Lost all this weight
- Thread starter mrs big b
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Sounds like your both out of the habit! Possibly very tired with managing the children etc etc.
I know when i was bigger, I tried to avoid the intimate side - even in the dark he always managed to grab a huge handful of wobble - well that wasnt hard all of me was wobble lol
Now I am a skinny mini I still have the hang ups, still in 'fat girl' mind set, but it did seem that as I lost weight I felt more desirable and wanted 'it' more but as i had tried to avoid was very unsure of myself and didnt know how to bridge that gap, which can work both ways.
My hubby has always proclaimed his love for me whatever my size, and I only have to look at him sideways for him to take that as a lets go!
Perhaps small steps - a fun tickle session, a laugh and a joke, a wolf whistle, a hug. He may be feeling just as insecure and unsure as you, so a viscious cycle which will need to be broken.
Good luck to you both, I am sure that once you get over this hurdle there will be no stopping you
I know when i was bigger, I tried to avoid the intimate side - even in the dark he always managed to grab a huge handful of wobble - well that wasnt hard all of me was wobble lol
Now I am a skinny mini I still have the hang ups, still in 'fat girl' mind set, but it did seem that as I lost weight I felt more desirable and wanted 'it' more but as i had tried to avoid was very unsure of myself and didnt know how to bridge that gap, which can work both ways.
My hubby has always proclaimed his love for me whatever my size, and I only have to look at him sideways for him to take that as a lets go!
Perhaps small steps - a fun tickle session, a laugh and a joke, a wolf whistle, a hug. He may be feeling just as insecure and unsure as you, so a viscious cycle which will need to be broken.
Good luck to you both, I am sure that once you get over this hurdle there will be no stopping you
Maximus
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Spanx
Pea on legs!
I was in a similar situation with my ex. He went from not being able to keep his hands off me, to not coming anywhere near me, seemingly overnight. We ended up splitting up, but there was a lot more wrong between us than just a lack of sex!
It sounds like your marriage is in much better shape, so I would agree with the others who think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel, and do it quickly, before your confidence in your own sexiness goes.
It's taken me two years (and 5 stone off) to regain my confidence - and I'm only just beginning to see myself as attractive again.
Good luck! x
It sounds like your marriage is in much better shape, so I would agree with the others who think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel, and do it quickly, before your confidence in your own sexiness goes.
It's taken me two years (and 5 stone off) to regain my confidence - and I'm only just beginning to see myself as attractive again.
Good luck! x
Wish
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Yaayyy! Result Mrs B
I was just thinking about what you were saying about your self esteem and then I saw another thread on here about someone booking themselves a Boudoir Photoshoot and thought what a fab idea for you, you could all glammed up and looking like a super sexy women that you are, but just don't realise yet and have some fab pics taken, to remind you and your OH of who you are, besides a busy stressed mum
Go for it, I bet you will feel fabulous x
I was just thinking about what you were saying about your self esteem and then I saw another thread on here about someone booking themselves a Boudoir Photoshoot and thought what a fab idea for you, you could all glammed up and looking like a super sexy women that you are, but just don't realise yet and have some fab pics taken, to remind you and your OH of who you are, besides a busy stressed mum
Go for it, I bet you will feel fabulous x
Shirleen
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Wohoo well im not alone tonight and a bit more body magic to add to my weeks activities
Wooohooo!
mrs big b
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Wish said:Yaayyy! Result Mrs B
I was just thinking about what you were saying about your self esteem and then I saw another thread on here about someone booking themselves a Boudoir Photoshoot and thought what a fab idea for you, you could all glammed up and looking like a super sexy women that you are, but just don't realise yet and have some fab pics taken, to remind you and your OH of who you are, besides a busy stressed mum
Go for it, I bet you will feel fabulous x
Ooh I love this idea my birthday is march 6th and I hope to be at target or close by then so maybe a present for my birthday thanks that's a wonderful idea
Shirleen
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Ooh I love this idea my birthday is march 6th and I hope to be at target or close by then so maybe a present for my birthday thanks that's a wonderful idea
ALL the best people were born in the first two weeks of March...I've done the research!
Sassia
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I think you'll find it's actually the last two weeks of October.....
Fedupbeingafattie!
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Hello Mrs Big BAnd still don't think my husbands remotely interested in me
Still I'm not gonna let it stop me I'm doing this for me . Feeling quite down about it all though and just residing myself that going to bed by myself is going to be part of my life always I think .
Im so sorry to hear you're so down*hugs*
But good on ya for not lettin it stop ur fantastic losses!! You have done so well!!
You luk fab in ur pic!!
I didnt want to read n run
xxRo
Shirleen
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Take it that's when yours is then
Well how nice of you to notice! Yes mine's the 13th and YES it was a friday!
I agree some pretty good people were born late October, their mothers are even better
MadameLaMinx
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Sassia said:
True that.
