♥ .. Ruby's GREEN & RED Day's .. ♥

beelishy said:
I need to try these high veg pasta and sauce packs. Are they nice? I was supposed to (re-)join last night but ended up taking my little girl to the walk-in centre instead because she's got a bit of a chesty cough. Anyway, tonight! And then I will do a shop this weekend.

How are you gettin on? x
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Aw hope she's ok .... X

I really enjoy the high veg range - tastes more 'real' ... I find the ordinary ones have a 'fake' taste ..... Deffo recommended tho ;) xxx
 
I'm ok .. Almost plucked the courage up on Tuesday to walk in the docs and get an appt but iv decided I'm deffo goin on my day off next week (thurs) tried to talk to my husband again but he totally doesn't get depression and thinks anything medicine way is the easy way out .... So I gave up .. And that's why I decided thurs I'm going whether he likes it or not - I think from his view he sees it as he doesn't get why 'he' can't make me happy ... Again - he totally doesn't get it does he .. But I do see where he's coming from ..... Later that night he was very cute and said if I ever need to talk he will be there and doesn't want me to feel alone .... So were kinda gettin there ... Hope you ladies are ok :) x x x
 
Medicine is the easy way out?! Seriously?! So annoyed for you! But glad he did make up for it a bit. Some people just really don't get mental illness at all :(

I'm glad you've set a day to go in. Tis good to have a plan.xx
 
cheekychinchilla said:
Medicine is the easy way out?! Seriously?! So annoyed for you! But glad he did make up for it a bit. Some people just really don't get mental illness at all :(

I'm glad you've set a day to go in. Tis good to have a plan.xx
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Yeah he annoyed me so much I walked off - how bloody stupid is he !!?? .. I felt like I was about to cry trying to get him to understand me aafhhhhhhhhhhhhhh !! MEN !!! X
 
Hehe I don't think it's just men. But they do seem to have an even more difficult time trying to understand.
Maybe he'll realise how serious it is when you have been to see your Dr and hopefully get referred for counselling. Think you're really brave still wanting to go ahead with this after your husband's reaction :) Don't let him talk you out of it and certainly don't listen to him ;) x
 
I think a lot of people have that attitude, if they've not experienced it they don't understand. They have this really old fashioned attitude of grin and bear it, just get on with it, you must be soft if you need tablets, it's so annoying. I know I wouldn't be here without the medication I've had over the years, I'm not addicted to it and never had any problems getting off them. You might only need them for a month or 2 while you sort things out in your head, the combo of tablets and counselling works well because the tablets allow you think clearer and work your way through counselling.
I hope you manage to get in your doctors, you will feel a huge weight come off your shoulders just telling someone and getting help x x x
 
Thanks ladies - I am scared sh#itless to go docs :( .. My husband did make me think - maybe I'm just being a drama queen - but iv felt like this for so long now - I wanna feel happy for a change & like you say Tace - get that massive ten tonne weight off my shoulder - it's weighing me down and getting heavier .. Thanks for listening :) x x
 
Iv no time or energy to prepare so this is what I found in my cupboards & fridge for tomorrow (on a 10-8 shift)

Breakfast
2 wholemeal toast with Philadelphia xlight
HEXB & 2 syns

Dinner
Sainsburys veg ravioli
Sweetcorn
Danio strawberry
Blueberries
Satsuma
3 syns

Tea
Pasta pot shot - mild curry
Watermelon
3 babybel light
HEXA

Snacks
2 ryvita with ff cottage cheese
velvet crisps
3 pieces Oreo cadburys choc (now veg woo)
HEXB & 8.5 syns

14 syns used
 
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Hi rubyroo. I know how you feel - In the men department. I didn't even tell my bf when I was suffering from depression as I knew what his reaction would be like. One of his best friends has suffered with it for years on and off and when we were talking about it he just couldn't understand how you can't just "cheer up" and move on. He said he would tell if anyone was suffering with it and me and his both was like - well clearly not. He couldn't understand that I could put on a front when I was around everyone and as soon as I was on my own I'd just break down.

My doctor refused to give me anything for my depression as I was under 25, instead he gave me a weeks course of diazepam to "calm me down" as he didn believe I had depression but anxiety.. Don't get me wrong i had that too but for him to tell me I didn't have depression was beyond me- is he a f#cking mind reader?!

