Big hugs lovely girl. You're not being judgemental at all and it's really unfair. There are too many people who think the government owe them a living and think that other people will keep footing the bill for their choice of lifestyle. It's so unfair that people who contribute to society can't afford to have kids and you've every right to feel annoyed by it.
I see both sides of the argument (Age 20 living with parents and engaged and working full time but fall pregnant. Aged 21 living with baby and baby's dad in a house he had bought when we knew I was pregnant and don't go back to work after maternity. Age of 22 however he'd kicked us both out and I'm reliant on benefits as a single mum to an 18 month old baby while he dashes off to get an 18 year old pregnant) I went back to work as soon as I could find childcare which saved my sanity and my pride but was on benefits long enough to know that it isn't an easy option and you do struggle with what they give you. Saying that I wasn't the type to claim for illnesses I didn't have and try and get more than what I was "entitled" to. I don't like using the word entitled because I didn't feel that way at all, at that age I hadn't paid enough tax to be entitled if you know what I mean? Some people really milk the system and it's those people who give the ones who genuinely need help a bad name.
I agree with Pixie though, with kids I don't think there is ever a right time but take pride in wanting to do things the right way because if more people were to think like that then there would be less kids in care and the welfare bill would be a lot smaller. Sorry for the long post but this subject winds me up too xxx
I just felt really down, especially as Steve said last week (after seeing a post on FB from a benefit scrounging couple - we know them so I'm not lumping everyone in this group, they're genuinely milking it, who'd been together for about a month posted a picture of a massive very real ring and they're engaged) "That's not fair, I can't afford an engagement ring yet and they've only been dating a month and they don't work!". My goal in life isn't to get married, have babies and be reliant on him by any means, but sometimes I do just feel like "the girlfriend" It's so disheartening.
I understand your side, as I said, I have a friend Holly who got pregnant at 15 and she's worked SO hard to support her kids, they're impecibly mannered and dressed and hr husband is amazing, accidents happen, and I totally support peoples rights to keep a baby if it happens, at any age or situation, but it's the fact she's done it on purpose, she's been hunting specifically to get a guy to have a baby with to join her friends, who on earth plans that? I can't imagine trying to have a baby when being unstable - it's not even the being single, there are plenty of women out there who are independent and successful having children alone, more power to them! I just can't fathom planning a baby when you can't support it. You needed help, I LOVE that we live in a country where help is there for people who need it, redundancy, pregnancy, divorce - sh*t happen to good people and those people deserve every ounce of help they can get, but planning that life? Colour me confused.
I'm pretty sure Me and Boy will never have our own children, my immune system coupled with Parkinsons genetically on both sides means we'd probably never try, but I like the idea of adoption one day maybe, and even if we don't end up having kids, it's nice to have the option!
I'm normally not bothered, live and let live you know? Just read it on Facebook (what a rubbish way to announce it too "Good news! I'm going to be joining the Yummy Mummies!") whilst at work, having another rubbish morning dealing with customers and just going "where's my lucky break? Where's my families lucky break? Or the good people in the world who deserve to not work their backsides off everyday?".
Anyhoo, diet wise! I've been good all day, though my 0.5 loss has b*ggered off. Half day at work means I've been cleaning all afternoon - still not finished but taking a break! Green tea taken, haven't done any exercise yet (oops, did plan that but good caught up cleaning the kitchen!) but will hopefully do some cross trainer tonight! Not sure what's planned for dinner...might still end up being ice cream!
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