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FatFairNForty(ish)
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Mr K is lovely!!!
Just a quick (hmm, yeah) post as only just home and soooo tired!!
Will do the update of the rest of my diary tomorrow or sometime soon, but for now am gonna share about my date!! HE’S LOVELY!!!
Having rung and asked Mr K to meet me half an hour later than planned I felt sure this was a bad sign.. and that he must think I am terribly disorganised and not at all punctual… (hmm, he might have a point , ).. he readily agreed (admitted he was nervous too!). So it was set.. meet at a pub in the next village , in the car park.. at 7.30! My belly was all over the place! I had only half an hour really in which to get ready.. so I showered, dressed, primped and preened.. and ultimately was ready.. quick check with Zoe to see what she thought and I was on my way!! He rang me.. I was so nervous I accidentally hung up, then damn near crashed the car texting him to call again (used up loads of credit earlier chatting to one of my lovely mates )…he did and I gave him directions to the pub.. as it turned out, I was behind him! Lol He has a lovely car.. blue I think.. no idea what make..(who cares!), but very nice to look at.. lol and pretty big too..
We were chatting like mad on the drive there (all 3 miles of it.. lol).. but then we were there, and parked next to one another. I managed to avoid eye contact as I quickly spat out me chewing gum (hate the breath the diet gives me) and had a final squirt of perfume.. and tried to get out of my car gracefully.. I think that walk from my drivers door , round the back of my car and to the space between his and mine, it felt like it took forever! I know it was only seconds.. and I was SO flaming nervous.. I could hear my heart thumping and began to wonder if I should’ve carried on with the pills for my BP from the doc as it was certainly rising!! As we walked towards one another – well, the smiles said it all.
Mr K is everything I thought he would be, and then some! He has the most beautiful blue eyes and a heart of pure gold. He was the perfect gentleman (but with a definite shared sense of humour, lol). There was a moment, just a brief one, where we simply smiled and stared at one another.. then we said hello and he wrapped his arms around me and we hugged. What a hug!! He is lovely. Over 5ft 10 I would guess (am crap with heights.. just know I am 5ft 4 and was up to about the top of his chest) and he’s a big man with a big hug….we just stood rooted to the spot hugging.. just felt so damn right!! He was lovely and warm and cuddly. It was freezing though (and of course on this diet I am already 20 degrees colder than any other living creature!!)..and the wind was picking up and the rain started!, so I started to shiver and he (very gallantly) suggested we go inside.. but not before exchanging a very gentle kiss. I’m glad it was dark as, a rarity for me!, I blushed.
Another hug and holding hands and grinning like a pair of big kids we went inside. The place was deserted! Lol Just us, the bar staff and dozens of empty tables! We went to the bar and ordered our drinks.. he laughed, patted his stomach, and said he would have to have a pint of “Pot Bellied Pig”… lol… I asked for a pint of water with ice, no lemon (see… still flamin’ SSing! Lol) .. We sat down on the huge leather sofa that was near the bar.. still wrapped up in my coat and gloves and scarf (it IS January!!!).. and I was still shivering too.. but it didn’t matter as all we did was sit and grin at one another for ages..
lololol Didn’t even speak to begin with.. just sat.. held hands.. and smiled! The music they had on was excellent.. all soul and 70’s stuff.. Commodores…Marvin Gaye.. that kind of thing.. I can’t for the life of me even remember the tracks now.. but as we sat there they all seemed to say the same thing.. lol
He is such brilliant company .. we chatted about things and life in general, about my diet, about our families.. friends… hobbies.. usual first date stuff., but there were loads of very comfortable silences too.
At one point his eyes filled with tears as he told me that for the first time in years he actually knew what it felt like to be in the company of someone who wanted to be with him... I know that might sound silly, but you had to be there really… it was very moving, and, for me, a man who can express his emotions is a strong man, not a soft one. So that ticked some more boxes for me. All I could do was sit there like a dozy mare with a soppy grin fixed on me chops! Lol Still, didn’t seem to put him off at all!
