JOEYJOJO'S PREGNANCY DIARY
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Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
I know.. I can't wait either.. Although yesterday she was eating with her hands and as soon as there was any sign of mess, she dropped what she was holding so not sure how its gona go.. lol
Am contemplating baking my own rainbow cake.. (No idea where I think the time is coming from!!) as I think it looks the job... But I'm not spending €60/70 for something to go in the bin!
Am contemplating baking my own rainbow cake.. (No idea where I think the time is coming from!!) as I think it looks the job... But I'm not spending €60/70 for something to go in the bin!
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
JoeyJoJo
Bring on the weight loss!
Been a busy few days. Took a pregnancy test yesterday as period was due....BFN 
AF still not here but with my pcos thats hardly surprising - it just turns up when it chooses!
In better news - i got the job at Tesco and so i work tues, wed and thurs evenings to bring in more money. Im just glad it wont affect me being able to look after Joshua during the day etc
Joshuas cousins 1st birthday party this afternoon so looking forward to that
AF still not here but with my pcos thats hardly surprising - it just turns up when it chooses!In better news - i got the job at Tesco and so i work tues, wed and thurs evenings to bring in more money. Im just glad it wont affect me being able to look after Joshua during the day etc
Joshuas cousins 1st birthday party this afternoon so looking forward to that
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
Been a busy few days. Took a pregnancy test yesterday as period was due....BFN
In better news - i got the job at Tesco and so i work tues, wed and thurs evenings to bring in more money. Im just glad it wont affect me being able to look after Joshua during the day etc
Joshuas cousins 1st birthday party this afternoon so looking forward to that
Sorry re the bfp but yay to the job. Congrats hun. Great news
JoeyJoJo
Bring on the weight loss!
Thanks girls Am pretty disappointed and it also looks like we may leave it now until next year because if we can spend 4/5 months paying off a few things it leaves us in a better position and also might get maternity pay again which would obviously help loads. Bit gutted but needs must and it gives me some more time to lose weight i suppose
Am pretty disappointed and it also looks like we may leave it now until next year because if we can spend 4/5 months paying off a few things it leaves us in a better position and also might get maternity pay again which would obviously help loads. Bit gutted but needs must and it gives me some more time to lose weight i suppose
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
Thanks girls
I hear ya hun. Myself and Sarah have out it back a bit as well. It is hard but as u say... Needs must. Hugs xxx
JoeyJoJo
Bring on the weight loss!
Sent the following email to head of midwifery tonight:
Evening,
I would like to make a request for information regarding the birth of my son on 19 January 2014.
He had 'an infection' after his birth...for which he received 4 days of IV antibiotics. My concern is - we were never told what this infection actually was and I would like to know in order to possibly be aware for future pregnancies (amongst other things). I believe it was a real concern at the time as the doctors tried to do a lumbar puncture/something to do with a needle and the spine but it failed? Looking back I feel that we were very much kept out of the loop about what was actually going on and I have wondered ever since leaving hospital what that infection actually was.
Can I request a meeting please to find out full information in this regard? My sons discharge summary mentions 'suspected sepsis' and mentions about me being a known group B strep carrier (although this was never mentioned to me at any point). I had asked about group B strep during my normal pregnancy checkups at the time as I had read about it and had concerns..but I was told not to worry and not to have any test done for it as they are unreliable etc
I do also have other concerns regarding our treatment after birth which are as follows:
- At one point my baby was being taken out of our room by a member of staff just as I woke up. At which point the staff member did then explain that he was being taken for his medicine downstairs. Point being....they were going to take my baby without my knowledge whilst i was asleep and i would have woken up extremely upset to find him gone.
- Another time we were asked/told by a midwife to fill out our own paperwork re medicines I was taking. That was ridiculous enough but when she tried to explain how to fill it out...she didnt even understand how to do it herself!
I do not feel that after the trauma of giving birth..trying to recover and having an ill baby...that I should have been asked to fill out a midwife's paperwork for her.
