Hi Lottie ... I can't even tell you know much I relate to your opening post.
I can't say I've gone through intense meddling (which is probably the root of the problem) from your parents at such an early age, but I too, have always been a fat kid. My parents and grandparents would always point this out (but never in a mean way I guess).
At age 14 I was a size 22/24 which was extremely unpleasant and for the longest time, I never saw my size. I hear what you're saying about binge eating... and I do at this point have to warn you, that a VLCD can, in some instances, trigger this too.
I'd always been a secret eater, emotional eater to comfort myself etc... but, then I went on Lighter Life in 2008, which triggered after about a year and a half, an intense fear of food and having control. So reverse binge eating if you know what I mean... soothing myself by punishment and food restriction. Then it backfired and all I could do was eat, eat, eat and I thought I'd die if I stopped eating at any point in the day. A panic of NOT having a food crutch.
I see you've had some therapy and you have moved out of the city which you associate with all this messy past. These are all good things. Continuing with self-CBT is probably going to help you, to write down things in this diary, how you feel and what triggers you are finding. Mine's stress/anxiety and boredom (usually anyway). Maybe you don't like feeling deprived of what you like to have as well? (I used to get binges stemming from "deprivation" of bread - but I've resolved those now
).
I really hope I haven't put you off SnS. This is actually a good diet because it's a real step back away from food, away from having to make ANY decisions and it really highlights what situations and emotions are the triggers. It's an evaluation tool more than a diet.
I wish you all the best on Monday!! We're all in this together!
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