We sat like a couple who have known one another for years and yet with that silly, coyness and flirting that is only present in the first flushes of a relationship.. know what I mean? I felt all gooey inside.. lol.. didn’t admit to it though! (although my friends often tell me that my face speaks volumes without my having to open me mouth! )
Anyway… we sat.. talked.. laughed, smiled.. sat quietly.. smiled some more.. he had his arm around me.. (I liked that).. and we smiled some more.. lol I’m sure the bar staff thought we were a pair of nutters and were checking us out for buckles!! Oh, and he smelt SO good!!!! (took a great big whiff when we were hugging.. lol)
I finally undid my coat, by now I had warmed up a teensy bit.. although still cold. I opted to wear the red top that Zoe had talked me into buying and that I had worn to my house gig.. that way I got to wear my lovely red bra.. lol.. not that it was visible, but it is the exact same shade as the top so if it was it wouldn’t have mattered (if you follow me). I did catch him having a sneaky peek in the general direction of me Jordans a couple of times.. lol.. made me chuckle though.. and I got the distinct impression that he wasn’t altogether repulsed by me! ROFL He was wearing a lovely blue stripey shirt.. complimented his eyes superbly and I found myself wondering if his ex had bought him it, but thought better than to say so as even if she had, it was a lovely shirt and suited him well!
For all those hours we have spent online / on the phone/ in email chatting.. neither of us actually felt the need to fill the silences.. Gosh, we sound boring.. lol.. but it wasn’t. It was just so.. well.. nice, easy, relaxing. He seems to be a very genuine person, honest too. Funny and witty.. but also very sensitive and thoughtful.. I am most impressed.
We were supposed to go to the pics, but because I had delayed things by half an hour it was too late so we settled down in the pub for the evening..
We talked about his kids, my kids, our previous partners, families, work, holidays..seriopus stuff, silly stuff, dreams and goals.. hopes ad ambitions.. lol I can’t even remember everything we said now.. except he did say (in the car park during that first hug) that I was the perfect height.. lol I told him I wasn’t perfect in any way.. lol.. he just repeated it and hugged me again. He also said my hair smelt nice.. lol (so there's a good thing - we both have good noses!).. lol
I really loved being beside him and with him.. and he told me he would be so very proud to have me on his arm anywhere he went (another mega brownie point!) lol.. I know..you are probably all reaching for your buckets.. but it’s flippin’ true!!
I’m not sure where the time went.. but it did.. and it came time to go home and wish him goodnight.. before I did I told him I had a gift for him.. and he told me he had one for me!!!!! I was stunned! Lol
We got them out of the cars (by now the rain was hammering down!!) and went back into the warmth of the pub.. by now onto my 3rd pint of water and pretty damn sick of the stuff! He was on diet coke as he told me he never drinks more than a pint when driving. (another mega brownie point!) lol
He loved the gift I got him and promised to use them and think of me.. (nothing spectacular, only a pen and pencil set).. and his gift to me?
I was blown away!
All the time we have been chatting etc.. I have never told him what my taste in ornaments is, nor does he know what my home looks like or how it is furnished.. these are key points to remember when I tell you that he gave me the most beautiful simple figurine from the Kim Lawrence Circle of Love range called “My Dream”… I almost cried!! I love Kim Lawrence figurines and have one in my living room that my mother gave me as a thank you for looking after her following her breast cancer surgery, and for looking after my stepdad too! He told me that he had chosen it specifically because of the name and that I was his dream!!!! (bloody nightmare more like.. lol).. sorry.. but it’s hard to take such compliments seriously.. well.. it is if you are me!
I was stunned.. this lovely man had bought me something he had no idea I would love!!! It’s going to take pride of place on my bureau in my bedroom.. I have very few ornaments in my house.. and those I have are all featureless figures in white or sandstone.. simple and plain but romantic (they are all couples) and symbolic.
