Don't you just love it when...

[peacelily]

Thanks hun! To give him his dues he did stick to his guns this morning, poor 4 year old didn't have a clue what to think! Normally I say no to something and explain why I've said no (in yesterday's case chocolate mini rolls are not an appropriate breakfast!) Then dad says no 4-5 times, littlun keeps whinging at him until dad sneaks chocolate past me to the boy to stop the whinging.
I was furious! There have been times the boys have actually said to me if I've said no to something (which isn't often, and always for a good reason which I make clear) they will say, well I'll just ask daddy when he gets home then! Told dad this and think he was shocked that they see him as the pushover he is! Hopefully change is ahead!

Children are so clever. Well done you they will thank you in the long term

 

[M Louise H]

Can I ask you child carers a question? My 7 year old still wets herself virtually every day. by the time I pick her up from school she is stinking of old wee! She is, however dry at night.

I've been to the doc's and they ran some blood tests but nothing showed up. Any ideas?

 

[bunnylovesalan]

Dyjliw...your all cosy and warm inside with a hot brew whilst it is tipping down outside!!!

 

[Shirleen]

Can I ask you child carers a question? My 7 year old still wets herself virtually every day. by the time I pick her up from school she is stinking of old wee! She is, however dry at night.

I've been to the doc's and they ran some blood tests but nothing showed up. Any ideas?

Flag it with teachers that's she's given a pass so she can go when she needs to. I would also suggest that she's given responsibility for it and shown how to use the washing machine or to hand wash them!! I know that seems mean but if she's not going as she afraid of missing out then the thought of hand washing wet Knicks may give her the jolt she needs to remember she has to go. After all she's old enough to know how to go. So she's choosing not to respond to the need x

 

[Mrs.S.]

Can I ask you child carers a question? My 7 year old still wets herself virtually every day. by the time I pick her up from school she is stinking of old wee! She is, however dry at night.

I've been to the doc's and they ran some blood tests but nothing showed up. Any ideas?

This is really interesting as I have the same issue with my daughter. She's 8 soon, but is very clever and advanced for her age.

I've decided that this is an attention seeking thing? And that she's also afraid of missing out on something. She even dances and wriggles when sitting with us and desperate for the toilet yet even when you ask her if she needs a wee she says no????

Makes me feel like bashing my head!!

Flag it with teachers that's she's given a pass so she can go when she needs to. I would also suggest that she's given responsibility for it and shown how to use the washing machine or to hand wash them!! I know that seems mean but if she's not going as she afraid of missing out then the thought of hand washing wet Knicks may give her the jolt she needs to remember she has to go. After all she's old enough to know how to go. So she's choosing not to respond to the need x

This is a fab idea shirl, will try this, thanks!

I've previously threatened to take her wet knickers into school to show her teacher and friends what she's doing. She gets upset at this - am I really mean? xx

 

[tallsarah]

Can I ask you child carers a question? My 7 year old still wets herself virtually every day. by the time I pick her up from school she is stinking of old wee! She is, however dry at night.

I've been to the doc's and they ran some blood tests but nothing showed up. Any ideas?

My friends daughter had similar issues, she was uncomfortable using the toilet at school and would 'hold on' until she got home, not always successfullyy!

 

[ScarlettStar86]

yeah i would echo what shirl said really, ensure the teachers know and allow her to go as and when and not make her hold on. Also the taking responsibility for it should help and I know its frustrating but try not to get cross about it, if it is attention seeking the best you can do is to stay calm and just try not to draw attention to it . However before doing this it might be worth sitting her down and asking her if anything is worrying her, or if there is anything she would like to tell you. How has she responded in the past if you've asked her why she didn't go to the toilet when she needed to?

 

[Shirleen]

This is really interesting as I have the same issue with my daughter. She's 8 soon, but is very clever and advanced for her age.

I've decided that this is an attention seeking thing? And that she's also afraid of missing out on something. She even dances and wriggles when sitting with us and desperate for the toilet yet even when you ask her if she needs a wee she says no????