Hope you are ok and I'm here if you need anything xx


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Oh Ruby! You brave soul! Its brilliant that you are putting your husband's comments and opinion to one side and doing what you NEED to do for yourself. That is wonderful!! We are all here for support. :)


It was really hard for me to understand this reaction from people here. Im American although Ive lived here for over 9 years now. And my hubby is English. The odd thing is that although his mother has suffered with mental illness for many many years, and he understands it "exists"...he doesnt like the idea of treatment!! Possibly because they didnt "cure" his mother (and in some instances she was worse off...it was the early days of ADs and she was kinda used as a guinnea pig...not good). But I think its also a case of a thing very unique to many Brits which is the "just get on with it" attitude. In America, we are probably too quick to medicate but mostly its understood that mental illness NEEDS to be dealt with in some way or another. Just as you would any other illness which required treatment. It took me a long time to understand that the reaction I got here was in fact just the british way and not actually anything meant against me. Sometimes, we cant just cheer up and get on with it. We are ill and the illness needs to be addressed. No shame in that! :) xx
 
Tace said:
No problem any time :) x x
Have you tried the philadelphia stir & serve? Ian had some for tea, he said it was nice, 4 syns for a 60g serving. He had his with mushrooms, ham and spaghetti. x x
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Oooo Ile have to get some - always see it in the supermarket ... 4 syns is well good too!! Thanks x
 
Pebblesx said:
Hi rubyroo. I know how you feel - In the men department. I didn't even tell my bf when I was suffering from depression as I knew what his reaction would be like. One of his best friends has suffered with it for years on and off and when we were talking about it he just couldn't understand how you can't just "cheer up" and move on. He said he would tell if anyone was suffering with it and me and his both was like - well clearly not. He couldn't understand that I could put on a front when I was around everyone and as soon as I was on my own I'd just break down.

My doctor refused to give me anything for my depression as I was under 25, instead he gave me a weeks course of diazepam to "calm me down" as he didn believe I had depression but anxiety.. Don't get me wrong i had that too but for him to tell me I didn't have depression was beyond me- is he a f#cking mind reader?!

Hope you are ok and I'm here if you need anything xx

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Pebbles xx
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Aw thanks pebbles! Yeah I don't get the whole ignorance thing with depression - that doc was well out of order for treating you that way! Everyone has a reason why they are say there in that chair and he is payed to listen to you and help you - that's kinda what worries me about going to see a doc ... Will they say - pah, how can you be depressed !? .... X x
 
beelishy said:
Oh Ruby! You brave soul! Its brilliant that you are putting your husband's comments and opinion to one side and doing what you NEED to do for yourself. That is wonderful!! We are all here for support. :)

It was really hard for me to understand this reaction from people here. Im American although Ive lived here for over 9 years now. And my hubby is English. The odd thing is that although his mother has suffered with mental illness for many many years, and he understands it "exists"...he doesnt like the idea of treatment!! Possibly because they didnt "cure" his mother (and in some instances she was worse off...it was the early days of ADs and she was kinda used as a guinnea pig...not good). But I think its also a case of a thing very unique to many Brits which is the "just get on with it" attitude. In America, we are probably too quick to medicate but mostly its understood that mental illness NEEDS to be dealt with in some way or another. Just as you would any other illness which required treatment. It took me a long time to understand that the reaction I got here was in fact just the british way and not actually anything meant against me. Sometimes, we cant just cheer up and get on with it. We are ill and the illness needs to be addressed. No shame in that! :) xx
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Oh wow, so your American? Ah, I didn't no it was better treated over there, which is loads better ... Us Brits tend to try and brush it under the carpet - as you've seen ... My husband, like most men and women - don't seem to have the ability to put themselves in someone else's position - they just see it from their point of view and so assume everyone should think like them .... I'm totally the opposite - I will look at it from other points of view and then comment ... One word to describe it really - ignorance ...... But again - I'm seeing it from his point of view and trying to understand his motives, which I totally get and have explained to him why I do get why he doesn't understand (I hope this makes sense)

Your right tho - sometimes we rely need help in making us happier ... And I'm bleeding fed up of feeling sad .. I can do anything when i put my mind to it ..... But I do wonder if on Thursday I talk myself out of it x x x
 
Aw everyone is so kind :) no one rarely listens to me so it's made me smile - thanks everyone :) x x x
 
I'm like you Ruby and will try and see it from other people's perspective. I hear far too often "What have they got to be depressed about" and the likes. Enrages me!!

