Here I go again.....

[bexster1974]

It's dried gorgeous I'm really pleased with it just need some finishing touches now, my in laws are popping over tomorrow and they have to travel about two hours to get to us and I'm worried I should be offering to make some food!!!! Not sure what I should do x

 

[MrsN]

I love purple too. Our bedroom is lilacs and likewise hubby isn't a fan - but hey that's what happens when you don't come wallpaper shopping!

 

[bexster1974]

It's a lovely colour so pretty for a bedroom! That's why I say if you don't come shopping you don't get a say! Just woke up and realised I've got through two days of the weekend, just another two to go! X

 

[Darcy15]

Keep going Becky - you're doing great!

 

[sybersadie]

When you've done decorating your house, if you still need distraction you can come round and do mine

 

[bexster1974]

I've quite enjoyed it but I ache like mad, I'm putting it down to the confined space and crouching and stretching but think it's more to do with me being unfit lol x

 

[bexster1974]

Not feeling it today abit fed up as know not going to have much of a loss tomorrow and with only 2lbs last week really feeling like I can do better than this at slimming world, I have about a months worth of packs left so not giving up yet but I am a little fed up when I see others with much less to lose than me with much bigger losses. It's great to see everyone doing so well just wish I knew what I was doing wrong x

 

[sybersadie]

OK, so I think long and hard in the next month about whether you would lose as much on slimming world. You lost 10lbs in the first week on Exante. I lost 12b in 5 weeks on Exante. Your losses are better than average. Exante reckon people lose around a stone a month. You lost over a stone in two weeks. It took me 6 weeks to lose a stone. Still think you are not losing fast enough?

Everybody's body is different and we all lose at different rates even on a vlcd, but I would say your loss is pretty good at the moment.

 

[bexster1974]

Thanks Sadie just what I needed, Im having a really emotional day and every diary I read in weight loss terms seems so much better than mine! Thanks for putting me straight, I knew this weekend would be hard but not this hard emotionally. Guess I'm still adjusting. Thanks for making me see I'm doing ok x

 

[sybersadie]

hanks for making me see I'm doing ok x

Your welcome
Our social events and celebrations all seem to revolve around food don't they, and this diet makes theses things really hard.
I can totally understand you want to lose weight more quickly but you've done really well so far.

 

[bexster1974]

Well I've just done my ironing and I'm in a smaller trouser and I've dug some blouses out I bought years ago that have never fit and they do so that's made me feel a bit better. I am a chocoholic and even thought I only have one Easter egg in the house which is for my little man next it's been really much tougher than I thought. I don't like my job much but cannot wait for the structure I have in the working week x

 

[clover25]

Keep going. I know that it can get frustrating , just take it one day at a time. Trust in the system and your body. We are always here if you want to have a good rant. *hugs*

 

[MrsN]

Ah Bexster there will be more days like this ahead when you feel crappy and I totally relate to all you've said but like Sadie says look at the bigger picture. You've done fab so far and there just is no way you can't lose on this diet if you stick to it and drink the water so it will happen.
You've already identified some slight changes to make salt/water so I'm sure you'll see results when those kick in. And you're already seeing a difference in clothes so that's ace!
You might well lose on slimming world but what was the reason you chose Exante? For me it was because I have zero control so if I can eat then I will. I need to the time while on this diet to learn about food, nutrition and sort my head out.
Stick with it. It will get better x

 

[MrsN]

Clover is a good example - look at her weight loss in total yet a week she only lost 1lb. Don't give up.

 

[bexster1974]

Thanks ladies I'm much better with structure and this does suit me much better than any other diet I've tried. I have struggled again with water today but I feel sick which isn't helping. Think I have some issues other than food I need to address but I really arnt sure how. Holidays bring me to a dark place, sorry if this is tmi but I lost my mum to cancer in 2010 and my nephew to suicide 2 years ago and I haven't let myself grieve as I feel if I do that means they are really gone. I know that sounds so stupid but in my head that keeps them with me. Some days I just don't even know how I get through so I turn to food? Crazy right and that's what I need to work through but I don't know how. Having Exante's structure is really helping but my sweet tooth is screaming today! Right that's nearly my life story! I need work to get through the days 4 days off in one go is too much for me lol too much time to think x

 

[MrsN]

I can relate to some of what you are saying Bex. I lost my father to cancer last year and fell into a dark place. I have accessed bereavement counselling via Macmillan and whilst I still feel lost I am now coping much better. Perhaps something to think about.
Water is just so boring! I hate it but just force it really.

 

[bexster1974]

My tummy feels like it's literally swishing in water these last couple of days it's a really strange feeling!

It's really hard isn't it, I lost my best friend as well as my mum. I think my wedding getting closer is hard as she would be who I did everything with and its just a massive hole. I don't even know where to begin with my nephew I just can't X

 

[MrsN]

It's so hard. I saw my Dad everyday and miss him so much. He was only in his early 60's and I'm determined to prolong my life for my children (and me).
Do consider getting some support - the waiting lists are often lengthy so worth considering. Big hugs. Tomorrow is a new day.

 

[bexster1974]

Thanks MrsN my mum was 62 and I get so jealous of people who still have their parents and moan about them! Thanks for your kind words x

 

[bexster1974]

I lost 3lbs this week, better than I thought as my sneaky peak on Friday said I had put 3 on so I'm happy with 20lbs in 4 weeks X

Thanks everyone for helping me through this first month, don't think I would have made it without you xxx