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Quak said:
Can only echo what has been said above, you are doing it to give you and them a better quality of life, it is only for a short while and will be of so much benefit after. And yes, time for a new mattress at least by the sound of it. Hugs to you all.

Suggestion to tire little'un out for tonight, instead of taking her for a drive in the car, tie her to the back and make her run behind lol (ok - I know it is illegal but you did ask) or maybe roller skates instead of running :D

Bren xx
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pmsl!! Love the idea of roller skates, quite fancy doing that myself!

Thank you for yr kind comments!

Am fighting a bit of a battle with my family too... I know they're only concerned for me but they are putting all these doubts in my head that I can't cope & won't be able to manage where as everyone who has responded on the wls site has said it'll be hard but you'll cope & the kids are very resilient & will manage!!

They are very entitled to their opinions but if they had researched, spoken to people I would find their opinions more valid than just sweeping statements about something they no nothing about!

Everytime I get upset at what they're saying I get told to stop being so silly & that their only expressing their opinions... I feel like my voice is constantly be squashed & actually remember how much of this was brought up in my counselling about my relationship with my mum & sister & I felt I had to repress everything.

I know I'm not without my faults, far from it but I just wish they would allow me to deal with all of my emotions without telling me how I should be feeling... my feelings may not be right by them but they are valid by me!!

I really don't know what I'd do without this place to vent my feelings, although I think I'll have to move my diary to a more private place as my sister has now joined the wls site & I feel like one of my places of expressing has now gone.

Thank you to all of you who listen to my inane ramblings, don't judge me & allow me to voice my feelings... I feel much better after getting all that off my chest! xxx
 
aww Linz thats what we are here for. THEY dont know how you feel inside only you do and if you want to feel how you feel then thats totally up to you. Is your sister having wls or has she just joined to nosey?
Big hugs to you babe (and puppy kisses).

p.s. i have had to re-write this twice as Gabi decided she wanted to help me type ;) she obviously is sending her love to you Linz xxxx
 
Think she's just joined to find out more, she's a skinny minny!

Am wondering as I've got so much personal stuff on this diary if I should get it moved to Gold members where you need 1500 posts to read it?? Just nervous now that anyone can read all of my deepest darkest thoughts!

Thanks Gabi... bet she'll make more sense than me right now.

Did the car sail thru?? xx
 
Everytime I get upset at what they're saying I get told to stop being so silly & that their only expressing their opinions... I feel like my voice is constantly be squashed & actually remember how much of this was brought up in my counselling about my relationship with my mum & sister & I felt I had to repress everything.


oh linz, i know its hard but you need to put them straight. tell them,,, look this is my life, my choice, my mind is made up. i need your support at this time in my life when i have had to make such a big descision. i am doing this no matter what is said. i need your support and if you think anything of me then please support me in my ups and downs. i will be a much happier person in the long run but it will be hard and i need you to be there for me.

sorry if i have over stepped the mark xxx
 
Hiya gorgess..
When i was on my own with DS when he was likkle..i used to blow a few balloons up of various colours and get him to catch them after telling him which colour to catch..he used to love it and it was a good way of tiring him out too...:D

have a nice evening chuck x
 
Fuzzy23 said:
Hiya gorgess..
When i was on my own with DS when he was likkle..i used to blow a few balloons up of various colours and get him to catch them after telling him which colour to catch..he used to love it and it was a good way of tiring him out too...:D

have a nice evening chuck x
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Fab idea lovely lady!!

Have had a lovely afternoon with AJ, we nestled down on the sofa & watched a dvd, while I read a book (watched too many barbie dvd's this week!) then we had a tea party, my carpet is pretty damp with her tipping water from her bottle into to tea cups but hey it'll dry & may even clean it up a bit too! :D

Had a lovely afternoon & got some wls books thru & after giving myself a talking too about wasting too much time this side of surgery worrying about the otherside of surgery... there are far more exciting things to do, like drink lots of water from teeny weeny t-cups!!

I do feel empowered by today tho & how I've managed to get thru it, may not have been ideal but valuable lessons I learnt in counselling have really helped!!

I have found one of the wls books really inspiring, perfect timing me thinks.. have got 4 to read one of which is about the psychological journey, will read that one next after this fun lighthearted biography!

Thanks to you all so much for supporting & understanding me today... you guys ROCK!!!!
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I know it's hard to believe in yourself when family are putting you down Linz, but remember you are doing this for the right reasons. Is your sister a bit worried you will outshine her when you lose your weight? That might seem harsh, but it could be true especially if she has come nosing onto the wls forum. She might be a tiny bit jealous of what you might become, what with your fab personality and all ;)
Anyway, sod what they think. If they won't help you that's your problem. You'll cope fine & we will be here for your ranting hun. xxx
 
so glad you were feeling better babes xxxx yes you could move this to gold members just so you can hve your own private place xxxx
car just scraped through not sailed lol!
 
Evening Linz - it must be hard to listen to people telling you how you should be/are feeling - only you know the truth. Yes it will be hard for a little while but not impossible to overcome - and you will be so much better afterwards that everyone will have to admit you were right - try not to be too smug eh?
Bren xx
 
Linz-i-loo. Hun. What can i say?
Sometimes people are quick to judge with things like this because, as you said, they know nothing about it. I honestly think the truth is that they care so strongly about you they can only see the negatives at the moment. If you didnt know anything about it an AJ came up to you and said mum im having this op done for this reason part of you wouldnt want her to either. I do think its cruel they speak openly about their opinions like that to you though. Maybe its just their way of worrying and letting you know they are. You know we all understand why you are doing it and support you 110% (all but 1 but i think we changed that ones way of thinking!).
As for your back and AJ not sleeping til late.......if it gets too bad i say put an airbed on her floor and sleep in her room, she'll see it as a girlie sleepover and probably wont get out of bed and you will hopefully sleep well again.
Jacob will miss you. Kids always know which heart strings to pull on. OB was 8mths old when my asthma nearly killed me and being away from him at such a young age was so painful. One morning i heard my mobile bleep and it was a photo of him standing by himself (he had pulled up on the sofa, never done it before), with a huge smile on his face and the message read "i love you so much mummy get better for me soon". That pushed me to change my life totally so i reduced the risk of that happening again. Hun you are doing no less than that. You are getting better for your kids soon so you can spend longer with them. You are a fantastic mum and i know your reasons why and honestly think that by doing this and making such a hard decision you have put your kids first.
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Morning Linz, morning all.
 
.if it gets too bad i say put an airbed on her floor and sleep in her room, she'll see it as a girlie sleepover and probably wont get out of bed and you will hopefully sleep well again.
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omg cheryl I want to be one of your kids. mummy having sleepover :D

Morning gorgeous Linz :D How you today?

Morning Jim - nice break?
 
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