Greenockgal
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God, I really am losing it now!! Puggso, forgot to answer your question sorry! Was born and bred in Greenock, so seemed a good name for me!
Lesley xx
Lesley xx
Coming back, it's hard!!!
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Greenockgal
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Now I am really losing it! Puggso, sorry, just realised I didn't answer your question, I'm Greenock born and bred, don't live there now though, guessing from your pictures you are too? I would recognise that Tartan Away Top anywhere! I've got one too!!!
Lesley x
Lesley x
Greenockgal
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Bloody hell, now I've posted the same answer twice, time to go to bed I think
xx Night my lovlies - think thin xxx
xx Night my lovlies - think thin xxx
SafcGirl31
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Greenockgal,
Its bound to be a really up and down time for you. Treat yourself kindly and best wishes for fresh start Thursday. Take Care x
Its bound to be a really up and down time for you. Treat yourself kindly and best wishes for fresh start Thursday. Take Care x
puggso_32
Right to the 'point'
I am aye, that's why your name jumped out at me.
Good call on getting out when you could
Greenockgal
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Puggso, it's not that bad!! My dad still lives up that way, although he's in Largs now, I still have a few friends in Gourock that I see from time to time (my longest friend came down to Blackpool for my mums funeral). I used to live in Mearns Street and went to the Cowdie High School - long gone now though!!
I do feel a bit sad when I go back there, my nan used to live in Kennilworth crescent, when I was a kid it was a lovely place, but I saw it deteriorate, and last time I was up there they were pulling it all down. Same for Antigua Court, my best pals gran lived there and we used to love it! Such a shame though.
BUT - it's still got the best views in the world, and whenever I am back up there and coming down the M8 or on the train, as soon as I see Diumbarton Rock, then I know I'm home, never tire of that view!!
I do feel a bit sad when I go back there, my nan used to live in Kennilworth crescent, when I was a kid it was a lovely place, but I saw it deteriorate, and last time I was up there they were pulling it all down. Same for Antigua Court, my best pals gran lived there and we used to love it! Such a shame though.
BUT - it's still got the best views in the world, and whenever I am back up there and coming down the M8 or on the train, as soon as I see Diumbarton Rock, then I know I'm home, never tire of that view!!
Greenockgal
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Well, here goes, sorry if this is maybe a bit too much, but I've got to get it off my chest:
The postman has just been with the bill for my mum's funeral. On the bill, it says they provided a Repose dressing gown (ie a shroud).
I've just got really upset, I took some of mum's really nice clothes for her to wear, it was really important to me that my mum went up to heaven to meet my nanny and auntie Lily wearing nice things things, and not some plain old shroud.
I've rung the undertakers and they are going to get the chap who dealt with it to ring me back, but the question is now, how can I be sure? In my mind now, they've just binned my mums clothes and put her in any old thing. I don't think I can bear the thought of that, sitting here now crying thinking about it.
I had even asked the undertaker to put a colour on my mums hair for her, she'd be mortified to go anywhere without having her hair done, so now I'm even doubting that.
Sorry guys, don't mean to put a downer on you all, but I'm sitting here in the house on my own, and it was either try and offload a bit on here, or else stick my head in the fridge and completely pig out.
The postman has just been with the bill for my mum's funeral. On the bill, it says they provided a Repose dressing gown (ie a shroud).
I've just got really upset, I took some of mum's really nice clothes for her to wear, it was really important to me that my mum went up to heaven to meet my nanny and auntie Lily wearing nice things things, and not some plain old shroud.
I've rung the undertakers and they are going to get the chap who dealt with it to ring me back, but the question is now, how can I be sure? In my mind now, they've just binned my mums clothes and put her in any old thing. I don't think I can bear the thought of that, sitting here now crying thinking about it.
I had even asked the undertaker to put a colour on my mums hair for her, she'd be mortified to go anywhere without having her hair done, so now I'm even doubting that.
Sorry guys, don't mean to put a downer on you all, but I'm sitting here in the house on my own, and it was either try and offload a bit on here, or else stick my head in the fridge and completely pig out.
SafcGirl31
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Offload all you like, things like that really matter when it comes to losing a loved one, I remember ironing a bright turquoise shirt for my brother to wear when he was buried. It had good memories and we'd laughed not long before that it was the brightest thing he'd even worn and was his 'bowling' shirt.