Makes me feel like bashing my head!!

This is a fab idea shirl, will try this, thanks!

I've previously threatened to take her wet knickers into school to show her teacher and friends what she's doing. She gets upset at this - am I really mean? xx

If you do start this don't make it a punishment, be matter of fact 'this has happened, this is how we or rather you are dealing with it'

 

[Jenna88]

DYJLIW you're off the rest of the week, going to see Cheryl Cole in Belfast tomorrow and again in Dublin on Thursday as well as a big pish up woop!

 

[peacelily]

Can I ask you child carers a question? My 7 year old still wets herself virtually every day. by the time I pick her up from school she is stinking of old wee! She is, however dry at night.

I've been to the doc's and they ran some blood tests but nothing showed up. Any ideas?

Yes as Shirleen said, this shouldn't be punished as it may be that she cant help it but it does have to be dealt with as she will soon become humiliated if other children pick up on it. The Eric website that Jezzi posted a link to is good. Think this should be investigated by health visitor or practice nurse. Things they would look at are whether she was ever dry during the day and then started wetting, or has she always been a bit wet. Also how much she is weeing. Need to look at whether it's about weak bladder, then you can do some bladder exercises at home, or it could be to do with misreading signs that she needs to go. They might also want to work out how much her fluid intake is. They may also want to know how she is when she gets home after school and in the holidays -does it still happen or is it better/worse? If it stops in the holidays then it could be that she has a problem with asking for the loo or going at school. There are lots of factors to consider but the biggest thing is that you deal with it sensitively as she will feel eventually feel ashamed and guilty if she feels it is upsetting people. It's good she's not wetting at night as there are different mechanisms for night and day wetting usually. I'm surprised aged 7 that the doc hasn't looked into it a bit more because of the emotional impact it can have on children as they get older with this problem. Most health visitors should be enuresis trained these days so I'd push for some more help. Before 7-8, most GPs will probably think it will sort itself out but if you feel it isn't I'd go back. Hope it gets sorted

 

[M Louise H]

Flag it with teachers that's she's given a pass so she can go when she needs to. I would also suggest that she's given responsibility for it and shown how to use the washing machine or to hand wash them!! I know that seems mean but if she's not going as she afraid of missing out then the thought of hand washing wet Knicks may give her the jolt she needs to remember she has to go. After all she's old enough to know how to go. So she's choosing not to respond to the need x

This website might help as well, its aimed at parents ERIC's home page covering the issues of Bedwetting, daytime wetting, soiling, constipation: childhood continence information from ERIC

yeah i would echo what shirl said really, ensure the teachers know and allow her to go as and when and not make her hold on. Also the taking responsibility for it should help and I know its frustrating but try not to get cross about it, if it is attention seeking the best you can do is to stay calm and just try not to draw attention to it . However before doing this it might be worth sitting her down and asking her if anything is worrying her, or if there is anything she would like to tell you. How has she responded in the past if you've asked her why she didn't go to the toilet when she needed to?

Yes as Shirleen said, this shouldn't be punished as it may be that she cant help it but it does have to be dealt with as she will soon become humiliated if other children pick up on it. The Eric website that Jezzi posted a link to is good. Think this should be investigated by health visitor or practice nurse. Things they would look at are whether she was ever dry during the day and then started wetting, or has she always been a bit wet. Also how much she is weeing. Need to look at whether it's about weak bladder, then you can do some bladder exercises at home, or it could be to do with misreading signs that she needs to go. They might also want to work out how much her fluid intake is. They may also want to know how she is when she gets home after school and in the holidays -does it still happen or is it better/worse? If it stops in the holidays then it could be that she has a problem with asking for the loo or going at school. There are lots of factors to consider but the biggest thing is that you deal with it sensitively as she will feel eventually feel ashamed and guilty if she feels it is upsetting people. It's good she's not wetting at night as there are different mechanisms for night and day wetting usually. I'm surprised aged 7 that the doc hasn't looked into it a bit more because of the emotional impact it can have on children as they get older with this problem. Most health visitors should be enuresis trained these days so I'd push for some more help. Before 7-8, most GPs will probably think it will sort itself out but if you feel it isn't I'd go back. Hope it gets sorted

:hijack: Sorry!

