Thank you girlies. Well had a bit of a shocker last night !!! A mutual friend of mine and Ex invited me to his place in West Wales for the weekend!!!!! It's way way to early to be thinking of men so totally out of the blue and totally shocked!!!! I was very firm I need time to be me. He was very very sweet, said he always liked me!! And he would take things very very slow, start of with friendship!! Still in a state of shock, I mumbled I would let him know tonight!
Now my problem is I am not ready for men, and I am a long way of being ready, and even if I was I am not sure I like him like that! I have never thought of him in that way! So do I go and do the friendship thing? Or do I be firm and say thanks but no thanks ?? If nothing else we always have a giggle together! But soooooo confused and so lacking in any self esteem in regards to men x
Awww I feel for you - that is a dilemma. But what a compliment! He's obviously been admiring you from afar for ages. See? - we are always telling you what a gorgeous and lovely lady you are.
Ok this is completely just my opinion but my first thought would be that you are coming out of a long term relationship and you have been hurt. if it was me my instinct would be to spend some time enjoying being single and learning to be meg again instead of being someone's wife, someone's mother, someone's daughter - I've not explained that very well - does that make sense?
You've really been through a lot lately and it seems from your posts now that you are moving forward and really starting to enjoy your life.
If he really wants you (and I'm sure he does - why would he not??) he will be willing to wait for you until you are ready.
You say you're not sure if you like him that way so could you start with friendship on the clear understanding that you may never want to go beyond that and just see what happens - sometimes we don't always realise how we feel until much further down the line. Although it is difficult to do the friendship thing when one person clearly wants it to be more (I've been there)
Only you know what sort of guy he is - if you did do the friendship thing and decided in the end that you didn't want to take it any further would he accept that or would you feel like you were leading him on with the expectation of it developing into something more?
Although I'm sure as your confidence grows even more you will be beating men off with a stick soon so maybe you shouldn't settle for the first offer ;-)
That said, if he makes you laugh and you enjoy spending time with him that is a good start.
Sorry that is completely no help at all is it lol xxxx