20 somethings

Ladies!!!! So sorry ive disappeared over the last few days, been mega busy with my lovely family and nephews staying :) but have been keeping up (ish) with all the Craic on here and am loving the clothes and shoes chat...I adore shopping and any excuse is a good one haha! I bought some lush boots from debenhams the other day, they were £69 but I had a £25 voucher, they are brown leather and perfect for work and dressing up!

Jess, the magazine sounds amazing!!! I bet you are really excited, and £500 in the lead up to Xmas is amazing!!!

I'm sooo excited for OHs bday later on in the month, I bought him an iPad 2 yesterday, as they have gone down to £329, which I know is REALLY expensive BUT we were meant to be going to Fulham for the weekend and going to the footy etc so I would have spent around that anyway after trains and tickets etc! He's wanted one for AGES, and I cannot Wait to see his face when he opens it as he has no idea!!

Am currently hiding out at OHs mams, as no-one is in and I NEED to get some assessment done; it is an impossibility at mine with such a mad house at the min!

PHEW!! It's good to be back ladies!! Xxx

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jessikahlashes said:
Sounds like you have a very busy day! Wishing you luck and hope you have a fab night tonight! X
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Thank you! Having a sit down and a coffee, top floor done and both bathrooms on the middle floor scrubbed. I'm knackered already!
 
camz said:
Ladies!!!! So sorry ive disappeared over the last few days, been mega busy with my lovely family and nephews staying :) but have been keeping up (ish) with all the Craic on here and am loving the clothes and shoes chat...I adore shopping and any excuse is a good one haha! I bought some lush boots from debenhams the other day, they were £69 but I had a £25 voucher, they are brown leather and perfect for work and dressing up!

Jess, the magazine sounds amazing!!! I bet you are really excited, and £500 in the lead up to Xmas is amazing!!!

I'm sooo excited for OHs bday later on in the month, I bought him an iPad 2 yesterday, as they have gone down to £329, which I know is REALLY expensive BUT we were meant to be going to Fulham for the weekend and going to the footy etc so I would have spent around that anyway after trains and tickets etc! He's wanted one for AGES, and I cannot Wait to see his face when he opens it as he has no idea!!

Am currently hiding out at OHs mams, as no-one is in and I NEED to get some assessment done; it is an impossibility at mine with such a mad house at the min!

PHEW!! It's good to be back ladies!! Xxx

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Ooh great present! I'd love one but I won't tell bf or he will buy it and I'd rather he save his money for my ring! Haha!
 
ScarlettStar86 said:
Ooh great present! I'd love one but I won't tell bf or he will buy it and I'd rather he save his money for my ring! Haha!
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Haha, I can only dream of a ring at the minute!!

Ladies I've been thinking, and would love to know, why are you really losing (or why have you really lost) the weight you are losing!?

For me, it all started with a whole load of vanity! I was, and still am DESPERATE to be slim...it's something I've never been before! I want to buy clothes that look nice, I want to be confident, I want to look GOOD!! I also want to look good for OH, although he does, and always has thought I DO!

In more recent times as my weight has crept up I have began to realise how important not just weight loss, but a healthier lifestyle is, as I was beginning to really struggle with day to day things, and was always tired!

I also know that I want to lose this weight now, and spend the rest of my life maintaining, as I refuse to (in however many years time) be a bridezilla following a cabbage soup diet, or get pregnant and end up with major stones to lose!! I want to be healthy, and fit, and look DAMN GOOD while I'm there!! This doesn't mean I think I will be gorgeous, but I know I will feel 100% better than myself! Xxx

How about you?

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My main reason is confidence, ive come to the point where looking in a mirror or looking at photos of me is a big no no, even when I catch my reflection in a window I feel my confidence slip further, I cant carry on my life this way or I will end up depressed and paranoid about what people think and say about me so I need to do this now, but I actually enjoy eating healthier anyway (most of the time) for me its not being able to say no to fast food that affects me but im getting there slowly

The next thing is of course my wedding there is no way im being this big in wedding photos that I will want to look at forever and I want to feel comfortable with people looking at me on the day, and there was no way I was going to do some excessive diet that that works only for a short time
 
Mine is partly vanity, that I wasn't comfortable in my clothes and knew I would feel and look better a stone and a half lighter. I'm still half a stone ish away from target but I already feel more comfortable and confident. Last Christmas we went out with friends and I had bought a new dress, but when it came down to wearing it it clung in all the wrong places so I ended up with suck it in underwear from my boobs to my knees. Although I looked better in the dress then I felt so self concious and uncomfortable I knew I has to do something.
The other reason is similar to you camz, I have been with bf for 4 years now, he has told me we will be getting engaged next year and we want to try for a family as soon as we are married. I don't want to be overweight and unhealthy during pregnancy, I don't want to be an overweight and unhealthy mother. X
 
camz said:
Haha, I can only dream of a ring at the minute!!

Ladies I've been thinking, and would love to know, why are you really losing (or why have you really lost) the weight you are losing!?

