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sonkie
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Well had a great morning, then oh went off to his laptop in our bedroom, I was then informed he will be talking to the hairy armpitted one (the German). Well he was up there for an hour laughing and joking, she even told him he needs to trim up..bet he listens to her.....lol. Well I went to go into my room and I got the door shut in my face......I was livid.
Anyway when they had finished there chat he came down and asked why I was grumpy....I hadnt said a thing in fact I was giving him the silent treatment. So I told him how I felt the other week when I went to bed early cos he had moaned we dont have any intimate times lately, I get there and am told he cant let her down.....priorities eh!.
Then the slamming of the door in my face today, so I told him straight Im not happy with the way he is treating me. He then replied that I was being childish, so Im not allowed to have feelings and if I do they are childish thoughts.
Well I am totally fed up with it so I just got up and went out for a walk.......!
Then DS1 comes home with muffins that he had made at school and I promptly wolfed 3 of them down my neck, yes I was gutted why had I let him get to me to do this.....?
Anyway when they had finished there chat he came down and asked why I was grumpy....I hadnt said a thing in fact I was giving him the silent treatment. So I told him how I felt the other week when I went to bed early cos he had moaned we dont have any intimate times lately, I get there and am told he cant let her down.....priorities eh!.
Then the slamming of the door in my face today, so I told him straight Im not happy with the way he is treating me. He then replied that I was being childish, so Im not allowed to have feelings and if I do they are childish thoughts.
Well I am totally fed up with it so I just got up and went out for a walk.......!
Then DS1 comes home with muffins that he had made at school and I promptly wolfed 3 of them down my neck, yes I was gutted why had I let him get to me to do this.....?
MadamDotty
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Sonkie, no wonder you're fed up, you're struggling in very difficult circumstances at the moment, you've got enough on your plate with your brother and having to put up with so much at home, would be enough to drive the most patient & saintly of us to drink, let alone muffins.
Don't beat yourself up hon, you are doing an AMAZING job, you really are and taking so much sh*t, TBH from your OH.
Stay strong & try to keep a focus on your diet, it's something in your life that you can control at the moment.
I don't know what to say about OH (that's printable) but I think it's all going to come to a head soon, and you need to have a long hard think about where you want to go with it all. And then try and talk to him about it, I don't suppose for a moment he'll listen, but if you can, you need to try and let him know how you're feeling and what he's doing to you and really whether you want to stay in this relationship or not. Only you can decide the answer to that.
Take care hun, lots & lots of love
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Don't beat yourself up hon, you are doing an AMAZING job, you really are and taking so much sh*t, TBH from your OH.
Stay strong & try to keep a focus on your diet, it's something in your life that you can control at the moment.
I don't know what to say about OH (that's printable) but I think it's all going to come to a head soon, and you need to have a long hard think about where you want to go with it all. And then try and talk to him about it, I don't suppose for a moment he'll listen, but if you can, you need to try and let him know how you're feeling and what he's doing to you and really whether you want to stay in this relationship or not. Only you can decide the answer to that.
Take care hun, lots & lots of love
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sonkie
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Thanks MD thats what I was trying to get across to him after his chat, I told him I dont like being shut out and ignored while he is talking to a woman. I said to him that I was gonna go on a chatroom site and start chatting to blokes and shut him out and see how he liked that, well he wasnt best pleased with that thought.
So he tried to get round that he is only talking to her to learn German, so I said I will chat to blokes so they can teach me English.....lol.
Anyways all he replied was that I was behaving like a child and I should grow up..!
I have put the muffins outta my head now and have been glugging the old water, I got back into ketosis last night and am still in at the moment so hopefully it will stay.
So he tried to get round that he is only talking to her to learn German, so I said I will chat to blokes so they can teach me English.....lol.
Anyways all he replied was that I was behaving like a child and I should grow up..!
I have put the muffins outta my head now and have been glugging the old water, I got back into ketosis last night and am still in at the moment so hopefully it will stay.
Blimey x WTF is up with him ?
You are worth so much more than the way he treats you mate , soon he will find out , too !
If you fancy a chat to others male or female then do it , but try not to talk about the OH when your doing it , shut him outta your head .
OH he needs his head seen too .
I may bring my camera down tomoro lol
You are worth so much more than the way he treats you mate , soon he will find out , too !
If you fancy a chat to others male or female then do it , but try not to talk about the OH when your doing it , shut him outta your head .
OH he needs his head seen too .
I may bring my camera down tomoro lol
flirty40greeneyes
Busy busy busy!!