You did all you could and although you can't know for certain choose to believe that your instructions were followed. Probably just a standard bill they fill in and amend and that bit hasn't been deleted by mistake. If you ask me, its not the sort of thing you'd really want to see itemised on a bill anyway.... I think your mam will know you did your bit anyway. Hope the day picks up, could you pop out for some company and a coffee with a friend or something to take your mind off it. Hope you can, stay strong and take care x:hug99:
You did all you could and although you can't know for certain choose to believe that your instructions were followed. Probably just a standard bill they fill in and amend and that bit hasn't been deleted by mistake. If you ask me, its not the sort of thing you'd really want to see itemised on a bill anyway.... I think your mam will know you did your bit anyway. Hope the day picks up, could you pop out for some company and a coffee with a friend or something to take your mind off it. Hope you can, stay strong and take care x:hug99:
Greenockgal
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Hi Julie,
Thanks for your note. The undertaker just rang, he said that mum WAS wearing her clothes, he said he came in the Saturday before the funeral to do it himself, and without me asking, he also said that he had put the colour on her hair for her. He said it was a standard bill, and he apologised that it hadn't been taken off. He also said that not many people actually ask for their loved ones to wear their own clothes, I'm surprised at that though, maybe oit's just a thing we do in my family??
So, I feel a bit better, just having a strawberry shake with hot water, and I'm putting a load of my summer clothes that are too big for me on Ebay, it's making me think of the nice holiday we had, even though I felt like a beached whale! And making me think of the holiday coming up - there's 8 of us off to Egypt for my 40th birthday in May - when i WILL be 11 stone!!!
Thanks for your note. The undertaker just rang, he said that mum WAS wearing her clothes, he said he came in the Saturday before the funeral to do it himself, and without me asking, he also said that he had put the colour on her hair for her. He said it was a standard bill, and he apologised that it hadn't been taken off. He also said that not many people actually ask for their loved ones to wear their own clothes, I'm surprised at that though, maybe oit's just a thing we do in my family??
So, I feel a bit better, just having a strawberry shake with hot water, and I'm putting a load of my summer clothes that are too big for me on Ebay, it's making me think of the nice holiday we had, even though I felt like a beached whale! And making me think of the holiday coming up - there's 8 of us off to Egypt for my 40th birthday in May - when i WILL be 11 stone!!!
SafcGirl31
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Good news, glad you got a prompt reply. Those little things do mean a lot don't they?
Strawberry with hot water!! Haven't tried that before, might do tonight because its flipping freezing here and drinking loads of water is making me feel cold!
Looking forward to the summer hols is definitely the way to go, so here goes, I'm going to Las Vegas for 2 weeks in August and I will be maintaining 10st when I go!!! I will, I will, I will!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Back to work I go
Strawberry with hot water!! Haven't tried that before, might do tonight because its flipping freezing here and drinking loads of water is making me feel cold!
Looking forward to the summer hols is definitely the way to go, so here goes, I'm going to Las Vegas for 2 weeks in August and I will be maintaining 10st when I go!!! I will, I will, I will!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Back to work I go
Greenockgal
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Hiya, we're going on a Nile cruise for my 40th birthday, hubby and me and 6 other friends. It'll be my 5th time to Egypt, I just love it! We;ve done Luxor, Taba (that was an experience, we had an armed guard escort us dwn the mountains in our bus with no lights on to avoid snipers - but they told us they put the lights off so we could enjoy the moonlight!!), Hurghada and Red Sea and cairo, so we've done the tombs, the red sea and the pyramids, so next thing is the Nile Cruise, just like Agatha Christie!
I remember my old boss saying to me that once you've been to Egypt once you'll be hooked, well she certainly got that right!
I remember my old boss saying to me that once you've been to Egypt once you'll be hooked, well she certainly got that right!
Blonde Logic
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Hi Les....sorry you are having to deal with the UT's over you mums invoice....I can just imagine how upsetting that is.
I agree with SafCgirl...it is probably just a clerical error. I believe they do do their utmost to comfort family and carry out wishes. Try not to dwell - that will just upset you. Unless you hear otherwise from the UT, believe she went as you so lovingly planned for her. And even if they did make that horrible error - it's heaven - she will arrive beautiful.
