When the going gets tough.....the tough get slimmer

[betterforever83]

bacon sandwich eaten counted and thoroughly enjoyed

Thanks squeezy you're right! i do stress too mucha and always trying to keep other people happy and even when i have a 'lazy' day my mind is never at rest so relaxation cds might be an idea!!! Feel better already just because i'm not worried i'm gonna keel over and die tonight will be the real test as it's always worse around bedtime . feel a bit silly that it's possibly all in my mind tho

 

[Squeezyweezy]

The mind is an unbelievabley strong tool, and it often manifests it's worries and stresses into something physical, so don't feel silly. It's so mormal, I bet if you asked some people you know, they would admit to similar things happening to them.

You sound so similar to me though. Always thinking about how everyone else feels and worrying about things. It is only in the last 6 months that I have learned to relax. I never used to be able to let go of things and focus on me, but it was making me so ill, I had to really give myself a talking to. I wasn't any use to anyone feeling the way I did. Now I spend more time focusing on relaxation time for me, and everyone else has to wait. They get a little bit less of my time, but they get me at my best, so surely thats more usefull?

 

[betterforever83]

lost my half a pound gain from last week so good times!!! getting a bit bored of the same numbers because i'm impatient, but i keep looking at what i've lost and the difference in my clothes and i know i can't complain!!!! I've even had to start getting rid of some of my 'comfort' tops because they look so ridiculously big i feel silly

Really on it this week want to see some new numbers next friday because it makes me happy

 

[betterforever83]

A good day today, eaten as planned, not been hungry and not too many calories!! but don't pat me on the back just yet as i'm off out at 630 to get a little drunkededed with the girlies

Hubby has gone down to london to watch footie and will be home at 1030ish being very drunk and annoying, so if you can't beat em join em!!!! Can't go too mad tho cos of work in morning and lack of funds but i know i'll be going over cals a bit...............and i'm ok with it

Happy weekend people xx

 

[Bostik]

Have a good night

 

[Squeezyweezy]

Well done on the loss hun.

I know how you feel about seeing the same numbers, mine have been floating around the same 4 for about 2 months. Hopefully next week we will both break the barrier.

Have a nice evening

 

[betterforever83]

I've said it before and i'll say it again............i'm NEVER drinking again Feel so ill today, eaten like a pig and can't remember much of last night but i know i fell over!!!!! Hate being out of control and thats exactly how i felt. Nobody has said anything but i get the feeling i was being very annoying and not at all like myself.

I very rarely act like an idiot when i'm drinking and the fact that i don't really know what i got up to freaks me out!!! i'm prob just being paranoid but it's still not a good feeling. I should be able to enjoy myself without drinking so much but as i obviously can't restrain myself maybe i need to become a teetotaller for the sake of my sanity.

My real dad was an alcoholic and it killed him, they do say it's genetic! Or am i completely over reacting?? its just i spent my early 20s in an alcoholic stupor and thought i'd grown out of that need. Don't even enjoy it, makes me feel poop, is too expensive (money and calories) think i just drink because it's 'expected' of me in this very pub orientated town but why should i be like everyone else

Whinge over will prob feel better tomorrow so right back on it xxx

 

[betterforever83]

Still feeling icky and embarrased after sat night and have stuffed my face again not even trying to count calories

Definately gonna try and give up drinking even though it's exactly the wrong time of year to do it i refuse to procrastinate as usual so just gonna grab the bull by the horns and start now!!!! so 2 days down a lifetime to go Will be fine once i'm used to it. will be difficult being sober around loads of drunk people but i can do it............i hope !!!

 

[Squeezyweezy]

My Brother decided to stop drinking when he realised it didn't agree with him. He is only 21 and has had some pretty horrible experiences, most of which he can't remember. He gets really angry when he's drunk and occasionally violent, so one day last year he just turned round and said, enoughs enough!!! He has been sober ever since, and it's like being with a different person when we're out. He says he misses it occasionally, but most of the time you just get taken away on everyone elses drunk vibe. He has told me that some of his best nights out have been sober.

Alot of my friends don't drink actually, and it has never affected our good times.

If you really put your mind to it hun you can do this, and we will all support you 100%.

 

[betterforever83]

Thanks squeezy i needed that!!! It's something i've been considering for ages now i'm just too easily lead and convinced i'll be missing out, even though every time i've had a sober night out i've enjoyed it and been more relaxed due to not being paranoid bout seeming too 'drunk'! Pointless drinking really and the thought of never having another hangover is VERY appealing.

I guess once everyone gets used to it and they realise i'm not 'boring' i'll stop getting nagged. Think i've decided to go for it but am too scared to commit in case i fail at yet another thing. Hate the thought of being dependent on anything

If i can tackle this i can do anything

 

[Squeezyweezy]

Everyone will soon get used to it hun, and it won't even get mentioned.

I take some pretty heavy meds, and I'm not supposed to drink when I'm on them, so I have many nights out supping diet coke or J2O's, it used to bother me, but now I enjoy being able to see and remember everyone else making an idiot of themselves!!