Oh yes, ignorance is bliss it seems, until you hurt someone's feelings. I'm sure you're husband will come round and realise that this is real and causing you genuine pain and suffering. Have a big *hug*
I'm pretty sure it was you saying you'd made the decision to go to the Dr that made me call the hospital today. So thank you for that.xx
 
Awww bless. Im the same. Maybe thats part of why we suffer, while those blissfully ignorant (and less considerate of others) dont? Hmm. I just know that I am always so concerned about how things (and my actions/comments etc, in particular) will affect others. Ive always been that way. See, we're just GOOD PEOPLE! lol :D

Oh, I really hope you dont cancel on Thursday, honey. Even if the doc DOES make light of it - SO WHAT?! Try a different doc! You know yourself best. If you are continually feeling sad and/or anxious you really must be helped. And if one doctor (is an idiot and....) wont help or makes you feel bad about it SOD 'EM! Get a second opinion! I wish I would go with you. You just need to take those first steps in getting yourself better. Youre doing it with your physical health with SW...so why shouldnt you do it with your mental health as well? :) We are worth just as much as anyone else and we should really look after ourselves. Our WHOLE selves. xxx

Yep. Im American (but I have dual US/UK citizenship). Hubby is English. And kiddos are Ameri-Brits. LOL. Big ol' mixed up family we are! lol. We have to take 7 passports when we go on holiday to the USA and theres only 4 of us! hahahahha :p
 
Heres a question someone might be able to answer - (sorry to hijack again!) - can anyone tell me what yogurts are syn free atm? I know this sorta changes now and then. Im going to do my shop tomorrow and Im trying to get a list together. Im completely lost and useless without a list! lol
 
cheekychinchilla said:
I'm like you Ruby and will try and see it from other people's perspective. I hear far too often "What have they got to be depressed about" and the likes. Enrages me!!

Oh yes, ignorance is bliss it seems, until you hurt someone's feelings. I'm sure you're husband will come round and realise that this is real and causing you genuine pain and suffering. Have a big *hug*
I'm pretty sure it was you saying you'd made the decision to go to the Dr that made me call the hospital today. So thank you for that.xx
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beelishy said:
Awww bless. Im the same. Maybe thats part of why we suffer, while those blissfully ignorant (and less considerate of others) dont? Hmm. I just know that I am always so concerned about how things (and my actions/comments etc, in particular) will affect others. Ive always been that way. See, we're just GOOD PEOPLE! lol :D

Oh, I really hope you dont cancel on Thursday, honey. Even if the doc DOES make light of it - SO WHAT?! Try a different doc! You know yourself best. If you are continually feeling sad and/or anxious you really must be helped. And if one doctor (is an idiot and....) wont help or makes you feel bad about it SOD 'EM! Get a second opinion! I wish I would go with you. You just need to take those first steps in getting yourself better. Youre doing it with your physical health with SW...so why shouldnt you do it with your mental health as well? :) We are worth just as much as anyone else and we should really look after ourselves. Our WHOLE selves. xxx

Yep. Im American (but I have dual US/UK citizenship). Hubby is English. And kiddos are Ameri-Brits. LOL. Big ol' mixed up family we are! lol. We have to take 7 passports when we go on holiday to the USA and theres only 4 of us! hahahahha :p
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Thanks ladies!! :)

Oh cc :) I'm so pleased .. It's so good were helping each other .. & I'm so glad you went and helped yourself :)

Bee - I sometimes think I'm too bloody nice - iv said something to someone in the past an worried all weekend that it was prob the wrong thing, rocked up on the monday and realised they never gave it a second thought ... I do that all the time, Ile go out my way to help ppl .. And I never seem to get it back .. I am deffo a worrier ..

I will deffo go thurs - I had a dream last night that I told ppl I had depression .... It felt like everyone suddenly treated me different ... Maybe that's my problem and my dream spelt it out .... But iv spoken to loads of ppl who wil openly say, I'm on citalopram etc ... So I think mine is just admitting defeat - iv very stubborn and try and sort everything my self before asking for help!!

Loving that you have ameri - Brit kids .... Hehe!! Do you all speak in the American accent bar your husband ? Love the accent :) we have a guy at work who's from American and I could listen to him all day :) way better than my Manchester accent booooo x x x
 
beelishy said:
Heres a question someone might be able to answer - (sorry to hijack again!) - can anyone tell me what yogurts are syn free atm? I know this sorta changes now and then. Im going to do my shop tomorrow and Im trying to get a list together. Im completely lost and useless without a list! lol
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If your vegetarian - the only free yogurts are the activia 0% & asda do big 450g pots - blueberry, vanilla & rhubarb .. I'm unsure of any other free ones
Shape delight are veg and range from 1/2 to 1 syn
Danio greek strained yogurts range from 1 to 3 per pot (very DELISH)

But if your not there's a fair few that are free like mullerlight, weightwatchers (some are syned)

Hth x x x
 
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