I just feel so amazed at the “coincidence” of his choice!! I asked him (as my memory is crap) if I had ever told him about my tastes in such things.. and he said no! Never.. he just felt it was the one item for me!! It was wrapped in that lovely “Me to you” paper with ‘with love from me to you’ all over it. I did ask if he had wrapped it himself (yet to see a parcel well wrapped by any man! Lol) and he admitted not.. lol.. that the girl in the shop had told him that they didn’t usually do wrapping but she would this time.. (he’s such a schmoozer.. lol).. I bet he charmed her into it.. lol
I have to admit.. if this is the first date .. then what does the next one have in store!!! (not that I expect any more presents.. and I don’t mean it that way.. not at all). I just wasn’t prepared for such a beautiful present. Reluctantly we decided it was time to go, especially as we both have work in the morning (although I am working from home in the morning due to British Gas!! Long story (ah, aren’t they always)...) But that’s why I was running so late!
So not a very exciting date for you to read about.. but one full of smiles and peace of mind and reassurance.. and confirmation of things previously spoken. The moment I saw him I wasn’t nervous any more.. just the way he looked at me spoke volumes, and I, for once.. said very little in the conventional sense of the word.
Just a quick (hmm, yeah) post as only just home and soooo tired!!
Will do the update of the rest of my diary tomorrow or sometime soon, but for now am gonna share about my date!! HE’S LOVELY!!!Having rung and asked Mr K to meet me half an hour later than planned I felt sure this was a bad sign.. and that he must think I am terribly disorganised and not at all punctual… (hmm, he might have a point ,
).. he readily agreed (admitted he was nervous too!). So it was set.. meet at a pub in the next village , in the car park.. at 7.30! My belly was all over the place! I had only half an hour really in which to get ready.. so I showered, dressed, primped and preened.. and ultimately was ready.. quick check with Zoe to see what she thought and I was on my way!! He rang me.. I was so nervous I accidentally hung up, then damn near crashed the car texting him to call again (used up loads of credit earlier chatting to one of my lovely mates )…he did and I gave him directions to the pub.. as it turned out, I was behind him! Lol He has a lovely car.. blue I think.. no idea what make..(who cares!), but very nice to look at.. lol and pretty big too.. We were chatting like mad on the drive there (all 3 miles of it.. lol).. but then we were there, and parked next to one another. I managed to avoid eye contact as I quickly spat out me chewing gum
(hate the breath the diet gives me) and had a final squirt of perfume.. and tried to get out of my car gracefully.. I think that walk from my drivers door , round the back of my car and to the space between his and mine, it felt like it took forever! I know it was only seconds.. and I was SO flaming nervous.. I could hear my heart thumping and began to wonder if I should’ve carried on with the pills for my BP from the doc as it was certainly rising!! As we walked towards one another – well, the smiles said it all. Mr K is everything I thought he would be, and then some! He has the most beautiful blue eyes and a heart of pure gold. He was the perfect gentleman (but with a definite shared sense of humour, lol). There was a moment, just a brief one, where we simply smiled and stared at one another.. then we said hello and he wrapped his arms around me and we hugged. What a hug!! He is lovely. Over 5ft 10 I would guess (am crap with heights.. just know I am 5ft 4 and was up to about the top of his chest) and he’s a big man with a big hug….we just stood rooted to the spot hugging.. just felt so damn right!!
He was lovely and warm and cuddly. It was freezing though (and of course on this diet I am already 20 degrees colder than any other living creature!!)..and the wind was picking up and the rain started!, so I started to shiver and he (very gallantly) suggested we go inside.. but not before exchanging a very gentle kiss. I’m glad it was dark as, a rarity for me!, I blushed. Another hug and holding hands and grinning like a pair of big kids we went inside.
