Big Boys Need Love Too!
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Fattyfattyboomboom
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so were you planning on moving to america then jenn? as in, since when you got married?
hope you all have excellent days
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hey there ploppy!!
Glad to hear at least there was some movement.On the america thing. We have always planned to move back over there. More comfortable, I can be near my family, OH loves it and loves the heat. And my LU can grow up with cousins and other family members and not just us and his nana. But unfortunately for us...she is very much a burden on us. He is 54 and you would think the woman was 76. She acts as though she can do nothing for herself. She is on income support becausee ( in theory) she is not able to work. Which I think she could, at the very least, do a small job. We support her. She lives in OUR other house, the house us full of OUR things, I am constantly giving her food, because she can't control her finances and will go hungry otherwise. We've taken her on the occasional holiday. Have let her live with us on the occasions she need to. Given her money...helpped her get jobs, paid for her to move out and have a place of her own, Moved her our of an abusive boyfriends house and let her live here with us for 6 months with no contributions. It p*sses me off!! We have to have our lives to lead but they always revolve around her. my OH is an only child and the only other relative she has other then two pratically dead great auntie and uncle in manchester. SO , for now we are here until she either dies, or they change the rules on immigrations in the US. Besides if we just up and moved, she would do something silly to herself and my OH (of course- as to be expected) would not be able to live with that. So life is on hold.:cry:
But other than that...I am happy....hahaha
Fattyfattyboomboom
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tyn,
silence got there before I could but those are the places my OH thought of too. The only other places would be to get them from america. But if I am being honest comps are so cheap these days even laptops, that if you get the base for what you need and just get the extras on top it would be cheaper than starting from complete scratch.
Gem....sounds like you had an interesting time. Never had a whispa. I think I did see them years ago. But being as I am not a huge huge chocolate fan, I probably never noticed what they were about. Besides I am more of a dark chocolate girl, if chocolate is available. I am one of those, only have a square or two and then put it away for a month before having more. But cheese....now that is my weak spot. You offer me some cheese...and I will bit your arm off!! hahaha
Well I am hopefully going to get the stuff done today i never managed to do yesterday. I was too busy looking at schools, for both me and the LU. Trying to make some plans. Need to go through LU's room today and pic some clothes I am going to sell on ebay. There is no point in my keeping them all. Some are stained ( food of course) some are small now...and the rest I may keep. I always buy him so many clothes that he never wears them all. Plus if I have another son, I don't want all his clothes to be hand-me-downs. It would help get rid of some clutter in his room. Plus...he has books all over. ( messy boy)
silence got there before I could but those are the places my OH thought of too. The only other places would be to get them from america. But if I am being honest comps are so cheap these days even laptops, that if you get the base for what you need and just get the extras on top it would be cheaper than starting from complete scratch.
Gem....sounds like you had an interesting time. Never had a whispa. I think I did see them years ago. But being as I am not a huge huge chocolate fan, I probably never noticed what they were about. Besides I am more of a dark chocolate girl, if chocolate is available. I am one of those, only have a square or two and then put it away for a month before having more. But cheese....now that is my weak spot. You offer me some cheese...and I will bit your arm off!! hahaha
Well I am hopefully going to get the stuff done today i never managed to do yesterday. I was too busy looking at schools, for both me and the LU. Trying to make some plans. Need to go through LU's room today and pic some clothes I am going to sell on ebay. There is no point in my keeping them all. Some are stained ( food of course) some are small now...and the rest I may keep. I always buy him so many clothes that he never wears them all. Plus if I have another son, I don't want all his clothes to be hand-me-downs. It would help get rid of some clutter in his room. Plus...he has books all over. ( messy boy)
abz
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how old are you and your OH jenn? i've been trying to make the series of events you've mentioned over the last while add up and i just can't...although i suppose you could just be incredibly busy!! ha.
hello guys. i've managed not to eat for a couple of days now. going well. have stuck to my shakes. of course the fact that my OH keep making me huge mcD's style shakes has nothing to do with it!! ha.
i haven't had nearly enough to drink today. and i need some of elle's influence. senakot and strong black coffee and still nothing!! feeling all bloaty serves me right for that fu yung a couple of days ago. think that's what's causing the problem... hey. just thought i'd join in the poo talk
so what has everyone been doing on this fine sunday? i've been vegging out, playing on the wii and have just watched bring it on and letched at jesse bradford he grew up well hackers was not a good look for him, ha.
abz xx
hello guys. i've managed not to eat for a couple of days now. going well. have stuck to my shakes. of course the fact that my OH keep making me huge mcD's style shakes has nothing to do with it!! ha.
