Hi Candypie. I'm sorry to hear about the breakup of your relationship but from what you say it may be for better in the longrun. I also learnt a lot of things I didn't know about my ex husband when we split up about 3 years ago. I have to be honest and say I wasn't devastated - or even particularly upset - as I had wanted him to leave for some time but I was really angry when I found out some of the things he'd been doing! The main difficulty was having to avoid saying what I really thought to our sons as they were upset he had gone. I remember one day my youngest son said ' You feel sorry for Dad don't you ' and although I really wanted to say 'Do I f...!' I said I did and my son replied 'That's because you're a much nicer person than him!' It's difficult to avoid letting breakdowns take over but I think once you stop thinking about them - whether you're upset or just really angry (and believe me I had, and still have, cause to be) - that's when you're healed. I probably wouldn't choose to have anything to do with my ex but have had to keep in touch because of our sons. I don't like him much but we now get on reasonably well and are even going on holiday to Turkey together (in separate apartments)with our sons at the end of August. I'm not sure why I've related all this. I think what I'm trying to say is that even if you are angry or upset now it isn't worth letting it take over. One of the things I really like about losing weight is that I'm doing it for myself and showing how strong I am. Keep at the diet, be strong, be happy and do things for your own benefit and wellbeing. Sorry if this is a bit of a ramble!