HI Fatmumof1 - I think the Exante shakes, bars and meals are, on the whole, pretty good. Like everything, you'll find ones you love and ones you dont, but if you try as many as you can, you will find there are enough you love to keep it interesting.
Exante have stopped shipping to the USA, so I am calorie counting again until either they change their minds or I move back to the UK. The meal replacement plans over here are not as good (no shepherds pie or Spagbol!). So over the last two months I have been calorie counting I have lost a stone, so slower progress but not too shabby.
I dont know who wrote the weightloss rules, but it isnt straightforward, linear or easy. You should start, restart as many times as you like and tell only who you feel comfortable doing so. You should be proud that you are always trying to get to your goal, not ashamed because the last thing didn't work.
Good Luck