Don't worry about it, these things happen, and it's a learning curve. And from the looks of it, you didn't have any syns that day anyway, I doubt you used more than 10 because of mince/oil kerfuffle.
As for the chick pea dhal being a bit too spicy, you could always stir in a bit of fat free plain fromais frais once you've heated it up, to down down the spice a bit (make sure you do it once it's warm otherwise the fromais frais will curdle).
Have a look in the recipes thread and also the one called 'Where the bargains are at' (something like that)...that should give you some good ideas for meals and stuff
Kirsty x