I'm not sure to be honest. I think given the choice I'd say go for the change in hours as you won't be missing out on pay but will get more time with little one, however I don't think after school clubs or breakfast club are bad for children, it all just depends on circumstance.
As for the ring, I don't want an expensive one, but I do want one lol. Boyfriend also wants to do it properly, his mum suggested once that we didn't need to actually get engaged and he didn't agree.
i know they can be good but i suppose the main issue is since he was 10months old we have paid average 480 per month in childcare and sfterschool costs means seven more years of paying for more childcare. think i just answered my own question lol seems like a no brainer
would you have a long engagement? just an idea about no engagement if the only thing stopping you guys is money for a ring esp if wedding money is available. maybe he is secretly saving if he wants to do it traditionally lol