From here to Eternally Slim

[Eternalflame]

Good morning

Hope everyone is well.

Good luck for Wednesday weighers today.

So tired today, early morning as had an 8.30am appt in school, who didn't turn up.. nice child, lol.

Met an old friend last night for a few diet cokes, chatted for hours and it is nice to catch up with ppl you don't see often.

Need to get some time to do my diary at some point.

Pesty, I think that Red will benefit you this week and the EE days at the weekend is a good idea, especially when you have the christening. I've got my Mum's birthday meet up on Sunday and we are meeting over Thordon Park, in Brentwood, where you can hire a BBQ area for the day, so games etc but the EE option gives you a chance to at least mix it that day.

Have a good day everyone xxx

 

[xxtannyxx]

Morning all lost 2.5lbs this week!!

Have lost 2st 9lbs now am well chuffed with that

Hows everyone doing?

How are you eternal hun?

 

[MadameLaMinx]

Morning all!

So, this week I am doing the "water challenge". Not sure what that is supposed to entail, but yesterday I drank about 3l of the stuff plus cups of tea and a couple of glasses of Diet Coke. Not counting the tea or the DC in the intake. Overall fluidswise though, I prolly drank about 4.5-5l. Was 100% yesterday, and am starting to build up to a little more exercise.

Am already well into my second large glass of water of the day, but need to develop a camelesque hump in order to store it all because I am spending half the day in the bathroom. Am planning to do a fish week next week after having seen Snuggles do so well with it. Might throw a few more fish days into the mix this week actually, I have some frozen cod fillets in the freezer and I loves tuna, so I might start with the fish over the weekend once I have used all the synfree sausages I bought yesterday.

Hope everyone has a good day and GL to the Weds weighers!

 

[Eternalflame]

MLM.. They were doing a whole salmon half price in Tesco. Filleted and boned and cut into steaks, real bargian. Great for salads, making fish cakes, to go with veggies or noodles too

 

[MadameLaMinx]

Awesome thanks EF

 

[Eternalflame]

Morning all lost 2.5lbs this week!!

Have lost 2st 9lbs now am well chuffed with that

Hows everyone doing?

How are you eternal hun?

Hi Tanny

I'm good thanks, well done you girlie on the loss this week, and thats an awesome amount to have losst over all as well.

I've just crept down to the 14 stone zone and its taken me so long to get there, I never thought it would happen, lol.. but lots of red days finally did..

Hope all is well with you, hows things been? x

 

[rosiepeace]

RP - You are a very motivational speaker and i just wanted to say how lovely i thought your reply to pesty was

Thank you hun - I don't know where it came from to be honest!

Am having a tough time at the moment - have come to the realisation that i no longer love my hubby - now I need to tell him and deal with the outcome - which will probably be rough. And then the decision making over our son as well. So at the mo am struggling with SW - hoping I can maintain a loss though. Need to tell him asap as it's killing me know i don't love him anymore and knowing that he doesn't know about it.
I still care for him but not enough to stay with him.

 

[MadameLaMinx]

Holyheck Rosie. Thats a lot to be dealing with. (((hugs))).

Have you thought about getting some counselling and support to help you through this? If your relationship is going to break down it may be very useful for you to go to your GP and have a chat to them. Most surgeries have counsellors attached to them, or you could talk to Relate. If you feel that this situation is irretrievable and that there is no chance that with some work you could get your marriage back into some shape, then it would be a very good idea. Even if there was some sort of chance, it would be useful, talking can really help to clear your mind about what YOU want.

Best wishes and love for the coming months, maybe staying on plan will help you feel more in control of your situation, but dont beat yourself up if you slip up here and there, big emotional upheavals are stressful enough without giving yourself a rod to beat yourself with.

 

[rosiepeace]

Thanks MLM

I was seeing a counsellor before I moved and she basically agreeed with me that we shouldn't be together - as for us both going to counselling - he refuses point blank. We stayed together for the move - i thought it would help but things are just going from bad to worse so it's not working and now I just need to work up to telling him and dealing with the fall out.

Think in the long run it will be better all round, although I am sad that it is going to come to this I am looking forward to it - hope this makes sense.

