It's now or never

[MinnieMel]

You will be adding back in the glycogen fat stores in your liver if you have been in ketosis and that is usually about 4 to 5 pounds. A lot of people try to get 4 to pound below where they want to maintain, so that when they add back in the glycogen that are ready to try and stabilize their weight. The glycogen packs back on as soon as you up your carbs and calories.

 

[egbert]

Well - I have put on 4 pounds, so I guess thats about right.

On a happier note - what do you think about these . . . .

Irregular Choice

Good to go with a dress?

 

[mama22]

Well - I have put on 4 pounds, so I guess thats about right.

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I'm the same hun god dam you normal food

 

[egbert]

I was debating last night about having a CD soup for dinner, since I only wanted something small anyway. Then checked the calories in a normal can of Heinz, and its about the same, except obviously there is carbs in it. Well, since I am not trying to stay in Ketosis over xmas, it seems to me that the cheaper and more sensible thing is to have normal soups for meals over the next week. So - thats what I am going to do - low cal meals with carbs.

 

[mama22]

I'm doing the same small meals but carbs as low as possible

 

[MinnieMel]

Well - I have put on 4 pounds, so I guess thats about right.

On a happier note - what do you think about these . . . .

Irregular Choice

Good to go with a dress?

Are you serious? I think they are fun and funky... but I do not have the chops to pull anything like those off... not even in my younger days.

 

[egbert]

Are you serious? I think they are fun and funky... but I do not have the chops to pull anything like those off... not even in my younger days.

Well, I have ordered them to see what they look like with my dress. OH is not keen, and I suspect they may look a bit chunky with the dress. But - we will see.

 

[egbert]

I am so so so so so wracked off today. Really peeved.

I know we have the wedding planned and booked, but OH has not yet actually proposed. Anyway, he has been planning a surprise in the NY and I have been working hard at not noticing and working out what it is, as he is terrible at planning surprises. Anyway, he had ordered me an engagement ring which he then showed his parents the other day. And they promptly told him that it was not worth what he paid for it, he needed to send it back as he had been ripped off, and that it was unlucky (being a black diamond) and then they rang their friends to get their opinions. Which stressed him out so much he ended up telling me all about it, because he is a little superstitious.

So - thank you in laws, you ruined my surprise, stressed out OH and ruined the one and only time he could surprise me, and make a real effort and do something romantic. I have told him I would love to have the one he has spent time and effort thinking about and choosing for me, as it means so much more. And I don't believe in superstition. But, it will play on his mind now and worry him.

I am still fuming about it, a day later, and really upset that my one and only ever proposal has now been ruined. If they come over here today I might well let rip. But, they wouldn't see that this is wrong as they will just think they are being helpful. Grrr. Wish they would just butt out.

 

[MinnieMel]

I am so so so so so wracked off today. Really peeved.

I know we have the wedding planned and booked, but OH has not yet actually proposed. Anyway, he has been planning a surprise in the NY and I have been working hard at not noticing and working out what it is, as he is terrible at planning surprises. Anyway, he had ordered me an engagement ring which he then showed his parents the other day. And they promptly told him that it was not worth what he paid for it, he needed to send it back as he had been ripped off, and that it was unlucky (being a black diamond) and then they rang their friends to get their opinions. Which stressed him out so much he ended up telling me all about it, because he is a little superstitious.

So - thank you in laws, you ruined my surprise, stressed out OH and ruined the one and only time he could surprise me, and make a real effort and do something romantic. I have told him I would love to have the one he has spent time and effort thinking about and choosing for me, as it means so much more. And I don't believe in superstition. But, it will play on his mind now and worry him.

I am still fuming about it, a day later, and really upset that my one and only ever proposal has now been ruined. If they come over here today I might well let rip. But, they wouldn't see that this is wrong as they will just think they are being helpful. Grrr. Wish they would just butt out.

It is not the ring it is the man.

Tell him that you want the ring that is "different" because your love is unique.

Also, tell him that his parents are from another generation and times change.

You are obviously a fashion risk taker (the fun shoes) and I think this ring sounds very much like you (so, he knows you).

As far as the surprise goes -- you were surprised that he chose this and he wanted your opinion because people who do not know him as well as you doubted his choice -- and you have no doubts. He can still surprise with the time and place of the proposal. But, try not to make this a stressful thing for him.

Also, surprises are not always good. I am glad that he asked you (about the ring) and did not just take it back and do what his parents suggested without asking you.

Please do not get on to them -- I am sure they meant no harm. He probably showed it to them and asked their opinion because he was pleased with his choice -- and they screwed up. Parents do. It was a "Do I look fat in this" moment and they did not get that. (I once said that my son's girlfriend was very pretty, but not all that bright -- and he wanted to hear that she was "perfect"... lesson learned.)

You need to let this go... they created him. I pay more attention to my Mother-in-law for Mothers' Day than my own, because I feel that she was and is an outstanding mother and I am (despite his imperfections) grateful for my husband of nearly 25 years.

Congrats on having a lot sorted re: the wedding, a lovely and unique ring in the offing and I wish you a wonderful Christmas and a fantastic trip to the Big Apple.

 

[egbert]

It is not the ring it is the man.

Tell him that you want the ring that is "different" because your love is unique.

Also, tell him that his parents are from another generation and times change.

You are obviously a fashion risk taker (the fun shoes) and I think this ring sounds very much like you (so, he knows you).