If he wants to learn German - there are more ways than chatting - and being chatted up by a german Frau ............. mmmmmm think he's being awful to you Sonkie - then feels guilty. Don't let him treat you so bad that you then seek solice with a muffin. He's won then - and IMO you are the winner in this relationship.
sonkie
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I must say I am enjoying today, he has constantly been saying that I will probably meet a fella whilst in Bath.........hee hee he is feeling threatened big time.....and I am loving it. I have told him I am getting a new top for the meet then he said I should get my hair done too, to help in my picking up a bloke.
I am loving the fact that he is feeling insecure he might wake up now and see what a prat he has been.
I am loving the fact that he is feeling insecure he might wake up now and see what a prat he has been.
sonkie
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He also has still been saying that I have reacted childishly to the situation with the "frau ".
So I said ok if I was in my room chatting to some bloke and he wanted to go in and get something and I promptly slammed the door in his face he wouldnt want to know why.
He said course he would want to know so I said there you go then, but no he just cant see it. So I told him if he wants to chat to her to please himself as im not bothered anymore, so this remark has unsettled him too.
So I said ok if I was in my room chatting to some bloke and he wanted to go in and get something and I promptly slammed the door in his face he wouldnt want to know why.
He said course he would want to know so I said there you go then, but no he just cant see it. So I told him if he wants to chat to her to please himself as im not bothered anymore, so this remark has unsettled him too.
Karen
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the bloke has issues!! great stonking ones at that!
he knows hes wrong with that german one and that u arent being childish but hes just deflecting the attention away from what a selfish moron he is. well, trying to at least! hes now regretting putting her ahead of you cos u r about to go away and he thinks u might return the favour. thats why hes saying shes out the picture now. its nowt to do with having any respect for his wife. grrr!!
i wonder how he would react if we sent u home with a love bite and sent u some flowers a few days later with a note thanking u for a wonderful time in bath...but forgetting to sign it
i dont think head games are a good way forward for a relationship but it aint half fun seeing a git get some payback lol
he knows hes wrong with that german one and that u arent being childish but hes just deflecting the attention away from what a selfish moron he is. well, trying to at least! hes now regretting putting her ahead of you cos u r about to go away and he thinks u might return the favour. thats why hes saying shes out the picture now. its nowt to do with having any respect for his wife. grrr!!
i wonder how he would react if we sent u home with a love bite and sent u some flowers a few days later with a note thanking u for a wonderful time in bath...but forgetting to sign it
i dont think head games are a good way forward for a relationship but it aint half fun seeing a git get some payback lol
sonkie
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Well hubby has been on viagra or something he been trying it on all day.!......hello Im working, kids in the house. Well I told him to bugger off .
He has said to get my hair done before the Bath meet, for when im on the pull....lol its coming out now, he`s feeling threatened. Well I said he can pay for my hairdo as my treat for losing 4 stone and he said suppose so.
He has said to get my hair done before the Bath meet, for when im on the pull....lol its coming out now, he`s feeling threatened. Well I said he can pay for my hairdo as my treat for losing 4 stone and he said suppose so.
flirty40greeneyes
Busy busy busy!!
Just looking at your stastics - so to speak!! You have lost soooo many inches - no wonder he's feeling threatened - but he should be proud and supportive. Yes get your hair done - the whole works and enjoy your trip to Bath!
sonkie
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sonkie
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Well hubby organised a few drinks at the local pub last night for a guy who was leaving, he told me he will get a lift from the blokes wife when she picks him up......well I woke at 4.30 am .....no he wasnt back, though I noticed a text message so read it.....it said "will be seriously, divorciliy, definately late. Dont send the search party (as if ) I can only say im sorry!"
So what do you make of this, now I have read it a few times it sounds very guilty to me.....! Anyway he got in at 6.20 this morning.
So what do you make of this, now I have read it a few times it sounds very guilty to me.....! Anyway he got in at 6.20 this morning.
Isobel1965
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Sonya - I've been reading the last few pages of your thread with my hands over my face! It reminds me so much of my ex-husband - who also used to stay out all night and leave me with the kids.
IMO you would be far happier without this man in your life. Of course, it's your decision and you won't make one until you feel the last straw has been broken, but just wanted to send you ((HUGS)) and that I know what you're going through and that you don't have to put up with this.
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IMO you would be far happier without this man in your life. Of course, it's your decision and you won't make one until you feel the last straw has been broken, but just wanted to send you ((HUGS)) and that I know what you're going through and that you don't have to put up with this.
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sonkie
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Thank you Isobel, I have decided to wait til after my op unless situation gets worse. I will not be able to cope financially when I have op and for up to 6 wks after as im self employed and would have to claim incapacity benefit. So thought it would be better to get this out the way first.
Isobel1965
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I'm really glad to hear you've got a plan, hun! You're a smart cookie!
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