Summerskye
Gold Member
Hi Debbie
I don't think you need to apologise at all - either for the post or the fact that you were eating (pretty sensibly as it happens). I just think that some people say things without thinking and aren't aware how what they're saying may be interpreted by those at the receiving end. I'm sure this woman had no intention of causing offence - and maybe the fact that she is French and not communicating in her first language may have something to do with it too. Lost in translation as it were?
It goes without saying that everyone has to eat, regardless of their shape/size/build. Exactly what we eat is a matter of personal choice. From my own observations (and my own 'learned behaviour' I have to say), I think that slimmer people often just make different choices regarding what food they eat than those who are overweight.
Of course there are those lucky swines who can eat whatever they want and not gain an ounce
, but I actually think they're in the minority. The vast majority of us can't do that without it affecting our weight so we just have to make more sensible (and often a lot less satisfying/interesting/tasty) food choices.
I suspect of lot of what we perceive someone else has said is actually our own interpretation of it anyway (which is more to do with our own internal projections/feelings) that what was actually meant to be heard - so please don't feel paranoid, anxious or guilty in anyway whatsover as I'm sure no hurt was intended.
Lots of love
I don't think you need to apologise at all - either for the post or the fact that you were eating (pretty sensibly as it happens). I just think that some people say things without thinking and aren't aware how what they're saying may be interpreted by those at the receiving end. I'm sure this woman had no intention of causing offence - and maybe the fact that she is French and not communicating in her first language may have something to do with it too. Lost in translation as it were?
It goes without saying that everyone has to eat, regardless of their shape/size/build. Exactly what we eat is a matter of personal choice. From my own observations (and my own 'learned behaviour' I have to say), I think that slimmer people often just make different choices regarding what food they eat than those who are overweight.
Of course there are those lucky swines who can eat whatever they want and not gain an ounce
, but I actually think they're in the minority. The vast majority of us can't do that without it affecting our weight so we just have to make more sensible (and often a lot less satisfying/interesting/tasty) food choices. I suspect of lot of what we perceive someone else has said is actually our own interpretation of it anyway (which is more to do with our own internal projections/feelings) that what was actually meant to be heard - so please don't feel paranoid, anxious or guilty in anyway whatsover as I'm sure no hurt was intended.
Lots of love