As far as the surprise goes -- you were surprised that he chose this and he wanted your opinion because people who do not know him as well as you doubted his choice -- and you have no doubts. He can still surprise with the time and place of the proposal. But, try not to make this a stressful thing for him.

Also, surprises are not always good. I am glad that he asked you (about the ring) and did not just take it back and do what his parents suggested without asking you.

Please do not get on to them -- I am sure they meant no harm. He probably showed it to them and asked their opinion because he was pleased with his choice -- and they screwed up. Parents do. It was a "Do I look fat in this" moment and they did not get that. (I once said that my son's girlfriend was very pretty, but not all that bright -- and he wanted to hear that she was "perfect"... lesson learned.)

You need to let this go... they created him. I pay more attention to my Mother-in-law for Mothers' Day than my own, because I feel that she was and is an outstanding mother and I am (despite his imperfections) grateful for my husband of nearly 25 years.

Congrats on having a lot sorted re: the wedding, a lovely and unique ring in the offing and I wish you a wonderful Christmas and a fantastic trip to the Big Apple.

Mel, I know you are right and I should just shrug it off. I shrug off so many things they say and do that make OH feel small and crap. They always question his judgement, even when he gives them a professional opinion about something from his work experience. He is 44!

The phoning of their friends to get their opinion drives me barmy. When I was pg they rang their friends to check what I should/shouldnt be eating. They saw me throwing empties out, and called some friends to ask how much I should be drinking when pg (I wasn't drinking, I was having a clear out). When we were choosing a school for our daughter, they rang round to get other peoples opinions on the schools, including some complete stranger who had moved into a house their friends had sold, to see what she thought of the area since she had moved for the catchement, and then told me that she sounded educated on the phone so her opinion must be a good one, better of course than any I had found from my own research/visiting the actual schools. . . . . its the interfering that makes me so mad. That, and constantly questioning OHs judgement and making him doubt himself. And then they complain to me that he has no confidence and 'why do I think that is' as if I am not supportive.

Anyway, I will ignore this as usual. OH has come home and I have told him that as long as he gets the valuation to his satisfaction that he has not been ripped off, then thats the ring I want. the one he chose for me!



Oh - sorry for the confusion, I meant in the New Year (NY), not the Big Apple. Although that would be a great surprise

 

[mama22]

My mum has a black diamond engagement ring and my parents have been married 35 years on the 15th december x

 

[egbert]

Hmm- well what a day of palaver. Succinctly, the ring is going back. On the bright side, looks like I get to go ring shopping over the new year.

Anyway, weight is maintaining - i have gone up 3lbs from my lowest but seem to be sticking here, fingers crossed, while I relax a bit over xmas. I am quite ready for the New year and getting right back on the wagon though! Not enjoying eating as much as I had expected.

 

[missfortissimo]

I agree with MinnieMel!

It's NONE of their business anyway! Let the man do what he wants!


(They honestly believe in LUCK? How stupid.)

 

[MinnieMel]

My mum has a black diamond engagement ring and my parents have been married 35 years on the 15th december x

There you go... good luck. 35 years is nothing to sneeze at! Congrats to your mum and dad!

 

[egbert]

Well, OH and I went ring shopping today as he was home from work early, went to our favourite jewellers and found the perfect ring in about 5 minutes - lol. Its very similar to the one he chose but with a blue sapphire instead.

Only, I am not allowed to have it yet, he still wants to propose properly

Other wedding news - I have received my daughters bridesmaid dress and shoes, so apart from some alterations she is set. And honeymoon is booked. Its all coming together!


On the diet side . . . well, I hope I am able to recover fast after xmas. I think I am stable at 10.10, but I would prefer to be stable lower. Looking forward to xmas, I love xmas, but also looking forward to after xmas and getting on track again. POsitive I suppose, that I want to be dieting.

 

[missfortissimo]

Egbert, I feel the same way about Christmas. LOL it's nice to be taking a break from the diet and I'm doing exercise to try and balance it out, but I'd love to get back on the weight loss wagon too!

Blue sapphire sounds lovely! Is that your birthstone by chance? My engagement ring was two emerald-cut peridot stones because that is the August birthstone, and OH and I both have august birthdays. Was a lot cheaper than a diamond too!

 

[egbert]

Its actually sapphire and diamond, and that is OH's, DS and DD's birthstones, so I decided it was good to combine all of my family in a ring I wear every day. Plus sapphires tend to come from Sri Lanka. So, if I was into symbolism I guess it would all be meaningful.

 

[MinnieMel]

Sounds perfect -- I am glad that it worked out so well.

Merry Christmas to you and yours.

 

[egbert]

Well, we went to the pub last night. Except I was feeling so grotty I only had 3 bottles of Bud. WHich I am glad about as I didn't want loads anyway. So, hopefully no damage done today. Still- its a day on lemsip and throat lozenges for me. Poorly DS also has a virus and his temp is up and down. Time to go to my mums for xmas and let her look after us all!

I am a little concerned though - that being on a diet for so long has put me off food and drink completely. LOL - I just don't enjoy eating (which is good, but I was aiming at not enjoying quantities, not just being put off food altogether) and not bothered about having a drink. Either I am getting old or maybe its just cos I am poorly.

 

[egbert]

Drove for 2.5 hours and 130 miles, and then my daughter threw up all over my car in the last 30 seconds as we pulled into my mums driveway. Feeling very achy and tied,looks like a poorly Xmas. Voice has gone completely, just whispering at everyone around me! On the bright side, just not feeling hungry at all.