The place was deserted! Lol Just us, the bar staff and dozens of empty tables! We went to the bar and ordered our drinks.. he laughed, patted his stomach, and said he would have to have a pint of “Pot Bellied Pig”… lol… I asked for a pint of water with ice, no lemon (see… still flamin’ SSing! Lol) .. We sat down on the huge leather sofa that was near the bar.. still wrapped up in my coat and gloves and scarf (it IS January!!!).. and I was still shivering too.. but it didn’t matter as all we did was sit and grin at one another for ages.. lololol Didn’t even speak to begin with.. just sat.. held hands.. and smiled! The music they had on was excellent.. all soul and 70’s stuff.. Commodores…Marvin Gaye.. that kind of thing.. I can’t for the life of me even remember the tracks now..
but as we sat there they all seemed to say the same thing.. lolHe is such brilliant company .. we chatted about things and life in general, about my diet, about our families.. friends… hobbies.. usual first date stuff., but there were loads of very comfortable silences too.
At one point his eyes filled with tears as he told me that for the first time in years he actually knew what it felt like to be in the company of someone who wanted to be with him... I know that might sound silly, but you had to be there really… it was very moving, and, for me, a man who can express his emotions is a strong man, not a soft one. So that ticked some more boxes for me. All I could do was sit there like a dozy mare with a soppy grin fixed on me chops! Lol Still, didn’t seem to put him off at all!
We sat like a couple who have known one another for years and yet with that silly, coyness and flirting that is only present in the first flushes of a relationship.. know what I mean? I felt all gooey inside.. lol.. didn’t admit to it though! (although my friends often tell me that my face speaks volumes without my having to open me mouth!
)Anyway… we sat.. talked.. laughed, smiled.. sat quietly.. smiled some more.. he had his arm around me.. (I liked that).. and we smiled some more.. lol I’m sure the bar staff thought we were a pair of nutters and were checking us out for buckles!! Oh, and he smelt SO good!!!! (took a great big whiff when we were hugging.. lol)
I finally undid my coat, by now I had warmed up a teensy bit.. although still cold. I opted to wear the red top that Zoe had talked me into buying and that I had worn to my house gig.. that way I got to wear my lovely red bra..
lol.. not that it was visible, but it is the exact same shade as the top so if it was it wouldn’t have mattered (if you follow me). I did catch him having a sneaky peek in the general direction of me Jordans a couple of times.. lol.. made me chuckle though.. and I got the distinct impression that he wasn’t altogether repulsed by me! ROFL He was wearing a lovely blue stripey shirt.. complimented his eyes superbly and I found myself wondering if his ex had bought him it, but thought better than to say so as even if she had, it was a lovely shirt and suited him well!For all those hours we have spent online / on the phone/ in email chatting.. neither of us actually felt the need to fill the silences.. Gosh, we sound boring.. lol.. but it wasn’t. It was just so.. well.. nice, easy, relaxing. He seems to be a very genuine person, honest too. Funny and witty.. but also very sensitive and thoughtful.. I am most impressed.
We were supposed to go to the pics, but because I had delayed things by half an hour it was too late so we settled down in the pub for the evening..
We talked about his kids, my kids, our previous partners, families, work, holidays..seriopus stuff, silly stuff, dreams and goals.. hopes ad ambitions.. lol I can’t even remember everything we said now.. except he did say (in the car park during that first hug) that I was the perfect height.. lol I told him I wasn’t perfect in any way.. lol.. he just repeated it and hugged me again. He also said my hair smelt nice.. lol (so there's a good thing - we both have good noses!).. lol
I really loved being beside him and with him.. and he told me he would be so very proud to have me on his arm anywhere he went (another mega brownie point!) lol.. I know..you are probably all reaching for your buckets.. but it’s flippin’ true!!
