jessicacaca
Full Member
T'is my birthday today yes, I knew you'd like them x
Deflating the Bouncy Castle
- Thread starter spangles
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scooterchick
She's me in a few months
These are the shoes that are sitting in my wardrobe just now and I can't wear them
but once I have another 2/3 stone they're going back on!!
Jelliebabe
Gold Member
jessicacaca said:
Ahhhh they're a bit special! I can't wait to get done pretty shoes!
DollyGirl92
Full Member
I'm in love with Iron Fist Heels
Ahh shoes. I love all the ones that have been posted here, they're all so nice!
Ahh shoes. I love all the ones that have been posted here, they're all so nice!
spangles
Bouncy Castle
Not bad. Just had my mid-year review for my personal performance management (as opposed to my departmental review) and was graded as 'good' which is as much as i ever aim for, tbh.
The departmental revieww meeting is the week after half term, and is with someone much less supportive - i generally leave those meeting in tears... but today, at least, went well.
Really tired this week. Not sure why. All this extra protein should be giving me a spring in my step, you'd think...
No floristry next monday (half term), so my husband said 'why don't you do some practice anyway?' He's been really supportive since I brought home the small arrangement with the thistles, that looked so professional. I'm really beginning to think in terms of the academic year after next, dropping down to four days if we can afford it, and if i've done some good stuff in the interim.
This, of course, is partly 'planning exciting futures that don't involve babies'. cos i have to do that, don't I? Can't invest everything in that 23% chance that IVF will work.
The departmental revieww meeting is the week after half term, and is with someone much less supportive - i generally leave those meeting in tears... but today, at least, went well.
Really tired this week. Not sure why. All this extra protein should be giving me a spring in my step, you'd think...
No floristry next monday (half term), so my husband said 'why don't you do some practice anyway?' He's been really supportive since I brought home the small arrangement with the thistles, that looked so professional. I'm really beginning to think in terms of the academic year after next, dropping down to four days if we can afford it, and if i've done some good stuff in the interim.
This, of course, is partly 'planning exciting futures that don't involve babies'. cos i have to do that, don't I? Can't invest everything in that 23% chance that IVF will work.
MinnieMel
Why Be Normal?
That is nearly a one in four -- not that bad of odds. Also, losing weight often improves a person's fertility. When I did LL (in 2008)one of the women in the group was doing it so that she could lose weight to qualify for IVF treatments. She got pregnant when her BMI got to around 27 or 26. She now has two children -- both conceived naturally. (She went back and did LL lite after she had the first baby to lose the weight and then got pregnant again.)
So, I am hoping you have similar results.
jessicacaca
Full Member
Spangles, in your profile pic do you have victory rolls in your hair?
Spangles hun, I am sure your diet losses will help you get pg and the IVF will work. Yes, you should plan your life as normal - but then you should do that whether you have kids or not, kids don't stop you having a life, they just make it more complicated and busy
Have you thought of alternatives, like adoption? I assume you have?
Have you thought of alternatives, like adoption? I assume you have?
MinnieMel
Why Be Normal?
Thanks mel - sadly, i have physical problems making natural conception very unlikely.
23% is best case scenario for a woman of my age assuming no other complicating factors. The actual range at my age is 6-23%.
jessicacaca - yes, but i didn't do them myself.
Well, you are one in a million -- so b*gger the odds.
spangles
Bouncy Castle
we have thought of adoption - but this isn't about parenthood at all costs. it's about having a child that's half him and half me, i think.
and, if i'm honest - adoption is likely to be a school-age child who's had a difficult start in life. Very, very few white babies are placed for adoption (and in those that are - often taken into care at birth - there is a very high incidence of foetal alcohol syndrome), and understandably they still favour racially sensitive adoption matches. Most adoptions now are 'open', meaning the natural parent(s) have contact. It would be a lot to take on and it may make me a bad person but I don't want to actively seek out those kinds of difficulty. Of course any baby anyone has could very likely have all kinds of problems and complications - but at least you'd have been part of the child's life forever, rather than trying to join in later on. My mum spent her career as a social worker in fostering and adoption and has given me all the pros and cons. It's not for me.
i'm not proud of it, but it's how i feel.
and, if i'm honest - adoption is likely to be a school-age child who's had a difficult start in life. Very, very few white babies are placed for adoption (and in those that are - often taken into care at birth - there is a very high incidence of foetal alcohol syndrome), and understandably they still favour racially sensitive adoption matches. Most adoptions now are 'open', meaning the natural parent(s) have contact. It would be a lot to take on and it may make me a bad person but I don't want to actively seek out those kinds of difficulty. Of course any baby anyone has could very likely have all kinds of problems and complications - but at least you'd have been part of the child's life forever, rather than trying to join in later on. My mum spent her career as a social worker in fostering and adoption and has given me all the pros and cons. It's not for me.
i'm not proud of it, but it's how i feel.
MinnieMel
Why Be Normal?
Nothing to be ashamed of -- it is good to know your limitations.
I have friends that say, "I'm not childless, I'm child free."
I do not think they are selfish... I think they are selfless. Being a parent is hard work and if it isn't in you -- then do not do it.
The same thing goes for adoption, fostering, etc.
I think a lot people who care about children become teachers, but then I know a lot of teacher who have no or only one child -- because they already invest so much of themselves into other peoples' children.
Mmm - my mum has always said she doesn't really like children except her own. She went to a christening once and was asked if she would like to hold the baby, they all looked offended when she said no.
And - I know how she felt. I love my kids, I quite like the few of my friends I have got close to, but then some of my mates kids I just find vile. Couldn't be a teacher either, I have no patience with them.
And - I know how she felt. I love my kids, I quite like the few of my friends I have got close to, but then some of my mates kids I just find vile. Couldn't be a teacher either, I have no patience with them.
jessicacaca
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Spangles, you absolutely should not be ashamed. I'm not sure its something I could do. Xx
