Coley
Re-starter
Hey you!!! I'm trying to avoid going to uni...t'is my birfday today and it's not fair that I should have to go into uni!! wwwwwah!!!
Had massive row with Gavin last night...I was super calm and trying to explain things and he was going nuts! so he kept hanging up on me so I didn't call him back! at the end of it, I told him what I wanted and that I'm not compromising any of it.
Told him he has to decide now, whether it's yes or no and if he says yes, then he has to sort it now, as in stop smoking now not "soon" and all the rest of my demands. I'm fed up of asking nicely and getting fobbed off (I'll do it soon....I'll do it when I'm ready etc). I'm not putting up with it.
After much trying to wrangle it so that I would adjust things ("Nicole, thats a bit unreasonable, nicotine is more accidictive than heroin" "it's none of your business if I smoke or not" "who are you to tell me to do things") blar blar blar, this coming from the man who branded people who can't give up smoking "pathetic" because he can do it with no trouble at all as he has done so many times before (he claims is a social smoker, apart from he now does it all the time) he said yes he would do everything I wanted....he isn't getting away with contradicting himself!
Power to me!! I did have to put my relationship on the line and I was quite willing to lose it.
I don't want to be moaning at him for the rest of my life and him not hearing a word I say. It's not good for me to moan all the time and it's not good for him to feel like I'm ordering him about all the time! I didn't sign up for this and it's not happening!! thats that!
So will see how that goes. I couldn't have kept on like this, my relationship being in a mess affects everything else in my life it interferes with everything and I can't work properly so I had to have it sorted one way or another. There are a lot of other bits and bobs apart from the smoking that were getting me, stuff with ex's etc but I'm not going to go into all that on here. But thats all been agreed to also so I will be enforcing all of it and if it doesn't happen he's being chucked.
I sound totally harsh and controlling and awful but all of it is pretty simple stuff. He always knew I don't tolerate smoking, getting pissed on a week night, being so drunk that you can't remember , try to start fights with people in the street and you can't wake up for work is not on! I want him to act like he gives a crap and that everything else isn't more important than me.
So there is my rant...don't know if any of it helped you hun but thats whats happened with me!! rant over...time to go and wander about.......
Had massive row with Gavin last night...I was super calm and trying to explain things and he was going nuts! so he kept hanging up on me so I didn't call him back! at the end of it, I told him what I wanted and that I'm not compromising any of it.
Told him he has to decide now, whether it's yes or no and if he says yes, then he has to sort it now, as in stop smoking now not "soon" and all the rest of my demands. I'm fed up of asking nicely and getting fobbed off (I'll do it soon....I'll do it when I'm ready etc). I'm not putting up with it.
After much trying to wrangle it so that I would adjust things ("Nicole, thats a bit unreasonable, nicotine is more accidictive than heroin" "it's none of your business if I smoke or not" "who are you to tell me to do things") blar blar blar, this coming from the man who branded people who can't give up smoking "pathetic" because he can do it with no trouble at all as he has done so many times before (he claims is a social smoker, apart from he now does it all the time) he said yes he would do everything I wanted....he isn't getting away with contradicting himself!
Power to me!! I did have to put my relationship on the line and I was quite willing to lose it.
I don't want to be moaning at him for the rest of my life and him not hearing a word I say. It's not good for me to moan all the time and it's not good for him to feel like I'm ordering him about all the time! I didn't sign up for this and it's not happening!! thats that!
So will see how that goes. I couldn't have kept on like this, my relationship being in a mess affects everything else in my life it interferes with everything and I can't work properly so I had to have it sorted one way or another. There are a lot of other bits and bobs apart from the smoking that were getting me, stuff with ex's etc but I'm not going to go into all that on here. But thats all been agreed to also so I will be enforcing all of it and if it doesn't happen he's being chucked.
I sound totally harsh and controlling and awful but all of it is pretty simple stuff. He always knew I don't tolerate smoking, getting pissed on a week night, being so drunk that you can't remember , try to start fights with people in the street and you can't wake up for work is not on! I want him to act like he gives a crap and that everything else isn't more important than me.
So there is my rant...don't know if any of it helped you hun but thats whats happened with me!! rant over...time to go and wander about.......