I hope you are doing OK, and unload anything you need to do hear - it will help clear your head and its helpful to share trouboing things....lessens the load a wee bit.
Thinking about you lots.
XX
I agree with SafCgirl...it is probably just a clerical error. I believe they do do their utmost to comfort family and carry out wishes. Try not to dwell - that will just upset you. Unless you hear otherwise from the UT, believe she went as you so lovingly planned for her. And even if they did make that horrible error - it's heaven - she will arrive beautiful.
I hope you are doing OK, and unload anything you need to do hear - it will help clear your head and its helpful to share trouboing things....lessens the load a wee bit.
Thinking about you lots.
XX
Greenockgal
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Thanks hun, I feel a bit better now, although I lapsed at lunchtime - grrr! I'm soooo mad at myself now! But, even though the weather is horrid, i dragged myself to the baths and did 20 lengths, fist time I've swum properly in years, normally it's a flop about in the pool on holiday, thena bit of a doggie paddle up to the pool bar! Then I rewarded myself with 2 goes on the water slide, I must have looked a right sight, there was me with about 20 kids!!!
But, hubby is out tonight, and all that is going to pass my lips is green tea and water - I WILL NOT GO TO THE CHINESE!!!!
But, hubby is out tonight, and all that is going to pass my lips is green tea and water - I WILL NOT GO TO THE CHINESE!!!!
Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
Hi
Oooh, those narsty lapses!!!
You were such a 'visual inspiration' to me Les, so I am going to try and be a 'verbal inspiration' to you.
You know how we talked about having to have our heads in the right place, how that makes all the difference. It must be very hard for you, because I know where a lot of your head is at the moment. So you have a tough thing going on.
But - you are Scottish - and I know Scotts can be mighty willful and mighty strong. Married to half of one afterall. Tomorrow, when you wake up, commit to yourself that you are going to do it, just for one day, to prove that you can. Again - you know you can becuase of the amazing loss you had before.
Think of allll the reasons you want to do this. And remind yourself each hour. When you are feeling low, treat yourself to a nice hot bath, or a good movie. Maybe when you feel the voices calling you, grab a pen and paper, and write down what they are telling you - and then say 'no you narsty buggers!! Or write it down, and then burn or throw the paper away. It sounds silly - but sometimes just having a silly little conversation, with you being the loudest voice can be helpful. And writing it down is taking it from your head on to something you can throw away....then its gone.
Just remember all the reasons to get through the day successfully, and all the reasons not to. A pro and con list. And then choose which one you want. Sometimes seeing it in black and white really can have an impact. And rememebr you are doing this to make you happy - and lady, after what you have just been through and are going through - you deserve a little happiness.
It's just one day. And if you get through the day, then the next day, you can draw on that empowerment you have given yourself. And each day will get easier and easier, as your head gets in the right place.
Just a couple ideas that might help. I hope they do. I know you can do this.
One day at a time, will soon turn in to a week at a time, and then a month....and then you are on your way and already almost done.
Sending you lots of vibes, hoping that in some small way I can help you, the way you helped me.
XXX
Oooh, those narsty lapses!!!
You were such a 'visual inspiration' to me Les, so I am going to try and be a 'verbal inspiration' to you.
You know how we talked about having to have our heads in the right place, how that makes all the difference. It must be very hard for you, because I know where a lot of your head is at the moment. So you have a tough thing going on.
But - you are Scottish - and I know Scotts can be mighty willful and mighty strong. Married to half of one afterall.
Tomorrow, when you wake up, commit to yourself that you are going to do it, just for one day, to prove that you can. Again - you know you can becuase of the amazing loss you had before. Think of allll the reasons you want to do this. And remind yourself each hour. When you are feeling low, treat yourself to a nice hot bath, or a good movie. Maybe when you feel the voices calling you, grab a pen and paper, and write down what they are telling you - and then say 'no you narsty buggers!! Or write it down, and then burn or throw the paper away. It sounds silly - but sometimes just having a silly little conversation, with you being the loudest voice can be helpful. And writing it down is taking it from your head on to something you can throw away....then its gone.
Just remember all the reasons to get through the day successfully, and all the reasons not to. A pro and con list. And then choose which one you want. Sometimes seeing it in black and white really can have an impact. And rememebr you are doing this to make you happy - and lady, after what you have just been through and are going through - you deserve a little happiness.
