to and they could have a laugh with me but they still chose to ask my mates out on dates.

It wasn't until I started a vlcd and lost a significant amount of weight that I finally accepted that a lot of people are shallow and that it didn't matter how perfect my nails or glossy my hair and how perfect my makeup was, they just couldn't see past the fat. When I lost the weight, the same blokes that wanted to be my mates wanted to date me, I'm no great beauty by any stretch of the imagination but all of a sudden you'd think I had morphed into supermodel with the amount of attention I got. This should have made me happy, but it didn't, I felt sad for the old me who used to try so hard to get the very same people to notice her that were now knocking on my door or texting me and also v angry that I lived in a society where I was invisible as a woman unless I looked a certain way. It really messed with my head for a long time.

Now, in my 30's and 2 children and relationship with a lovely man later, I am trying to lose weight so I can stay fit and healthy for my children, so that I can still run around after them without getting out of breath or having to sit out. My husband loves me regardless of my weight, but does he fancy me more when I am slimmer, most definitely.
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wonderfully said!
i also agree, you kind of feel like your old self wasnt good enough and its damaging to your mental health.
i am also now just getting healthy and slimmer for mine and my child's sake, not to get attention, as you say your OH loves you whatever you look like xxxxxxx
 
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