bettiesrevenge
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Uh? Gosh, some children do have 'em. I'd love to have a BMI of 24.8 (or even 23.8 - which is what it actually is - s*d their scales). Parents - they screw you up.
I know it's really really tough. For years, my father couldn't actually resist making some comment about my weight. It wasn't until I hit my late 30s that I finally had it out with him - stuff along the lines of why did it matter so much how much I weighed - was he trying to say he loved me less when I was fatter, etc? Of course, he was horrified. Said he'd only been trying to be encouraging.
But it took me years to figure out why, after going to visit my parents, I'd always fall off whatever diet I was doing. No matter how many weeks I'd been doing brilliantly, a single visit to my parents could throw me straight off plan.
It's horrible, isn't it, knowing that your father will somehow be prouder of you if you lost weight? Kind of makes you wonder how he came to have that attitude. Again, it took me years to figure out, but I think it was because his mother was always overweight (still is, but she's 100 now, so I reckon she's allowed) and he was embarrassed that his mother was bigger than all his friends' mothers.
I guess all of that is a roundabout way of saying that it's his issue, not yours. You are a perfectly normal healthy weight (yes, I know you'd like to be a little bit slimmer
{{{Hugs}}}
Oh I couldnt agree with Lilly more. That's not ok for you to endure that kind of preasure from your parents. I too have a highly critical mother, who actually leaves TRAPS around to derail me (thats not my parranoid imagination) "Natalie, you really just need to have willpower, look at how fit I am" - she is 60 and looks about 40, and I mean a well groomed 40 year old!
Anyway back to you. Your current BMI is already at the bottom end of the normal range, when you get down to the 19's you will be seriously slim. If thats where YOU want to be, then great Go for it!!! But if thats where your parents want you to be, you need to re-evaluate it, because when there is an external locus of control (an external force which motivates you) whatever you try and achieve is never sustainable. You need to get to a healthy, manageable weight and (much like me) change your outlook to be ok around food and stop the YoYoing.
Super Big Hugs
Nat