- There was a severe lack of information given to me regarding how soon to try to breastfeed my son. He was taken away shortly after I gave birth to him re his infection and I did not see him again for some time afterwards. By
the time he was brought back to me.. I was becoming concerned that he needed to try to feed and asked for some assistance as Im a first time mum and have no clue where to start/how to do it. I was constantly promised 'someone is coming' but no one ever came. I was eventually told by the team from downstairs dealing with my sons
infection that his blood sugar was low and 'havnt i tried to feed him yet?'. I explained I have tried and have asked for help but no one is helping me. At this point it had been 12 hours since his birth with no feed. They advised because of his infection and his low blood sugar I needed to give him a bottle...which I did. Whilst still waiting for assistance re breastfeeding my son had to keep having bottles to make sure he is feeding. This went on for days and
days...me trying over and over to get him to breastfeed...and having to give bottles to make sure hes getting something. I believe that all of this led to confusion for him. When I did eventually get 'some' help..it always seemed to take ages to get him to latch and when he did eventually learn to latch..he didnt feed. Because of the subsequent difficulties in getting my son to breastfeed - he ended up being bottle fed which upset me for months afterwards as I knew breastfeeding was best for him and felt a huge amount of guilt. This led me to feel extremely angry for the lack of help received. I feel if I had received help from the start then maybe things would have been different
- The standard/level of care varied hugely from midwife to midwife. Some were only too willing to help and couldnt do enough for you (very few)...others were not interested at all and virtually ignored you even if you needed help.
I found a startling amount of midwives would not come back at all if you ask for help with something important (medicine queries, breastfeeding assistance etc). This was despite knowing that several people before them hadnt helped me and despite promising that they would come back. I would chase for things endless amounts of times
and sometimes....I would have to give up trying. I was made to feel bad for asking for anything.....I felt abandoned and alone. There was such a tiny amount of space on the ward for me, baby and our things considering we were going to end up staying there for 5 days. These reasons all contributed to me feeling like I had no choice but
to pay for a private room. My husband was then there to help look after both me (I could barely move after episiotomy and traumatic birth) and baby. This was a huge cost to us at a time when we desperately needed the money for our baby....but I felt I had no choice. I did not want to be left alone on the ward in a tiny little
area..barely able to move....feeling completely helpless, alone...unable to ask for help.
If by bringing some of these issues to your attention it means no other women/babies go through
what I did...then it will have been well worth it. I am unfortunately genuinely really concerned about the after-birth care for any future pregnancies at the moment.
I appreciate any help you can give me
Many thanks in advance
Evening,
I would like to make a request for information regarding the birth of my son on 19 January 2014.
He had 'an infection' after his birth...for which he received 4 days of IV antibiotics. My concern is - we were never told what this infection actually was and I would like to know in order to possibly be aware for future pregnancies (amongst other things). I believe it was a real concern at the time as the doctors tried to do a lumbar puncture/something to do with a needle and the spine but it failed? Looking back I feel that we were very much kept out of the loop about what was actually going on and I have wondered ever since leaving hospital what that infection actually was.
Can I request a meeting please to find out full information in this regard? My sons discharge summary mentions 'suspected sepsis' and mentions about me being a known group B strep carrier (although this was never mentioned to me at any point). I had asked about group B strep during my normal pregnancy checkups at the time as I had read about it and had concerns..but I was told not to worry and not to have any test done for it as they are unreliable etc
I do also have other concerns regarding our treatment after birth which are as follows:
- At one point my baby was being taken out of our room by a member of staff just as I woke up. At which point the staff member did then explain that he was being taken for his medicine downstairs. Point being....they were going to take my baby without my knowledge whilst i was asleep and i would have woken up extremely upset to find him gone.
- Another time we were asked/told by a midwife to fill out our own paperwork re medicines I was taking. That was ridiculous enough but when she tried to explain how to fill it out...she didnt even understand how to do it herself!
I do not feel that after the trauma of giving birth..trying to recover and having an ill baby...that I should have been asked to fill out a midwife's paperwork for her.
- There was a severe lack of information given to me regarding how soon to try to breastfeed my son. He was taken away shortly after I gave birth to him re his infection and I did not see him again for some time afterwards. By
the time he was brought back to me.. I was becoming concerned that he needed to try to feed and asked for some assistance as Im a first time mum and have no clue where to start/how to do it. I was constantly promised 'someone is coming' but no one ever came. I was eventually told by the team from downstairs dealing with my sons
infection that his blood sugar was low and 'havnt i tried to feed him yet?'. I explained I have tried and have asked for help but no one is helping me. At this point it had been 12 hours since his birth with no feed. They advised because of his infection and his low blood sugar I needed to give him a bottle...which I did. Whilst still waiting for assistance re breastfeeding my son had to keep having bottles to make sure he is feeding. This went on for days and
days...me trying over and over to get him to breastfeed...and having to give bottles to make sure hes getting something. I believe that all of this led to confusion for him. When I did eventually get 'some' help..it always seemed to take ages to get him to latch and when he did eventually learn to latch..he didnt feed. Because of the subsequent difficulties in getting my son to breastfeed - he ended up being bottle fed which upset me for months afterwards as I knew breastfeeding was best for him and felt a huge amount of guilt. This led me to feel extremely angry for the lack of help received. I feel if I had received help from the start then maybe things would have been different
- The standard/level of care varied hugely from midwife to midwife. Some were only too willing to help and couldnt do enough for you (very few)...others were not interested at all and virtually ignored you even if you needed help.
