Lou's diary - (Celebrity Slim)

Thanks everyone.... I told him I'm not going round tonight, he responded with "Fine, I'm going out with the lads then"......... thing is I know he's said this to provoke me, so I just said I hope he has had a good night.

Men are complete tosspots sometimes.

Anyway......... I was fed up so I put my Xmas tree up and have had a good clean... I'm the same as you rainbow, I'll be sick of it by next weekend too.

Also, I bought these really cool gift tags with actual bells on in the Jan sales last year. They are soooo cool and are meant to be £1.50 for three, I got them for 20p a pack, my Xmas presents are going to be tinkling this year!! xxx
 
Blimey - I don't know what is wrong with me today... I've burst into tears twice??!! I don't think it's hormones as I have the depot injection.... but who knows?!

I just want to go and curl up in bed, spoke to Marc........ I said we need to sort things out before tomorrow so I'll come over later.... he basically said things were fine and don't come over tonight.

Nice.

I had a dream that he was cheating on me a few nights ago and it's unsettled me, I know it was only a dream but still...

Also, I was at his last weekend and the home phone rang twice, he wouldn't answer it as he said it was a guy calling about a car he was interested in. It just made me highly suspicious... surely you'd just pick up the phone and tell the guy you're not interested in the car anymore??

I can't carry on feeling like this in a relationship, I'm going to have it out with him, I really don't want to split up with him but something has to change.

Ironic - I've just wrapped up all his bloody xmas presents!
 
Oh my sweetie ((((((((hugs)))))))
I so understand everything you said and yes you need to tell him this?
How long have you been together/
x
 
Don't read too much into it Lou. When someone like that calls me I would rather ignore the phone than tell them I am not interested. I hate doing things like that.

I dont know much about your relationship situation, but if you suspect that he may be cheating, how about an impromptu visit and see if he is alone? Are there any other signs that he may be playing away?

This time of year can make people sad, because its all about happy families and relationships, good will to all men and that. I think it highlights things that we are not happy with, and with New Year coming alone, people are thinking about New Years Resolutions etc. It can be very unsettling.

Try writing down your feelings and then reading it back to yourself. It may help to put things into perspective and might just take your tears away x
 
Claire1981 said:
Oh my sweetie ((((((((hugs)))))))
I so understand everything you said and yes you need to tell him this?
How long have you been together/
x
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Thanks hun, we've been together for a year. I just wish the niggly feeling would go away, there are just small things like he always has his phone on silent etc..... I'll get to the bottom of it x
 
SpaceAngel said:
I dont know much about your relationship situation, but if you suspect that he may be cheating, how about an impromptu visit and see if he is alone? Are there any other signs that he may be playing away?
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If we're not at each others houses we always call each other a few times each evening, so I don't think he's had anyone at his house or anything.

The only other signs is that he is quite secretive with his mobile and always has it on silent when he's with me. Also... I know it sounds petty but he's on facebook but we're not friends on there, we've been together for a year, yet we're not friends on facebook, I know it sounds trival but it's quite a big thing to me.....

I think I'm upset today as I've spent the day on my own and have realised how much I've changed my life since getting with him, e.g. I don't have any of my own interests and all my friends have moved away etc. x
 
Sorry you're feeling down hun, useless at offering much in the way of constructive advice but just thought I'd send a hug :hug99: and hope things improve for you.

Sx
 
Louise24 said:
If we're not at each others houses we always call each other a few times each evening, so I don't think he's had anyone at his house or anything.

The only other signs is that he is quite secretive with his mobile and always has it on silent when he's with me. Also... I know it sounds petty but he's on facebook but we're not friends on there, we've been together for a year, yet we're not friends on facebook, I know it sounds trival but it's quite a big thing to me.....

I think I'm upset today as I've spent the day on my own and have realised how much I've changed my life since getting with him, e.g. I don't have any of my own interests and all my friends have moved away etc. x
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I must admit that the Facebook thing is a bit odd. Is the fact that your not Facebook friends his decision?

Maybe you should seriously re-evaluate your relationship. Ask yourself some questions and give yourself honest answers.

Where do you want to see yourself in 5 years time?

Do you want to live with him?

Do you trust him?

Do you still fancy him?

Also, try and make some arrangements with your friends and do things outside of your relationship with him. Those things may help.
 
I try to ignore the Facebook thing as it makes me really suspicous.. yes, it's him that hasn't accepted me as a friend, he says his mates will just harass me etc. (They 30 year old blokes, surely they should have grown up by now).

I do love him and do see myself with him in 5 years time, we have a great time when we're together but the above things are always in my mind. I'm going to arrange to see my friends more and put myself as a priority.

Hopefully it'll work itself out tomorrow. Thanks for being there girlys x
 
aww lou - sorry you're feeling sh*t today :( ....wish i could send you a nice box of sin free chocolates!

i'd insist he adds you on facebook and tell him his excuses are crap - i'd also explain that stupid little things like that fuel insecurities in a relationship. i had a dream last night that my OH wanted to go back to an ex, who was floating in the background of the dream. the ex was a completely made up person and she was really skanky so i was sobbing and telling him not to go! weird or what. i always feel awful after those kinds of dreams - i always tell OH about them and he just thinks they're hilarious, especially the ones where i punch his head in!
 
Does he live far away? I'd pay a surprise visit this evening if I were you. You tell him you need to talk and he tells you not to go round?! Go round there and if he's there on his own tell him you needed to sort this out tonight for the reasons you have told us. I'd go mad if my OH didn't accept me on Facebook, there's no excuse for that
 
i'm with you on that one taz - i'd turn up with a bottle of wine and when he opens the door just cry and tell him you don't want to fight but you really need to see him. have it out with him.... and if he's a d**k about it punch his head in ;)
 
id pay him a suprise visit to at least it will put your mind at rest and you are important in this relationship,mayb getting some nights sorted out with your mates might help,so your not in each others pockets,and your not left at home while he out enjoying himself!!and my oh was the 1st person i had on facebook even though we live together lol.love and hugs hun xxx
 
Oh bean bean bean... Hope you sort things asap.. I would go mad if Paul didnt add me on Facebook but facebook is a complete liability you know! Its caused MANY rows tween me and Paul..tut

I would be so tempted to not bother contacting him til he contacts you esp if going tomm.. make him do the work?
xxx
 
I really hope that you get things sorted soon Lou and sorry that your feeling low.

Hopefully you will get things sorted with Marc soon.
 
Thanks everyone..... well I called him last night and he didn't answer the phone so I though f**k it... I'm going round there (he lives 30 mins away), anyway, just defrosted car and was about to drive off when he calls me. He was in the middle of a xbox mission aparantly, he called me off his mobile so I said I'd call back on his house phone (to make sure he was there) and he was, we talked for 10 mins or so as normal.

We've sorted things out now I think but I've still not bought up the FB thing, I'm not going to do it today as we have to spend the next 2 days with his family, so will bring it up when we get back.

Thank you for all your thoughts and help girlies. Hope you all have a nice Sunday.

xxxxx
 
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