To bring it back DYJLIW there is so much good advice on here, even when it's not weight related! Thank you all x

 

[M Louise H]

This is really interesting as I have the same issue with my daughter. She's 8 soon, but is very clever and advanced for her age.

I've decided that this is an attention seeking thing? And that she's also afraid of missing out on something. She even dances and wriggles when sitting with us and desperate for the toilet yet even when you ask her if she needs a wee she says no????

Makes me feel like bashing my head!!

Is she wet when you get her from school? I was hoping the embarrassment factor alone would solve the problem with my daughter but not as yet. I feel I'm treading a fine line between dealing with it honestly and openly and making too big an issue of it and causing long-term damage.

I know her body is giving her the signs as, just like your daughter, I see her wriggling and dancing about. I've even thought of getting her a digital watch that I can set to beep on the hour to remind her to go - would this be a help or hinderance do you think?

 

[M Louise H]

yeah i would echo what shirl said really, ensure the teachers know and allow her to go as and when and not make her hold on. Also the taking responsibility for it should help and I know its frustrating but try not to get cross about it, if it is attention seeking the best you can do is to stay calm and just try not to draw attention to it . However before doing this it might be worth sitting her down and asking her if anything is worrying her, or if there is anything she would like to tell you. How has she responded in the past if you've asked her why she didn't go to the toilet when she needed to?

She just says "I can't do it" and that she doesn't know until it's too late. The signs are there though because I see them before she does.

At the moment there is a lot of emotion around - her Grandad has just had a major op and is still away in Athens and her other grand-parents and her cousins all went back to the UK on Sunday. I don't think this is the cause though as it's been going on way too long. I sent her off to school this morning singing a little rhyme we'd made up to remind her to go before lessons start and then at every break-time (even if she thinks she doesn't want to go). Let's hope my tuneless ramblings do the trick!!

 

[Princess_Stevie]

DJLIW it's tattoo day!! Eeek, so excited..but nervous!

 

[ScarlettStar86]

DJLIW it's tattoo day!! Eeek, so excited..but nervous!

Ooh what you having done? X

 

[ScarlettStar86]

She just says "I can't do it" and that she doesn't know until it's too late. The signs are there though because I see them before she does.

At the moment there is a lot of emotion around - her Grandad has just had a major op and is still away in Athens and her other grand-parents and her cousins all went back to the UK on Sunday. I don't think this is the cause though as it's been going on way too long. I sent her off to school this morning singing a little rhyme we'd made up to remind her to go before lessons start and then at every break-time (even if she thinks she doesn't want to go). Let's hope my tuneless ramblings do the trick!!

Must be difficult, so sweet to make up a song- hopefully that will help her remember. Good luck to you and her x

 

[kingleds]

On a completely sepeerate note. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your new Avator ScarlettStar86

 

[Princess_Stevie]

Ooh what you having done? X

I'm having a dreamcatcher on the inside of my left calf/ankle. I've been wanting it for a few months now, but been a bit unsure about the placement of it. Just under 7 hours to go and the nerves are kicking in already - I'm always like this with any new tattoo! Eek x

 

[ScarlettStar86]

On a completely sepeerate note. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your new Avator ScarlettStar86

thanks hun! X

 

[ScarlettStar86]

I'm having a dreamcatcher on the inside of my left calf/ankle. I've been wanting it for a few months now, but been a bit unsure about the placement of it. Just under 7 hours to go and the nerves are kicking in already - I'm always like this with any new tattoo! Eek x

Sounds lovely, please post a pic when its done! I want to get mine soon, just finding the time! X