It's just one day. And if you get through the day, then the next day, you can draw on that empowerment you have given yourself. And each day will get easier and easier, as your head gets in the right place.
Just a couple ideas that might help. I hope they do. I know you can do this.
One day at a time, will soon turn in to a week at a time, and then a month....and then you are on your way and already almost done.
Sending you lots of vibes, hoping that in some small way I can help you, the way you helped me.
XXX
Greenockgal
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Thanks, that really did help, tomorrow I'm going to be very organised (acknowledgement for the paper, flowers etc), and then I'm going to the gym, will keep myself busy and occupied. I know I can do it, that's the annoying thing!!!
Reflecting back one thing I know I'm rubbish at!), I can see it was the whole Undertakers thing that set me off - but at least I'm acknowledging that fact and can aim to change it.
On completely different note, you going to watch the prog on CH 4 at 9.00? Might be intersting!! A year in the life of the fraud investigators at a certain big insurance company!!
Reflecting back one thing I know I'm rubbish at!), I can see it was the whole Undertakers thing that set me off - but at least I'm acknowledging that fact and can aim to change it.
On completely different note, you going to watch the prog on CH 4 at 9.00? Might be intersting!! A year in the life of the fraud investigators at a certain big insurance company!!
Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
Good luck today Lesley!!! Wishing you lots of luck, and sending you good vibes!!! Let us know how you get on.
Greenockgal
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Yep, feeling positive at the moment, one big glass of water dow, here's to a bucketful more!!
Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
Cool! Hoping you are still going strong!!
Was really busy at work today - no time at my desk really so could'nt log on!!
Hope you are doing well today!!
X
Was really busy at work today - no time at my desk really so could'nt log on!!
Hope you are doing well today!!
X
Greenockgal
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Well, so far so good! Have had 2 packs, a load of green tea, and enought water to sink a ship. I walked to the Aquarena, did 8 lengths then did an aqua aerobics class, thats was a bit embarrassing, my boobs kept nearly falling out my cossie!
I had a bit of a sit down on the seafront and a bit of a cry, but not a good idea when the sun is blinding you and you have no sunglasses! I saw Clive from reception too, so had a long old chat with him. Just got home and rescued my neighbours kids who were home alone and couldn't turn their tap off, then let them come in cos they'd locked themselves out, so they came in and used the phone, then went and checked on my other neighbour, she's an old dearie who's losing it a bit, she's had a final "pay us now or we'll cut you off" electricity bill, so sorted that out as well - seems I've turned into a rescuer today!
Plus, sorted out the flowers to send to a friend (the lady who opened up her hotel so we could have my mum's wake there, she did scotch broth and a steak pie dinner - so Scottish!) and did the acknowledgemnent for the Blackpool paper, so that's going in on Monday.
Just got home and a load of my Ebay stuff has sold, so am going to parcel all that up. Oh, and stopped by the charity shop and got a load of jeans and jumpers and tops for £3 the lot!!!! 9 items! Some are Per Una as well, I couldn't have got into any of them a few months ago, so that's cheered me up!
Hope you've had a good day, the demons have been in there trying to direct me to the fridge, but I've been fighting them all the way!!
I had a bit of a sit down on the seafront and a bit of a cry, but not a good idea when the sun is blinding you and you have no sunglasses! I saw Clive from reception too, so had a long old chat with him. Just got home and rescued my neighbours kids who were home alone and couldn't turn their tap off, then let them come in cos they'd locked themselves out, so they came in and used the phone, then went and checked on my other neighbour, she's an old dearie who's losing it a bit, she's had a final "pay us now or we'll cut you off" electricity bill, so sorted that out as well - seems I've turned into a rescuer today!
Plus, sorted out the flowers to send to a friend (the lady who opened up her hotel so we could have my mum's wake there, she did scotch broth and a steak pie dinner - so Scottish!) and did the acknowledgemnent for the Blackpool paper, so that's going in on Monday.
Just got home and a load of my Ebay stuff has sold, so am going to parcel all that up. Oh, and stopped by the charity shop and got a load of jeans and jumpers and tops for £3 the lot!!!! 9 items! Some are Per Una as well, I couldn't have got into any of them a few months ago, so that's cheered me up!
Hope you've had a good day, the demons have been in there trying to direct me to the fridge, but I've been fighting them all the way!!