i haven't had nearly enough to drink today. and i need some of elle's influence. senakot and strong black coffee and still nothing!! feeling all bloaty
serves me right for that fu yung a couple of days ago. think that's what's causing the problem... hey. just thought i'd join in the poo talk so what has everyone been doing on this fine sunday? i've been vegging out, playing on the wii and have just watched bring it on and letched at jesse bradford
he grew up well hackers was not a good look for him, ha.abz xx
Fattyfattyboomboom
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Abz...hahaha....Well I am 31 and my OH is 34 on the 12th. We got married a few weeks after I turned 20...and I have been over here since 1996. Does that help? hahaha
I've been cleaning most of the day and when went upstairs to sort out LU clothes so I can sell some on ebay, as I have too many. I am keeping some in case I have another boy, but there is still too much clothes, and someone could get some good use out of them as a lot have never been worn or only worn once or twice. OH made a pork roast which was lovely, as it wasn't covered in butter ( for a change) It was really nice, broccoli, carrots, green beans, and meat. MMMMMM. I am very satisfied at the moment, and still have quite a few sins I can use. But I generally don't eat after we have had our tea, unless I am really hungry then I just have some fruit.
So much more stuff to do tomorrow. I think I am going have to go and get an iron now, as I need to make those clothes look nice instead of wrinkled. I am not an ironing girl. I normally just chuck stuff back into the dryer for a few minutes with a damp sock and viola, nice and neat.
After dinner I sorted the dishes, swept and mopped the floor, so now I can chill for 20 before I need to give LU a bath, book and bed, so I can really just relax for the day.
LU is playing the wii right now and it is so amazing...he is better on it than the OH and that says a lot. He has almost completed the game all on his own. Granted it has taken a very long time as he doesn't get to play it often but he is really great in his corrdination. Trying to decided if I am going to go and call a few mates for a catch-up or just chill and watch a film or play the wii, or read my book.
LU asked me today why we don't go to church, since he hears the church bells.....that wasn't easy....hahaha
I've been cleaning most of the day and when went upstairs to sort out LU clothes so I can sell some on ebay, as I have too many. I am keeping some in case I have another boy, but there is still too much clothes, and someone could get some good use out of them as a lot have never been worn or only worn once or twice. OH made a pork roast which was lovely, as it wasn't covered in butter ( for a change) It was really nice, broccoli, carrots, green beans, and meat. MMMMMM. I am very satisfied at the moment, and still have quite a few sins I can use. But I generally don't eat after we have had our tea, unless I am really hungry then I just have some fruit.
So much more stuff to do tomorrow. I think I am going have to go and get an iron now, as I need to make those clothes look nice instead of wrinkled. I am not an ironing girl. I normally just chuck stuff back into the dryer for a few minutes with a damp sock and viola, nice and neat.
After dinner I sorted the dishes, swept and mopped the floor, so now I can chill for 20 before I need to give LU a bath, book and bed, so I can really just relax for the day.
LU is playing the wii right now and it is so amazing...he is better on it than the OH and that says a lot. He has almost completed the game all on his own. Granted it has taken a very long time as he doesn't get to play it often but he is really great in his corrdination. Trying to decided if I am going to go and call a few mates for a catch-up or just chill and watch a film or play the wii, or read my book.
LU asked me today why we don't go to church, since he hears the church bells.....that wasn't easy....hahaha
abz
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well you've certainly packed a lot into your life hon, ha. i didn't realise you'd been over here for that long. i think that's where my calculations went a bit wrong... and i can't believe your MIL is being as dependent as she is. it would be fair enough if she really couldn't work or do or pay anything for herself but she really is taking the michael!! does your family ask you for money and houses and contributions to their living costs all the time?
well i have a 2lb weight loss so far for the week this morning. woo. think totm may be over. so i need to be incredibly good today and glug loads of water and hopefully i will get to lose my 3lb target loss for the week. i'm going to step aerobics tonight too. will that make me retain water or just get lighter? ha. ah well. there's still 2 weeks before i see my cdc and i will have lost 12lbs by then!! i will!! i'm still not sure how long i can keep this up for but i was talking to my OH last night and he said i really should keep it up. he said that if i'm craving all day we'll go to morrisons on the way home and get a roast chicken, an extra tasty one this time, ha, so that i can have something. it's been once or twice a week at most since i started doing that. i need to hit the fu yung on the head though because i think it has hidden carbs, whereas the amount of carbs you can hide on a chicken should be limited...
