Anyone in the 9s want to be in the 8's ??

[donna88]

i can understand why you are frustrated - you have taken away the "only thing stopping me is the money for the ring" problem yet he is making it an obstacle. I would say to take a step back and let him do it his way but you want to get married before having more kids therefore if thats what he wants too and the money is there then i dont see the problem. If you got engaged this year when would you be looking to get married?
Its a teeny wee bit strange that his mum has bought shoes for a wedding that hasnt been announced yet? does that not add to the pressure for the both of you?
Good for you for going to weigh in - just stay on track and you will be fine x

Yeah I plan on just backing off a little on the subject, but glad you see why I'm frustrated lol.

If we got engaged this year we'd be looking at getting married possibly next year but probably 2015, would have to look at what we wanted and when they were available ect.

She can be a little odd at times, she talks about the wedding a lot, which like you say does add pressure when we're not even engaged yet, she's even in the past when I've said we're not even engaged yet, said that we don't need to get engaged these days and could just have a wedding. (I'm glad my boyfriend doesn't agree with that lol)


Not sure how I'm feeling right now about WI.... I'm not feeling too much heavier.... but I know what I ate, so we will see, will be good to find out what the damage is with me feeling like that to be fair, I just hope if I'm out of target (which I imagine I will be as I only have half a lb and then I'm out...whoops) that I'm back in next week, but if I'm not its not the end of the world.

 

[icklerockchick]

I honestly think everyone looks amazing!

Its funny how we view ourselves so much worse than we view others isn't it? I think we are all pretty similar really - all at or close to target and now its just working on toning the last few wobbles. Its hard to not view ourselves still as the way we were when bigger but everyone is looking slim and gorgeous!

Ah Donna it's a complicated one. Maybe he does just want to do it his own way in his own time - and I can see why maybe he wouldn't feel comfortable using joint savings. But at the same time I think when you are living together and raising a child together its hard to have seperate pots of money - often just not practical is it? Men can be so hard to judge as generally they are just so rubbish at talking about how they feel! However I can never be bothered with stressing out and wondering what someone else feels about something I tend to just ask them outright. Have you explained to him what thou wrote here? About how you are not wanting to pressure him but its just to be nice to have a frame of reference time wise as you want to have plenty time to plan a wedding and then try for a baby after the wedding so that the little one can have a sibling before he gets too old to really appreciate a sibling as a playmate rather than having a massive age gap. I always find a good honest open chat makes everyone feel much better even if it can be hard to do esp with men! Xx

 

[debtin]

I honestly think everyone looks amazing!

Its funny how we view ourselves so much worse than we view others isn't it? I think we are all pretty similar really - all at or close to target and now its just working on toning the last few wobbles. Its hard to not view ourselves still as the way we were when bigger but everyone is looking slim and gorgeous!

Ah Donna it's a complicated one. Maybe he does just want to do it his own way in his own time - and I can see why maybe he wouldn't feel comfortable using joint savings. But at the same time I think when you are living together and raising a child together its hard to have seperate pots of money - often just not practical is it? Men can be so hard to judge as generally they are just so rubbish at talking about how they feel! However I can never be bothered with stressing out and wondering what someone else feels about something I tend to just ask them outright. Have you explained to him what thou wrote here? About how you are not wanting to pressure him but its just to be nice to have a frame of reference time wise as you want to have plenty time to plan a wedding and then try for a baby after the wedding so that the little one can have a sibling before he gets too old to really appreciate a sibling as a playmate rather than having a massive age gap. I always find a good honest open chat makes everyone feel much better even if it can be hard to do esp with men! Xx

very wise words all round Laura. x

 

[donna88]

Everything you've said makes sense Laura, boyfriend really isn't one for talking though. I think I'm better off just leaving him to it and taking the pressure off, when I try and talk to him he sort of just closes off. Men aye


