Ladies, I'm having a really horrible time this morning, I'm so close to comfort eating and I really, really don't want to. One of my aunties is giving me grief again
In 2009 when my dad died C and M (dad's sisters) promised me that they would always be there for us, whatever happened. And to be fair to them for about 6 months they were there, checking on how we were doing etc. We made sure they were invited up for things we were doing like when mum went through my dad's things (she made sure they were there, though they were just like vultures out for anything they could get), we scattered the ashes (in a place that he used to take us as kids that they had no connection to) and had a bit of a memorial thing for the anniversary of his death
And slowly but surely they started distancing themselves from us to an extent where last year they had the nerve to turn around and sayd that they wanted to spend
alone time where we'd scattered the ashes on the anniversary of his death. They didn't want us there, but my mum wasn't having any of it and she planned our own little thing saying they were welcome to stay if they wanted to.
We knew they were going to be shitty with us because a couple of months earlier my brother had had an argument with my uncle, which had all blown up over my brother making a sarcky comment about the film about Margaret Thatcher. And at this point I tried to get a bit of good feeling between the families again and told C in a fb conversation we were having that we were planning our wedding for 2013 and would be looking for the wedding rings when we were on holiday in turkey (the one we're going on in just over 1.5 weeks) and all C could say was make nasty comments about why we were waiting so long, were we sure we could afford it, why were we waiting so long to tell my fiance's parents (we wanted to tell them in person, not over the phone), why weren't we just having a registry office do and the worst one "why don't you get the rings from argos for £20 like normal people do?!?" and then she went quiet on me
Since then she hasn't bothered with me whatsoever, she hasn't been in touch at christmas or my birthday, or my mum's birthday. She comments on mum's photos and she'll sometimes like mine of my dad but that's as far as it goes.
Last time we went to turkey I didn't take any liquids on the planes. But this time I want to take some moisturiser and lip balm because I'm trying to take care of my skin. So I put a status on fb asking if anyone knew what size bag to take and I had some helpful and some not so helpful replies
And it came to a point where I'd decided what bag I was buying and had ordered it from ebay (we don't have a big selection of shops where we live and ebay is a godsend), and then a few hours later C pipes up "why dont you just buy them friom wilkos????". Now bearing in mind this is pretty much the first time I've heard from her since last year and she comes up with a comment like that. I know it probably doesn't seem like the most arsey response, but to me it is (given that she hasn't bothered with me for about 10 months).
I'm so close to cutting her out of everything, out of my life, out of the wedding and just blocking her completely on fb. I really, really don't want her at the wedding because I have this feeling that she's just going to be looking down her nose at us and judging everything because we're not having a formal reception, we're just going straight into the disco afterwards. The only thing that makes me keep her in my life is how disappointed I know dad would have been if I didn't keep the lines of communication open. :sigh:
