Fed up, unmotivated, lost.

[Panny]

Hi there.

Uh, I'm kinda new to this thing so go easy.

I've kind of reached out to you guys on this website as a cry for help.

I'm 21 this year. These should be the happiest, carefree days of my life but instead I'm stuck at this dead end of self-loathing and bewilderment. Each day being pushed deeper into the ground by an overwhelming pressure of hopelessness.
I've always, since I hit puberty, been big.
It's my body build - I can accept that. I'd rather be wide and curvy than skinny as a post... but I'm not wide and curvy.
I'm just a big, fat, hideous blobby mess.

Now, I can probably tell what ya'll thinking when you're reading this: ''Whiney mare! Do something about it if you're not happy!!''
- But that's my whole reason for posting on here.

I've tried, believe me, I've tried so, so hard.

I've done Weight Watchers, Slimming World, Cambridge Diet.. some ridiculous 'laxative' diet me and my friend thought it was a good idea to do... (NOTE:This is in NO WAY a good idea. Do not even think about it. It's a painful, smelly, icky diet and is totally dangerous) ... I've tried most of them.

I guess from basic research that healthy eating and regular exercise is the best way to lose weight but I have no motivation.

I have loads of reasons to lose the weight.... The big 21 coming up in November. The health benefits. The confidence boost. The hopes that I can meet a guy and not push him away completely because I'm so ridiculously insecure about myself. But I seem to be stuck in this big empty room and nothing is motivating me.

I just need some kind of advise.
Any advise, really.

I can't go through my twenties like I spent my teens...
A self-loathing pile of comfort eating, binge drinking, fat mess.

I just want to be happy.

So. If there's any other kind of diets, crash diets, magic lamps that will grant me a wish, etcetc, please let me know.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Sincerely,
A very unhappy, overweight physical and emotional mess.
AKA: Panny.

 

[lozzie84]

Hi Panny x

First of all, no one will think your whining, we are all in your boat, some of us succeed with the battle but some of us are just like you losing the big fight against weight loss x

I too have tried most diets, and besides the normal ones that should work I have failed at them all x I'm in a vicious circul where I jump from each one!

So although I can't help you with a miracle diet plan I can defo see where you are at x

I decided last week enough was enough, took myself to my doctors and asked for help! I refused any tablets as there only short term.
My doctor gave me a number to a nhs local organisation that will see people in groups or one on one, they have lots of resources to help us, so maybe give this ago x

I've also ordered the Paul McKenna I can make you thin x as many people have recommend it, apparently it just makes you think a bit wiser? We're see once I've got it x

There are loads of people on this forum just like you and me, and there all really helpful x read over some of the posts x they may help x

Chin up x and more Pma x

 

[MartianMallow]

Hi Panny,
I can really relate to your post. I'm 22 and I wish that I'd sorted out this weight problem sooner. I have a little boy now and I don't want to spend his life being the fat mum who can't do things with him. Unfortunately there is no magic lap or quick fix, which is really frustrating. Have you spoken to your GP? For me it was a real motivation to go and have a chat with my GP, get weighed properly and discuss where to go from there. The binge eating cycle is a really tough situation to find yourself in, I know myself. I hope you find support here to decide how you want to go about making some changes. Good luck! x

 

[Panny]

Hi guys.

Thanks for the replies.

I have spoken to my doctor, but he's a real ass.
He just says to diet and exercise, despite me sitting there in tears and telling him over and over and over again that I've tried.

I know the healthy eating/exercise thing does work, but I have stupid shifts at work that mean going to a gym is impossible and I can't really afford the membership and now it's getting colder, the get up and go to go for jogs or walks etc is non-existent.

Urgh. Just hating everything at the moment.

 

[lozzie84]

Hi Panny x

You really need to give your self a break x

My doctor said that exercise is only 30% towards a weight loss x so forgot that for the time being, or if you think it will help walk up stairs or walk to a local shop something that is more than your already doing. X

Take one step at time, and each day as it comes!
As I have no will power I tend to find leaving my purse at home a massive help as I have no money to buy food that is on impulse!
Always have breakfast and fill it out with bananas or berries, Make your own lunch and plan dinner x

Do online shops as it saves seeing all the offers on all the naughty stuff and only buy ingredients for breakfast lunch and dinner x

It all sounds so easy and I'm in no place to say it works as I too am just like you, I've just got to start believing x

We can do this, there's nothing we can't do x

 

[Leighthesim]

Heya, I'm in the same boat...
last years did slimming world and lost over a stone, but when I came back from the us I put it back on, now am moaning about in clothes I was ready to chuck this time last year.
But first of all you have to take temptation away and find a plan you can try stick to ( whether Its calorie counting, or a slimming club) then get rid of anything not friendly to the plan. Then do a shop online and only buy what you need for the week, if you need anything from the shop try take only the cash you need to buy what you need ( if its a pint of milk and a loaf of bread only take enough for it so you can't be tempted) or get in and out without distraction. Stick to something for a week, and only weigh in at the beginning and endof that week, then the loss you get will help with the motivation

 

[maddyshambles]

We are all in the same boat but when you are young it does seem more dramatic and like the end of the world to not look like the girls in the magazines and fit into the clothes at topshop. All I can say is there is no quick fix, healing and dieting both take time and patience. Not putting pressure on yourself to be perfect and realising that you need to be healthy first and foremost, growing up sucks as you can't skip or replay all of the hard bits you just wish you did it at the time. Good luck in your happiness you have much to live for!