WI went surprisingly well today, I maintained, was really good eating out, had carvery so synned a little gravy, gave little one my yorkshire pud and stayed away from all the things like stuffing I did have a decaff coffee which came with a little biscuit, which I did eat but considering everyone else had hot chocolate with cream and the biscuit I don't think I did bad

 

[lilprincessvic]

Everything you've said makes sense Laura, boyfriend really isn't one for talking though. I think I'm better off just leaving him to it and taking the pressure off, when I try and talk to him he sort of just closes off. Men aye


WI went surprisingly well today, I maintained, was really good eating out, had carvery so synned a little gravy, gave little one my yorkshire pud and stayed away from all the things like stuffing I did have a decaff coffee which came with a little biscuit, which I did eat but considering everyone else had hot chocolate with cream and the biscuit I don't think I did bad

Well done on sts donna :-D

 

[donna88]

Thank you, don't know how I pulled it off though, did make some good decisions mind, just not as many as I should have lol. Hopefully it will set me up to loose next week though.

Just had a phone call from my boyfriend, its made me really sad, I could actually cry (I'm not crying but feel like I could) just made me realise I really miss him, I know its sad as he's not even been gone a day yet (left at 6.20 this morning) but we haven't had a day apart since we moved in together a few years ago, the one time I did tell him to go to his friends (we were both suppose to be doing something with him, but his girlfriend was busy so I said just my boyfriend should go so they could do whatever it is they do without worrying about me) he went over and then text me around 10 pm saying he was going to drive home rather then stop over because he missed me (its about an hours drive away)

 

[kim63]

Well done on the STS Donna.

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[debtin]

yay well done donna...good for you. when is boyfriend back?

 

[debtin]

day one of shred complete...along with galaxy Easter egg. naughty but oh so good therefore no guilt ;-)

 

[Jo2982]

Lol I like your way of thinking

 

[donna88]

Well done on the STS Donna.

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yay well done donna...good for you. when is boyfriend back?

Thank you,

he gets back tomorrow tea time, so not long really. It's just weird because we're not used to it.

day one of shred complete...along with galaxy Easter egg. naughty but oh so good therefore no guilt ;-)

I like your thinking and good that you enjoyed it.


well day one of being 100% went well yesterday, lets see how today goes, I'm going green. Can't decide whether it will be easier or harder with boyfriend not being here. At least I have Saturday to look forward to.

woke up feeling really rubbish this morning, my throat is killing, hoping it settles as the day goes on.

 

[debtin]

lol not sure my thinking will help tone me though ;-)
my goal is to complete this damn shred before i go to caravan in May!!! 2-3 weeks is the most i have managed so "c'mon me" lol

 

[lilprincessvic]

Keep going deb!!!!

Can anyone recommend a good pair of magic knickers? One of dresses for my hen do has come (I got this one incase the orher didnt come as its coming from china) its a small and It fits. Ok very tightly but it fits. I think I might need some magic knickers to keep it all tooked in as I tend to bloat when I drink x

 

[lilprincessvic]

This is my dreas for hen do. Its a little blurred cos I took it in my diiirty mirror!

 

[debtin]

sweet swoo...it has straps? am sure Kim swears by spanx?? doesn't look like you need them x

 

[debtin]

ladies do you all exercise every day or every second day?

 

[lilprincessvic]

Yer it has tiny thin straps. Ive cut out at the back too. It has a built in bra. Im please with it to be honest. Was only £7 n its only ny fall back option. Ill take better photos later.

I try to exercise everyday even if it's just taking dogs for a trek x

 

[donna88]

I only do my running every other day well Tuesday Thursday and either Saturday or Sunday, I used to exercise everyday but you do need rest days. I do quite a bit of walking ect. on a day to day basis though so its not like I'm not active on my rest days.

You look fab in that dress, I don't have any control pants so can't help sorry You don't look like you need it though, but I know what you mean about bloating when drinking, I'm the same. When is the hen do?

 

[lilprincessvic]

27th. Im very excited x

 

[debtin]

day two of shred done. doing it in underwear and catching youself mid jumping jack is never a good idea lol