I’m not sure where the time went.. but it did.. and it came time to go home and wish him goodnight.. before I did I told him I had a gift for him.. and he told me he had one for me!!!!! I was stunned! Lol
We got them out of the cars (by now the rain was hammering down!!) and went back into the warmth of the pub.. by now onto my 3rd pint of water and pretty damn sick of the stuff! He was on diet coke as he told me he never drinks more than a pint when driving. (another mega brownie point!) lol
He loved the gift I got him and promised to use them and think of me.. (nothing spectacular, only a pen and pencil set).. and his gift to me?
I was blown away!
All the time we have been chatting etc.. I have never told him what my taste in ornaments is, nor does he know what my home looks like or how it is furnished.. these are key points to remember when I tell you that he gave me the most beautiful simple figurine from the Kim Lawrence Circle of Love range called “My Dream”…
I almost cried!! I love Kim Lawrence figurines and have one in my living room that my mother gave me as a thank you for looking after her following her breast cancer surgery, and for looking after my stepdad too! He told me that he had chosen it specifically because of the name and that I was his dream!!!! (bloody nightmare more like.. lol).. sorry.. but it’s hard to take such compliments seriously.. well.. it is if you are me! I was stunned.. this lovely man had bought me something he had no idea I would love!!! It’s going to take pride of place on my bureau in my bedroom.. I have very few ornaments in my house.. and those I have are all featureless figures in white or sandstone.. simple and plain but romantic (they are all couples) and symbolic.
I just feel so amazed at the “coincidence” of his choice!! I asked him (as my memory is crap) if I had ever told him about my tastes in such things.. and he said no! Never.. he just felt it was the one item for me!! It was wrapped in that lovely “Me to you” paper with ‘with love from me to you’ all over it. I did ask if he had wrapped it himself (yet to see a parcel well wrapped by any man! Lol) and he admitted not.. lol.. that the girl in the shop had told him that they didn’t usually do wrapping but she would this time.. (he’s such a schmoozer.. lol).. I bet he charmed her into it.. lol
I have to admit.. if this is the first date .. then what does the next one have in store!!! (not that I expect any more presents.. and I don’t mean it that way.. not at all). I just wasn’t prepared for such a beautiful present. Reluctantly we decided it was time to go, especially as we both have work in the morning (although I am working from home in the morning due to British Gas!! Long story (ah, aren’t they always)...) But that’s why I was running so late!
So not a very exciting date for you to read about.. but one full of smiles and peace of mind and reassurance.. and confirmation of things previously spoken. The moment I saw him I wasn’t nervous any more.. just the way he looked at me spoke volumes, and I, for once.. said very little in the conventional sense of the word.
FatFairNForty(ish)
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still smiling , lol 
FatFairNForty(ish)
Gold Member
tee hee hee... lol sorry about that
He is.. I am very relieved!! lol Thought he couldn't possibly be as good as I thought,.. lol know what I mean!? Still, very early days.. lots of concerns.. but not half as many now we've met! Thanks Juju..
and Kati and all the others who have wished me well tonight.. xxx
Amanda (Loopy)
CDC
wow....sounds like a fantastic 1st date!!!
Good Luck to you both
Amanda
xx
Good Luck to you both
Amanda
xx
Isobel1965
Gold Member
Jen - that is brilliant, hun!
It just goes to show that there are lovely men out there and to find one who ticks all your boxes is just so fantastic and life-affirming!!!
Some things are just meant to be.....
It just goes to show that there are lovely men out there and to find one who ticks all your boxes is just so fantastic and life-affirming!!!
Some things are just meant to be.....
MadamDotty
Back again!
Oh Jennie - I've the biggest, soppiest grin on my face, how wonderful he sounds & what a lovely first date, of many I'm sure. I could just picture you two and it didn't sound soppy or boring, it sounded completely right & has warmed my heart this morning.