i am so unbelievably tired this morning. i'm just not sleeping at all. i have the feeling today will be a coffee day...
abz xx
well i have a 2lb weight loss so far for the week this morning. woo. think totm may be over. so i need to be incredibly good today and glug loads of water and hopefully i will get to lose my 3lb target loss for the week. i'm going to step aerobics tonight too. will that make me retain water or just get lighter? ha. ah well. there's still 2 weeks before i see my cdc and i will have lost 12lbs by then!! i will!! i'm still not sure how long i can keep this up for but i was talking to my OH last night and he said i really should keep it up. he said that if i'm craving all day we'll go to morrisons on the way home and get a roast chicken, an extra tasty one this time, ha, so that i can have something. it's been once or twice a week at most since i started doing that. i need to hit the fu yung on the head though because i think it has hidden carbs, whereas the amount of carbs you can hide on a chicken should be limited...
i am so unbelievably tired this morning. i'm just not sleeping at all. i have the feeling today will be a coffee day...
abz xx
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elle2585
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morning guys! Jenn wow, you MIL is the same age as my dad! It kinda shocks me that she is so dependant at that age.
abz dont talk to me about poo lol. just dont. ive had enough. i was so ill the other night hahaha. i cant give you any advice hun, i really really have no idea how to overcome that problemo.
REALLY REALLY REALLY SUPER BAD DAY YESTERDAY, the bbq went awful. i had some pudding AND birthday cake hahahahaha. arrrrgh im laughing because im so angry with myself. and i must not forget the odd chocolate here and there. i went swimming this morning, damage limitation...
anyway peeps how are you all? xxxxxx
abz dont talk to me about poo lol. just dont. ive had enough. i was so ill the other night hahaha. i cant give you any advice hun, i really really have no idea how to overcome that problemo.
REALLY REALLY REALLY SUPER BAD DAY YESTERDAY, the bbq went awful. i had some pudding AND birthday cake hahahahaha. arrrrgh im laughing because im so angry with myself. and i must not forget the odd chocolate here and there. i went swimming this morning, damage limitation...
anyway peeps how are you all? xxxxxx
Fattyfattyboomboom
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Morning ladies....and tyn if you're about!!
Abz....yeah well I like to live it up...hahaha. Yeah my MIL has always been bad, but there is the fact she has had 2 heart attacks and a cronic lung problem from smoking. It all sounds really bad, but it isn't. The woman can work 8 hours out in the garden, and lift stuff. So I know she could handle a small job. Even like working in a grocery store, but she just doesn't. She is on incompacity benifits. I am kind of hoping that with the new changes they will make her work, but then again, she has always found a way to get around things. She moved in with us two weeks after I arrived here. And then she stayed for 3 years, until we kind of pushed her and a neighbour together. They eventually married but had so many problems she kept staying with us off and on. ( this was all in manchester) then on New years eve 2000, it all came out. Well really it started on christmas even 1999. She got into an arguement with her (then boyfriend/same guy she married) and she came to ours. we were all ment to have x-mas dinner together but the fight changed it all. So brought some of the food to our and said she wanted to make dinner for us on x-mas day but to wait until she got home from work ( her part time job- the only one she had) as a chambermaid, and she would cook on return. So x-mas day we waited, then at 2 when she got back she said she wanted to go and get a few things and that she would be back shortly to start dinner. So we waited.....and waited.....and waited.....then she shows up at 8pm saying they worked things out and that she was going back over there. So OH and I were livid. We sat there all day, couldn't get hold of her to find out what she wanted us to do, so we had no x-mas dinner. OH was so mad he through the goose and all the food out the window. Then my b-day is on boxing day. We were both still made and didn't speak so my b-day was ruined as we were both in a mood from x-mas. So on new year's eve we had all ( all four) planned to go to our local ( as we had bought tickets) for the 2000 millenium celebrations. We told her she could still go but that were boyfriend wasn't welcome. So the three of us went. We all had a few to drink. I was chatting to this couple and she was behind me going " Jenny, Jenny, Jenny" Which she knows p*sses me off. I hate to be called Jenny, and she was being rude doing it whilst i was in the middle of a conversation with other people. So I turned to her and said " Look, my name is Jennifer or Jenn, if you can't call me that then don't call me at all!" So she got into a strop and went home. This was about 11pm, so we stayed. We left the pub at about 2:30am. When we got back she started having a go saying " where were you ( to her son) I thought you were in a ditch somewhere!" He said " well if you would have stayed you would have known where we were!" I went inside to get ready for bed, and then I heard her say " Everything was fine until SHE came!" That was when my OH finally lost it. She had been terrible to me for years and this finished it for him. he said " she is my life and I love her, if ou can't handle that then don't be in my life!" Which was the first time he had ever stuck up for me. And then I didn't speak to her for 6 months.
