malamobile
Silver Member
I think I'm going to limit my visits just to her birthday, Mother's Day, and Christmas. I can't handle this feeling every time I go. I know in time this will ease and the counselling will help, once they get their finger out and sort me an appointment.
I planted some bulbs in the plot last September a few weeks after she passed away. But they have obviously been disturbed since by the 2 interments and have not sprouted. I'm going to sort my little yard out this summer with my mum in mind and leave cemetery visits to a minimum.
Thanks for listening lovely friends xxxxxxx
Don't feel bad at all. My 3 grandparents are at the cemetery about 5 mins in the car away and I have been once in 11 years. I just find it upsetting & it is not a pleasant experience, but I think of them a lot & that is what matters I think. I know why you feel the way you do but your mum really would not mind because all she would want is for you to be as happy as you can be. Go those times & neaten it up if that will make you feel better. It's really ok for you to grieve and remember in a way that's right for you x