I met the present Mr Dotty 8 years ago, having been married & divorced twice & vowing NEVER AGAIN. We'd spoken on the phone a few times & when we met we had the lovliest, simplest evening, which was just perfect & reading your diary really took me back to that. Now I don't want to scare you, BUT, three weeks later we got engaged & were married 6 months on at Christmas. And he's still the fabulous, wonderful man I met.
I truly hope all your dreams come true with Mr K, he sounds completely wonderful.
Thanks for sharing - that's made my day
p.s. have to put in a quick nag though - you accept those compliments girl & remember you deserve them!
I met the present Mr Dotty 8 years ago, having been married & divorced twice & vowing NEVER AGAIN. We'd spoken on the phone a few times & when we met we had the lovliest, simplest evening, which was just perfect & reading your diary really took me back to that. Now I don't want to scare you, BUT, three weeks later we got engaged & were married 6 months on at Christmas. And he's still the fabulous, wonderful man I met.
I truly hope all your dreams come true with Mr K, he sounds completely wonderful.
Thanks for sharing - that's made my day
p.s. have to put in a quick nag though - you accept those compliments girl & remember you deserve them!
oh jennie... i'm sooooooooo happy for ya girl... that is the best news EVER!!!!
i was sitting at home last night, no pc at home, wondering who could i text to see how ur date was going... it was only 9 o'clock and to be honest i didn't want to know if you were home cos it would have been bad if you were... so i left it!!! to come on here today and see how well it went... well girl i'm chuffed for ya... getting a bit teary eyed typing this... you sooooooo deserve it!!!
lots of love
Gen xxxx
i was sitting at home last night, no pc at home, wondering who could i text to see how ur date was going... it was only 9 o'clock and to be honest i didn't want to know if you were home cos it would have been bad if you were... so i left it!!! to come on here today and see how well it went... well girl i'm chuffed for ya... getting a bit teary eyed typing this... you sooooooo deserve it!!!
lots of love
Gen xxxx
Hi FFnf,
Firstly - just wanted to be your 800th post on this Thread - another milestone. (Wahay)
Secondly - congrats on your date - blokes can't express things like this well, but the ladies are being more than adequate - I particularly like Minis words about 'no such thing as concidence, just God just being Anonymous' - shall have to remember that one for the future.
sorry - for butting in as I try and keep out of the relationship posts - after all, who am I to make comment with my record/situation (LOL) and I do tend to be tongue in cheek about things and clearly this is one of those things where tongue in cheek isn't appropriate.
Firstly - just wanted to be your 800th post on this Thread - another milestone. (Wahay)
Secondly - congrats on your date - blokes can't express things like this well, but the ladies are being more than adequate - I particularly like Minis words about 'no such thing as concidence, just God just being Anonymous' - shall have to remember that one for the future.
sorry - for butting in as I try and keep out of the relationship posts - after all, who am I to make comment with my record/situation (LOL) and I do tend to be tongue in cheek about things and clearly this is one of those things where tongue in cheek isn't appropriate.
Karen1972
Gold Member
Ah honey that sounds totally AMAZING!!!! That has to be one of the best first dates EVER!! I was a little worried about you because i too have fallen in love with someones personality only for the chemistry not to be there when we met IRL. BUT sounds like you two got it ALL going on!!!
I'm mega chuffed for ya both - and of course green with envy!! lol
Brilliant, just brilliant babes!!!!!!!
Loads of luv,
I'm mega chuffed for ya both - and of course green with envy!! lol
Brilliant, just brilliant babes!!!!!!!
Loads of luv,
cazmaz_irl
Banned
Aaah Jennie, that is so beautiful, you have a talent for writing girl, I felt that we were all there with you, well way behind in the empty part of the bar, just brilliant, so chuffed for you, you lucky mare,
don't come down of cloud nine until your good and ready girl, you so deserve this,,,,jealously sitting on my settee right now LOL...
don't come down of cloud nine until your good and ready girl, you so deserve this,,,,jealously sitting on my settee right now LOL...
