Ex bf issues, help me!

[Scorpiolady2710]

I agree with everyone who says be upfront and honest with your hubby. Don't let this man try to come between you. It's easy to feel sorry for another human being who is going through a hard time especially someone with whom you've had an intimate relationship. It sounds like you've got a good relationship with your husband now...better than it could ever have been with this ex.

Best leave rubbish in the bin where you threw it...

 

[Leapfrog]

So glad you told him and that he was so understanding.

I am so thankful that my ex was so horrid, violent and unfaithful. If he hadn't been I would never have met my Paul and it sounds like you have a good on in yours.

As I said look after him, they are not easy to find.

hugs xxxxxxxx

I'm so pleased my ex left me for someone else, I say it's the best decision I never made! I so identify with Fillymum - if he hadn't left me, I would never have met my husband. I didn't find him, he found me btw

 

[MissSlinky2011]

Ugh, why don't men take the hint, I've had a total of 150 text messages in just 2 days! All along the lines of

You were the best thing that ever happened to me, I miss you, I'm sorry, I'm never going to find someone like you ever again, he talks about our past sex life and then last night its was just I'm still in love with you I'm sorry I just have to say this I love you.

Do I send him a message saying please leave me alone or will that encourage him?

X x x

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[tara40]

give the phone to your husband and then come up with a solution between the two of you. Try to keep him involved.
good luck.

 

[kingleds]

Ugh, why don't men take the hint, I've had a total of 150 text messages in just 2 days! All along the lines of

You were the best thing that ever happened to me, I miss you, I'm sorry, I'm never going to find someone like you ever again, he talks about our past sex life and then last night its was just I'm still in love with you I'm sorry I just have to say this I love you.

Do I send him a message saying please leave me alone or will that encourage him?

X x x

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Does your husband know he's sending you these messages? If not, i'd tell him. It would be worse if he stumbled upon them.

Ignore them- don't respond either. You will make things worse & encourage him.

If all else fails, go round with hubby & tell him to his face to leave you alone. Make sure hubby goes - united front at the very least. sure

 

[KittenKat]

150 messages in 2 days is ridiculous!!

Have a look on your phone as some phones have the facility where you can block telephone numbers. The person doesn't know they are blocked but it would at least save you having to read them all the time, if yours does have the facility.

Also, it is bordering on harrassment and you can report him to the police over it.

My suggestion would be to send him one text message asking him to leave you alone and stop sending you messages, otherwise you will be forced to take the matter further. Then if he continues to send you messages, report it to the police. If it continues in that way they may well take out a restraining order against him.

Whatever you do, keep hubby involved at all times and do not let this person ruin the life that you have now.

 

[tallsarah]

My first response would be to send a text that tells him to grow a pair!

But my actually advise is talk and show hubby. If you think your in physical danger go to the police, if it does not settle in the next few days consider changing your number, I assume he only has your mobile number?

 

[Shirleen]

I Would perhaps contact his regiment and tell them this man is at least a danger to himself, then get your number changed. it's very easy, if you haven't got unlimited messages to let the people you do want to have your number then buy a bundle/add on.

Tell your hubby everything and thank God you got shut of this manipulative shyster!!!!

What a twat!

 

[MissSlinky2011]

He is nowhere near where I live and although he knows I'm back on anglesey doesn't know my address, thank god or he might have resorted to standing outside!

My hubby has seen them all (apart from the sex ones. My husband doesn't need to know what I did with another man before I even met him) and says to ignore him and he might go away, I'm lucky it doesn't bother rob I know some men would get jealous or angry but robs opinion is that this guy messed me around and lost the most amazing women in the world and it's thanks to him that we met, he also thinks its a pretty big ego boost for another man to be "in love" with his wife because he has me and he trusts me and knows I would never leave him.

I'm just fed up of reading these msgs that are forcing me to remember things I would rather leave in the part where they belong.

X x c

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[tallsarah]

don't read them, just delete them straight away, you don't need the stress

 

[Shirleen]

Then he's not suicidal he wants a booty call! Send one text telling him you wouldn't touch his scabby dick in a million years'

 

[MissSlinky2011]

My phone shows the text in a bubble when I receive it and then you have to open it to delete it so its hard to avoid reading them.

He's not suicidal he is an idiot that's apparently told his wife he is still in love with me so she has left him taking their two kids, I just don't know how his head works what did he think that he would text me and I would drop my loving husband and my life and run away with him? As if! I feel sorry for him, he's ruined his family for a dream that's never going to happen nothing in the world would make me go back to him!

Lo and behold, as I'm typing this another text has arrived!

X x x

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[fillymum]

Ugh, why don't men take the hint, I've had a total of 150 text messages in just 2 days! All along the lines of

You were the best thing that ever happened to me, I miss you, I'm sorry, I'm never going to find someone like you ever again, he talks about our past sex life and then last night its was just I'm still in love with you I'm sorry I just have to say this I love you.

Do I send him a message saying please leave me alone or will that encourage him?

X x x

Sent from my HTC Desire using MiniMins x x x

Do nothing treat him as if he does not exist because for you he shouldn't do.

Then he's not suicidal he wants a booty call! Send one text telling him you wouldn't touch his scabby dick in a million years'

LOL !!!! Shirleen you have a wonderful way with words.


I do not know what the problem is..........just ignore him or change your number. He is obviously not worth the energy or thought you are putting in to this.

He is not part of your life. Forget him.

 

[Maddysmum]

Get your husband to text him telling him to back off. then he knows that your never going back to him (it'll prob shock him you told your hubby)

 

[MissSlinky2011]

So my husband called him and tom answered thinking it was me and after having words the ex tom apologise to my hubby saying I'm sorry I'm in love with your wife I always have been I just wanted her to know. So rob put me on the phone and the ex started crying - so unlike him, told me everything he needed to I told him its never going to happen and he needs to stop thinking about me and move on to which he said he would rather die I told him to stop being a Di*k and grow a pair he's been fine 4 years without me if he loved me so much why did you hurt me so much, I never want to see you or hear from you again if you don't stop this I will call your dad (lol) one of his army mated came on the phone who said he will look after him and get the psychiatrist to see him tomorrow.

Oh the drama lol

I feel like I've been dropped into an episode of Jeremy Kyle!

X x x

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[Lucky7]

hopefully he can start getting some help now and things can be sorted.

 

[tallsarah]

So my husband called him and tom answered thinking it was me and after having words the ex tom apologise to my hubby saying I'm sorry I'm in love with your wife I always have been I just wanted her to know. So rob put me on the phone and the ex started crying - so unlike him, told me everything he needed to I told him its never going to happen and he needs to stop thinking about me and move on to which he said he would rather die I told him to stop being a Di*k and grow a pair he's been fine 4 years without me if he loved me so much why did you hurt me so much, I never want to see you or hear from you again if you don't stop this I will call your dad (lol) one of his army mated came on the phone who said he will look after him and get the psychiatrist to see him tomorrow.

Oh the drama lol

I feel like I've been dropped into an episode of Jeremy Kyle!

X x x

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well done and what a good outcome for all, you and your husband dealt with the situation as a team and now your ex has a friend who will ensure he gets the support he needs.

 

[speccyblue]

I wouldn't text him back, that would only encourage him and confirm to him that he's hooked you in. If it's that bad then change your number.