Consolidation Eilidh's 285 days of conso!

God and men think we're complicated! :)

I can't fathom what he means there - but I'm single so that probably speaks volumes :eek:.....all I can say is that your focusing on the here and now bit is the most sensible thing - just make sure you get what you need from the relationship xx
 
Think he's always told himself he'd never marry, yet it's what I want so he chops and changes. It's hit him that he feels he can't so doesn't want to string me along. Yet still wants to be with me?! I'm confused too. I don't want to lose him, so I think we need to both make more effort now and re-evaluate things in a while.

I'm gonna try to talk to my mum too today and see if she has any words of wisdom!
 
If marriage is truly important to you - more important than the 2 of you just living together for instance. Then you might need to cut your losses.

If on the other hand you can forget about the marriage idea and just focus on being in a relationship with this guy then you should be fine.

I'd say don't forgo the marriage idea if it will leave you resenting him in the future - you might feel like he has strung you along.

On the same hand, don't expect him to cave to the idea of marriage down the track if he's showing his cold feet now, he'll only end up resenting you or legging it (speaking from experience of lots of cold-footed men :rolleyes:)

You have to decide what you want for you, if it's him then you'll have to compromise.

Hope it all works out how you want it to, agree that your Mum is a good person to speak to - she will only have your best interests at heart - whereas I'm trying to play devil's advocate (maybe a little badly - but trying at least :)) xx
 
Thanks lotto. It's important to me and that's why he's upset. I guess I feel that if he's changed so often it could change again. And since it's only a piece of paper down the line not a big wedding I'm after we might get a compromise. I'm thinking of sorting the here and now and re evaluating down the line say 6 months. Then we can see where we stand when it's more stable.

Neither iif us have been in relationships before so makes it hard- first rocky patch!
 
Such a difficult one, marriage to my OH is just a piece of paper, we've lived together for 7 years out of the 7.5 that we've been together and I really dont think marriage would make any difference at all. My biggest thing about getting married is so when we have children we'll all have the same surname. A big wedding to me isnt important, I dont believe in spending thousands of pounds on one day.

I think you're sensible in re-evaluting in a few months time but I wouldnt keep bringing it up, you know how men are, they just think you're nagging! Im sure everything will be fine if you both want to be with each other.

Go strut around in those expencive boots you've just bought :D
 
That's my point- same names! I'm not wanting to talk about it again until further down the line. I'd like to fix us now. I hope this emotion means he'll share more now. Out in the boots as we speak- huge huge huge gala meal. Actually feel sick!!
 
If any of u ladies r at a loose end tomorrow, bbc Alba at 1605. My team :)
 
xeilidhx said:
That's my point- same names! I'm not wanting to talk about it again until further down the line. I'd like to fix us now. I hope this emotion means he'll share more now. Out in the boots as we speak- huge huge huge gala meal. Actually feel sick!!
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You don't need to be married to change your name ... just a thought :D

P x
 
Paulinegin said:
You don't need to be married to change your name ... just a thought :D

P x
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Totally right, my OH's mum and dad never married and have been together over 40 years and she just changed her name by deed poll (is that right?)
 
My friend and oh have been together for 25 years and marriage has cropped up several times but theve never agreed with the 'when'. They have two beautifull girls and a very happy life. Its us her friends that want her married for a weekend away at the hen do lol. I agree with the girls put you too right first and everything else will fall into place. He's a man, from a different planet.....he'll want to marry once its in his brain accepts change xxx
 
Bbc alba 1600 hours folks!! Get on it! Eep!
 
Is that a radio station????
 
No it's tv :) on virgin/sky/ freeview etc. x
 
No i couldn't find it xxx
 
Can catch up on iplayer :) although we lost :(

Today's menu:

B: bread and cheese

L: 2 venison burgers

Snack: mini sausages

D: 1/2 lb ox tongue
Dukan porridge

Sweetned milk
Pepsi max

Yesterday (forgot some conso items!)

12(!) dukan sausages

Gala: mixes grill (black ad white pudding, lamb, steak, bacon, sausage, egg, battered mushrooms, onion rings

Followed by sticky toffee pudding and cream

Forgot bread, an cheese, and Fruit! Did have some white bread with the meal too! X
 
Friday: steak
Eggs
Bread and cheese
Porridge

No dinner due to the oh situation!

Can't be bothered catching up with last week, suffice to say there was too much venison consumed! Oh dear... X
 
Lol, i was at a farmers market yesterday and though of you then i saw the venison products xxx
 
How much rice is allowed? And can we have chilli beans/kidney beans!! In supermarket stuck!! X
 
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