I'm with you on the hangover though hun. If I never had another hangover in my life it couldn't come to soon. They get me really bad, I have to remember I'm not 18 anymore!!

 

[betterforever83]

Think i've made my mind up re; becoming teetotal and i feel rather excited bout it!!! kept wanting to tell people today til i remebered i don't want to make a big deal out of it the pros far weigh out the cons just focussing on how much money i'll save and how much more time i'll have if i'm not hungover once a week (at least)

Dunno if i'll be feeling like this on sat though!!! Got another friends birthday night out and everyone will be going mad with cocktails and shots but i'm sure i can do it one day at a time and all that!!! and if anyone wants to jump to the conclusion that i'm pregnant- let em carry on! they'll be mighty disappointed in 9 months not me!!!!!!

Still can't get back to it food wise but have resigned myself to maintaining now until new year just to get my head round not drinking before i challenge myself anymore. Won't go mad though as i will regret it if i gain xx

 

[betterforever83]

Had a good day yesterday!!! Seem to be lot less hungry all of a sudden and am for once paying attention to it instead of just eating any way

Going strong on the teetotal thing but it is coming toards the weekend and getting a little wary. It's just too easy to say oh, i'll just have a couple then switch to diet coke but i know once i get started i can't/won't stop until i'm drunk. That part of the reason i want to stop because i think it has more control over me than i care to admit.

Am looking forward to going out sat night, seeing friends i haven't seen since feb, wearing a size12 dress that i haven't fit into since 2008, seeing my brother and having a rare night out with hubby! And i may even let myself have a kebeb on the way home well i don't wanna be under on cals do i???? And of all those things none of them will be made better by drinking, in fact they will be worse.

 

[Bostik]

My sister recently stopped drinking. She said it's not too bad once you get over the initial bit where your mates don't think you'll stick to it yet and are offering you drinks when you're out and stuff and saying one won't hurt! She also is a barmaid and gets free drinks there at the end of her shift usually. But she said you get used to it and nights out are still good even sober And she's 19 when shes meant to be drunk constantly lol. You can do this

 

[betterforever83]

Thanks so much

I need a smuch evidence that i can do this as possible. I think once i've got saturday night over with it will be easier...........just worrying i won't have a good enough personality to still be fun!! but if people only like me drunk thats not the real me

I know it's the right thing to do it's just convincing everyone else hahaha xx

 

[betterforever83]

I have finally lost that pound to take me to exactly one and a half stone loss Can't really get my head round it tho as haven't been that good but obviously sonmething is working!!!

Now only 3lb to meet my first goal and should be able to reach that by new year if i focus. I know people normally gain over xmas week but i see no reason why i will as i'm not gonna drink, overindulge on food (except maybe christmas afternoon!)and i'll be just as active a normal if not more so with work and more social events!!

3lb baby!!!!!! can't quite believe it!!!!

 

[Squeezyweezy]

WELL DONE!!!!

Thats fantastic news hun, you should be very proud of yourself.

I'm feeling the same about Christmas. There is no reason why I should pile the pounds on over the festive period. Other than Christmas day and Boxing day I shall still be good and cc.

 

[Bostik]

Well done! You can get those few lbs off before the new year

 

[betterforever83]

Thanks girls

well today is judgement day!!! First night out since deciding to give up drink........and it's a big one. Have told hubby and he doesn't believe me!!! to the point that when he went to get his beer last night he asked if i wanted a bottle of wine - and i decline can't really blame him as have been saying this for ages and fail everytime but proving him wrong is a great motivator

Have got a bottle of tonic water (just like a 'real' drink ) and some diet cherry coke to drink while everyone else is binging their way thru beer/wine to save money before hitting the town. then a bottle of water will do me for the rest of the night.

Just hope people don't keep on at me bout it and make me cry hehehe! or i'll just slap em and have done with it!!!

My NYE costume just turned up (trapeze artist) it's a 12/14 and was worried cos they come up quite small normally and having seen it am now worried it will be too big!!!!?? wierd! sure it won't be now just finding it hard to judge lately

 

[betterforever83]

Well i did it!!!!!! 5 whole hours in pubs/clubs and not a drop paseed my lips So happy!!!

Only the blokes really noticed i wasn't drinking so know automatic pregnancy assumptions, just said i was working in the morning (true!!) and they were fine with it. One even said he admired my will power.

However when we got home at midnight the pub over the road had music blaring out until 130am (rude!!) so still had a crappy nights sleep and feel poop today. But i'll wake up eventually not like the all day hangover i would have if i drank.

I think i did a good job of enjoying myself but once every where got packed i soon got fed up of being pushed around waiting 2hours at the bar so we left (plus hubby started falling over his own feet so was prob for best ) Don't think i will be doing that type of night out much while i'm sober but i never really enjoyed it drunk all that much so........

Did have a mcDonalds on way home but i figured i deserved a reward and was proper hungry. Can feel the water retention now but will glug water all day to sort that out!!!!

NOw i'm over the first hurdle there will be no stopping me xx