Cheryls Dukan diary

Lovely and very relaxing thanks hun. Food was amazing. Its only off the A21, been taken over and wow. Im sooooo going back! Maybe we could lunch there when your up to it
 
Definately!! I'm up for that.

Glad you had a lovely evening, you so deserve it. Sounds like yr a busy bee today. x
 
Well thats it for today ladies. Ive only just sat down!
Linz let me know hun and i'll meet you there, i can be a lady that does lunch..........anytime with their food!
 
Morning all. Im having a really bad day today. Im feeling all the signs of being pregnant and get a neg test then just get an e mail from my dad to say my grandad is in hospital his cancer has spread and they dont know how long he has. I have only seen him once in 20years. I spent all my childhood and growing up thinking they had disowned me and my brother when my mum and dad split up only to find out just before xmas that my dad was stealing the money they were sending us for birthday easter and xmas. Im so upset with my dad we've not really spoken since. It didnt even shock me to find that out but now my time is limited and i have so many questions i need answering but now is not the time and i dont know if there ever will be. Im a total mess and cant stop crying. Hes never seen oliver unless my dad has shown him a photo. And all because my dad was, well, my dad. He has caused so much hurt over the years. I grew up thinking my dads whole family didnt love me. Only to find out they did but no its too late.
 
It's never too late Cheryl!

Perhaps you could take this chance to see your grandparents and at least spend time with them before your granddad passes?

If he's not too ill to see Oliver it could also be a good experience for him - rather than him never having met his great grandad....

I know from experience that families are far from easy, but don't let what your dad did prevent you from building bridges now xxx
 
Cheryl babes. Hugs and kisses xx Im so sorry.
Now is the time to go and see him and take Oliver. You must, you will only regret it (i have gone through very very similar with my dad and his family too spookily similar). Do you have a number you can call him on (not your dad) or an aunt or uncle babes. Please dont miss this opportunity to see him and make peace please. I didnt do with either my grandad and grandma and you cant believe how much it plays on my mind. (not that i would EVER tell anyone else). Your dad seems like a fool for doing that, keeping you away from his side of the family, but you have a fab mum x
Im so sorry about your test too, it may just take time you know for your body to get back to normal. I know you havent got totm yet either which is probably again your body being all over the place, and your hormones will be making everything a million times worse babe. Just for one of the two to happen cos then at least you know where you are.

Im here for you 24/7 you know that babes. i love you so much and it hurts to see you in so much pain xxxxxx
 
It goes much deeper than that. They never turned up to my wedding and because of that my dad left a 9pm. They always said we never kept in contact with them but i was a 7yr old child when my parents split and my brother was new born! Its so complicated and yes i will try to see him now but it feels like ive just come back to say goodbye as he will be too weak and ill for me to ask the questions i need to and my grandmother is chinese and wont have any of it, so tight lipped she wouldnt say
 
why didnt they come to your wedding?
how on earth do they expect you to keep in contact at 7? honestly some people rile me.
what does mark think? the only thing you can do then is go to the funeral babe and pay your respects there.
 
oh darling thats fab xxxxxxx so pleased you called xxxxxx let us know xxxx
 
I havent felt this good about my family EVER! We had a real heart to heart and she answered my questions without me asking them. My dad has a lot to answer for. He has kept us away from each other for so many years and we have blamed the other one but now we know the truth. Im going to give it a while as Grandad is moving wards then visit. His cancer has spread so far he has had it for 13yrs! They stopped all treatment a while back and its just pain management now. Im so glad i listened to you and called before its too late.
 
Hey Cheryl!

So glad it went well and you got the answers you needed, hopefully this is a new chapter for you and your rekindled relationship with your grandparents etc...

well done for having the courage to make the first move

big hugs hun xxx
 
brill Cheryl (well you know what I mean). so glad you called babe. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Not just my grandparents hun my whole family my dads side! I grew up thinking we werent loved or wanted by them and now i know the truth. It hurts because so much time has been wasted and it has all been caused by my own father but one person i can handle and unfortunately thats just him ( eat your heart out Jeremy Kyle!!!!) and i learnt what a liar he is years ago so nothing suprises me where hes concerned. Ive got my family back, the one i dreamt about as a kid, the ones that (due to circumstances) made me doubt myself as a person and took away my confidence. I always thought to myself that my family never loved me so why should anyone else and up until a year or so ago it almost destroyed any relationship/friendship i ever had as i never thought i was worthy.
Sorry guys off to blub again
 
aww im sopleased for you families can cause so much joy and so much pain ....make the most of the time you have with them
 
aww babes. see now you know HOW IMPORTANT AND AMAZING you are!!!!!! what a sh*t trick for your father to do and you not knowing your family still wanted to see you. I do so hope you can all patch up everything and catch up.
you are a fantastic person and they will be so impressed at how wonderful you have turned out to be and what a beautiful mum and wife you are. xxxxxxxxxxxx
 
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