Hey Cheeky, gosh, just read your last post. I'm actually in a very similar situation myself. My grandfather fell out with me over 4 years ago and it took me up until last month to find out why he suddenly just stopped talking to/about me, sending birthday cards etc. He didn't even come to my wedding party last month. Anyway, 2 weeks ago he went into hospital to have a triple heart bypass and it didn't go very well, following the surgery his kidneys failed, his lungs filled with blood and he had a stroke. He's been in ICU on a ventilator ever since. Not good. The thing is, I can totally relate to you because my Mum and her sister and her cousins have all been going to see him pretty much everyday (it's a 100 mile round trip to the hospital) and my Mum keeps asking me if I want to go or, more to the point, that I 'should' go. I just don't know what to do. He basically fell out with me because he called me Jessica (everyone calls me Jess) and I turned around in mock horror (joking of course - not unusual for me at all) and said "Ya what?!" He was apparently very offended and as I say therefore has ignored me for 4 years. Utter nonsense. So yeah, I think I'll leave it a while and see how things go because to be honest I seriously doubt he wants to see me anyway. Arghhh. Anyway, sorry I'll stop droning on.
To be honest if you're not feeling well yourself it's probably not the best place for you to go right now anyway...I guess you could always use that as an excuse and say you really don't want to spread germs around. I hope you feel better soon anyway.