That is just one of loads of times she has been horrible to me. And she wonders why I am indiffernt to her now!
Abz....yeah well I like to live it up...hahaha. Yeah my MIL has always been bad, but there is the fact she has had 2 heart attacks and a cronic lung problem from smoking. It all sounds really bad, but it isn't. The woman can work 8 hours out in the garden, and lift stuff. So I know she could handle a small job. Even like working in a grocery store, but she just doesn't. She is on incompacity benifits. I am kind of hoping that with the new changes they will make her work, but then again, she has always found a way to get around things. She moved in with us two weeks after I arrived here. And then she stayed for 3 years, until we kind of pushed her and a neighbour together. They eventually married but had so many problems she kept staying with us off and on. ( this was all in manchester) then on New years eve 2000, it all came out. Well really it started on christmas even 1999. She got into an arguement with her (then boyfriend/same guy she married) and she came to ours. we were all ment to have x-mas dinner together but the fight changed it all. So brought some of the food to our and said she wanted to make dinner for us on x-mas day but to wait until she got home from work ( her part time job- the only one she had) as a chambermaid, and she would cook on return. So x-mas day we waited, then at 2 when she got back she said she wanted to go and get a few things and that she would be back shortly to start dinner. So we waited.....and waited.....and waited.....then she shows up at 8pm saying they worked things out and that she was going back over there. So OH and I were livid. We sat there all day, couldn't get hold of her to find out what she wanted us to do, so we had no x-mas dinner. OH was so mad he through the goose and all the food out the window. Then my b-day is on boxing day. We were both still made and didn't speak so my b-day was ruined as we were both in a mood from x-mas. So on new year's eve we had all ( all four) planned to go to our local ( as we had bought tickets) for the 2000 millenium celebrations. We told her she could still go but that were boyfriend wasn't welcome. So the three of us went. We all had a few to drink. I was chatting to this couple and she was behind me going " Jenny, Jenny, Jenny" Which she knows p*sses me off. I hate to be called Jenny, and she was being rude doing it whilst i was in the middle of a conversation with other people. So I turned to her and said " Look, my name is Jennifer or Jenn, if you can't call me that then don't call me at all!" So she got into a strop and went home. This was about 11pm, so we stayed. We left the pub at about 2:30am. When we got back she started having a go saying " where were you ( to her son) I thought you were in a ditch somewhere!" He said " well if you would have stayed you would have known where we were!" I went inside to get ready for bed, and then I heard her say " Everything was fine until SHE came!" That was when my OH finally lost it. She had been terrible to me for years and this finished it for him. he said " she is my life and I love her, if ou can't handle that then don't be in my life!" Which was the first time he had ever stuck up for me. And then I didn't speak to her for 6 months.
That is just one of loads of times she has been horrible to me. And she wonders why I am indiffernt to her now!
Fattyfattyboomboom
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By the way....I lost 3 pounds this week....hehehe I am finall on track now. If I can loss 7-8 pounds a month I will be happy!!
Fattyfattyboomboom
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Elle, I know. My mother is older than my MIL and she is so independent it is unreal. My mother would rather be gone than be a burden. My family ask for nothing. But my more less fortunate family member I have given them money in the past....they have never asked for it or even suggested it, but I had it and I just feel, that if you have it, you should share it with your family. At least the deserving ones.
abz
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well done on your weight loss hon. first and foremost, ha. and then i can't believe everything you've had to put up with. how on earth did she end up living in a property you own? does she pay rent? if not i'd get her to go into council housing. if she can't work and she's on incapacity benefits then that's where she should be if she can't pay rent at market value. that's the way the world works. gah!! does it have a mortgage? is she at least paying enough to cover that? it's not like she's old and frail and this is a short term thing. what if she keeps taking the mick for another couple of decades. i'm feeling irritable and outraged just hearing about it!! i don't know how you've coped!!
have also realised that my OH is 30 in a couple of weeks and i have no money to get him anything special. a few of us are clubbing together to get him the star wars wii game when it comes out but other than that i just don't know. i'm going to have to get my thinking hat on i think...
abz xx
abz xx
have also realised that my OH is 30 in a couple of weeks and i have no money to get him anything special. a few of us are clubbing together to get him the star wars wii game when it comes out but other than that i just don't know. i'm going to have to get my thinking hat on i think...
abz xx
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