 

[MadameLaMinx]

It makes perfect sense. Once you finally make that decision it gives you the confidence to know there is an alternative path ahead for you and you dont have to suffer this one any longer. Yes, it will be horrible in the short term and I am sure very painful for you both, but you can see past that to a brighter future and that will give you optimism and a reason to move forward.

We are always here for you if you want to shout, scream, vent or just cry. You will get through this and you will be a damn sight stronger for it.

 

[Eternalflame]

Hi Rosie

You are brave honey, to accept this and air it too. Its far better to start that process off then to leave it festering, and you'll be happier in the long term for this too. I understand it must be really hard to find the right time hon, but you need to do this as soon as you can, so that you can start moving in the right direction. Big hugs and always here if you need us. xxxx

 

[xxtannyxx]

yeah im doing ok eternal hun.

last 3 weeks ive seemed to struggle a bit my weight losses have seemed to slow right down now.

hopefully they might speed up again soon.

but apart from that yeah going good .

 

[KatKit]

HI everyone

Been away and just Rosies post. Just wanted to say that you only have one life to live and you shouldn't live yours through someone else just to make them feel better - if that makes sense.

As everyone else has said - we are here for you.

Good luck Rosie.. (I do know how you feel!)

Kats

 

[zombiecakes]

/hugs Rosie.

I had to do this at the end of 2008. It was not fun and at times it was downright awful. However, it does get better and if you are certain this is what you want (which judging by what you've written, it is) then stick is through and the end is worth it. I am SO much happier now. I felt awful, because i still cared about him, but i didn't love him and the thought of continuing my life as it was was killing me. Does your husband have any idea that the marriage could be coming to an end? If he does and is still making no effort to change anything? (as you said it's getting worse) then hopefully this will make it a bit easier. My husband didn't want it to end and this is what made it all a million times worse. I don't have children (which i'm glad for) so i hope you can reach an acceptable agreement over this.

I'm waffling now, but if you're certain this is what you want then go through with it and be a happier woman at the end. I am so so much happier now and enjoy life and the future and just living. Have also found someone who is perfect for me, and it makes me realise even more how glad i am i didn't stay just for the sake of it. Life is too short to make yourself miserable for the sake of someone else. It's your life to live however you wish.

Good luck and so many hugs

 

[zombiecakes]

I had my weigh in this morning and only lost 0.6 lbs. A bit disappointing

 

[KatKit]

Hi Zombiecakes

A loss is a loss as they say its better than gaining.

You might next week at WI that the loss will be greater.

I'm just off to read your food diaries its nice read what someone else is eating...Good luck

Kats

 

[KatKit]

Hi Flamster

How you doing- looks like your doing well!

I need to get some time in the morning to come on here and do my food diary and reply to some posts if I can before work and again after work as i find that I could be on here all day.

Kats

 

[Eternalflame]

ZC.. did you go to the loo before you went? I reckon you'd had lost a lb if you didn't. Maybe think about changing the plan this week? To give yourself a boost? x

 

[Scanbran]

Hi folks. I'm just back from a week's cruise, so haven't really had the chance to read through all the posts since then (impossible!), but I have to say well done to EF, Libra and Tanny for superb losses this week (sorry if I missed anyone).

Don't worry about the STS Pesty - you did well on so much vodka!
Happy 40th Charmed, and well done on your mini-goal.
I hope you enjoy your Scottish trip MLM! Remember, it's not all Haggis for tea up here - you can get a deep fried Mars bar too (it's a HexB in our class ).

I tried very hard to stay on plan during the cruise, and food-wise, I was mainly excellent, but we met up with some people while on board, and you know how it is when you're spending every evening chatting, watching shows, eating dinner, playing bingo , going to the casino etc.
You have to have a drink (or ten).
Plus it was my birthday on Saturday, so we spent it in Sardinia and some lovely bottles of wine (can't remember how many exactly), so I'm afraid my syns were obliterated by the alcohol!

I'm cautiously expecting a 3 or 4lb gain at weigh-in tomorrow evening, but will get back on plan straight-away anyway.

 

[zombiecakes]

I didn't. And for tmi moment, i just went to the loo after my lunch and i definitely think that was another 1/2 lb or more i could have shifted

I mix my days between green and EE atm. Can't do red.

I might change my weigh day to a weekend, then i can weigh after i've been to the loo in a morning. As with weekdays i'm generally in a rush because i'm useless at getting up