I found a startling amount of midwives would not come back at all if you ask for help with something important (medicine queries, breastfeeding assistance etc). This was despite knowing that several people before them hadnt helped me and despite promising that they would come back. I would chase for things endless amounts of times
and sometimes....I would have to give up trying. I was made to feel bad for asking for anything.....I felt abandoned and alone. There was such a tiny amount of space on the ward for me, baby and our things considering we were going to end up staying there for 5 days. These reasons all contributed to me feeling like I had no choice but
to pay for a private room. My husband was then there to help look after both me (I could barely move after episiotomy and traumatic birth) and baby. This was a huge cost to us at a time when we desperately needed the money for our baby....but I felt I had no choice. I did not want to be left alone on the ward in a tiny little
area..barely able to move....feeling completely helpless, alone...unable to ask for help.
If by bringing some of these issues to your attention it means no other women/babies go through
what I did...then it will have been well worth it. I am unfortunately genuinely really concerned about the after-birth care for any future pregnancies at the moment.
I appreciate any help you can give me
Many thanks in advance
Sammielouise071
25 years old.Vegetarian .Calorie Counter
Oh Hun what a horrible time you had you poor thing it's disgraceful the lack of care you received and unfortunately seems to be quite common - my aunty recently had a terrible time too - she was left to care for her baby all on her own through the night after having attempted forceps delivery , epidural and cesarean so as you can imagine was extremely sore with no support her partner had to go home she had no help with feeding and was basically thrown out after 1 night despite being able to even lift her baby because of how unwell she was.
I hope that your letter makes the hospital consider the way they treat their patients and improve their service.. They do after all have a duty of care to the women and their families.
Let us know what they say , I think your letter is fab xxx
it's disgraceful the lack of care you received and unfortunately seems to be quite common - my aunty recently had a terrible time too - she was left to care for her baby all on her own through the night after having attempted forceps delivery , epidural and cesarean so as you can imagine was extremely sore with no support her partner had to go home she had no help with feeding and was basically thrown out after 1 night despite being able to even lift her baby because of how unwell she was. I hope that your letter makes the hospital consider the way they treat their patients and improve their service.. They do after all have a duty of care to the women and their families.
Let us know what they say , I think your letter is fab xxx
JoeyJoJo
Bring on the weight loss!
I really hope so hun Im really annoyed that i recently saw on our discharge notes that im a group strep b carrier and they never told me. Im now 98% sure thats why my little man had an infection after birth. Just really lucky he responded to the antibiotics during the 4 days. It wouldnt have happened if they had given me iv antibiotics during labour
Im really annoyed that i recently saw on our discharge notes that im a group strep b carrier and they never told me. Im now 98% sure thats why my little man had an infection after birth. Just really lucky he responded to the antibiotics during the 4 days. It wouldnt have happened if they had given me iv antibiotics during labour
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
My dog went for Joshua this morning
Absolutely gutted and the guilt is unbearable
Oh Joey hunnie u poor thing. U must have got an awful fright. Poor Josh. His little face
He didnt bite him tho did he??
How's hubbie?
U can't blame yourself hun. You had no way of knowing its happen. Please don't beat yourself up xxxx
JoeyJoJo
Bring on the weight loss!
Oh Joey hunnie u poor thing. U must have got an awful fright. Poor Josh. His little face
He didnt bite him tho did he??
How's hubbie?
U can't blame yourself hun. You had no way of knowing its happen. Please don't beat yourself up xxxx
he did bite him yeah...the marks on his face are puncture marks. Luckily not deep enough that stitches or anything were needed....one puncture is right under his eye...sooooo close
ScaryHubby came straight home from work and met us at hospital. Had to get my mum to go to hospital with me too whilst waiting for hubby i was in such a state
Im just still in shock tbh