For me, it all started with a whole load of vanity! I was, and still am DESPERATE to be slim...it's something I've never been before! I want to buy clothes that look nice, I want to be confident, I want to look GOOD!! I also want to look good for OH, although he does, and always has thought I DO!

In more recent times as my weight has crept up I have began to realise how important not just weight loss, but a healthier lifestyle is, as I was beginning to really struggle with day to day things, and was always tired!

I also know that I want to lose this weight now, and spend the rest of my life maintaining, as I refuse to (in however many years time) be a bridezilla following a cabbage soup diet, or get pregnant and end up with major stones to lose!! I want to be healthy, and fit, and look DAMN GOOD while I'm there!! This doesn't mean I think I will be gorgeous, but I know I will feel 100% better than myself! Xxx

How about you?

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I think you put it in a nut shell for me too, I basically realised how unhappy I was and things were a struggle for me, with me I had just had my second baby and had 2 babies and my OH was having to put on my shoes and help me in the bath, I was like an old woman and he was my carer, he had to do everything cos I could barely care for myself let alone my girls. And I wanted to do be healthy and I wanted to look good, for him too, he laughs all the time saying the only thing he misses are my boobs, I blurted that out in a radio interview once lol woooops! I had never been slim and was determined to feel normal for the first time in my life. Not just 'the fat one' I wanted to be Jess, that one with the black hair, or the one with the red dress on. And most of all to give my kids the mum they deserved! Be able to run around and play with them. Lily cuddled me the other day and wrapped her full arms around me and touched her hands together behind me and said 'mum! I can fit my arms around you now!' It's moments like that that remind me why I did it xxx
 
Yay welcome back, Camz.

SOOOOO jealous of your magazine shoot, Jessikah but mega chuffed for you!

Clare, you are turning me with how good your lunch looks-food envy! I thought my fruit salad was good until I saw that.

In relation to why Im losing weight- a few reasons for me. I'm actually slightly mortified about on of them but as I figure you ladies will never see me in real life I don't have to be red faced woohoo!

Firstly, like you Camz, pure and utter vanity. I want to look nice, I want to walk in to a shop and pick up whatever the hell I fancy and know that it will fit. I was fat all through my teens (apart from a VERY brief spell when I had my gallbladder out) and hated it but always convinced myself it was my genetic make up, completely disregarded the 4 twixs I'd eat a day and the endless chineses!

The real moment of truth hit for me when I looked at a picture from a friends hen party (think it might be in my photo thread actually) and I remember going to it and thinking that alot of her friends were big girls and that I wasn't that big in comparison-when I looked at the picture I was horrified and new it had to change.

The embarassing one, the one I HATE and would never admit that it's motivational to my friends.
I'm 24 and have NEVER had a boyfriend, yes I've had flings etc with different guys but nothing that actually means anything. In saying that I always assumed it was because I was the fat girl and no one wanted to go out with a fat girl when they could have a thin one....granted since I've lost weight nothings changed haha!

Part of me does think there is an issue of confidence trouble too..I can go on a night out and think I look 'nice' in an outfit but that's a personal thing and 'nice' for me just means that it's the best that I can be but it's still pretty average...the idea that anyone else could think 'oh she looks nice, lets chat her up' is just beyond me and I always feel as if some lads on a dare if he comes near me. Completely messed up lol! I need to sort it otherwise I'm going to end up living alone with cats and I don't even like animals FML.

And that marks the conclusion of my cringeworthy weight loss story haha!
 
Jenna that's not cringeworthy at all. I understand the paranoia of it being a dare though.

I've always been big but always been capable I think that's down to not driving though, I had to walk/bus where I needed to be. Several bouts of depression helped add on the lbs (read stones) and relying on sugar to get through the days and nights with Nate didn't help any. But he is also why I need to lose the weight. I've not had any weight related health problems but that was luck rather than anything else. If I stayed expanding I was going to leave Nathaniel without a mum. He is already down a dad (complete useless article) so it'd be my patents left to raise him, which they wouldn't want to do. So by losing weight I'm minimizing the risk of getting ill and leaving nate with no mum. I also don't want to be the huge mum picking him up from school. It wouldn't be fair on him. I've always run around and played with him so that's not changed, it's more like people's reaction to me has changed. More mums at toddler groups say hi and chat to me now rather than fear I have come in to eat their child. Shop assistants are nicer, as are people generally.

Ended up not going to exeter. After waiting for an hour and a half in the cold and NO buses turning up and if one did I now wouldn't get to exeter until half one (instead of half 11) after having left the house at 10 I went home. I got Nate smarties to say sorry for making him wait for so long in the cold and he went mental. Absolutely hilarious but not to be repeated! Oh and scarlet I think you meant to ask me how old he is. He is 19 months.
 
Aww bless jenna, the good ones will love you for you no matter what weight and theres no time limit to finding the one x

Im grateful that me and my OH fell in love before we had even met, however I then panicked that when he met me he would change his mind and think I was fat, but he didnt and he always tells me im beautiful which is helping me hold on to the last of my confidence atm lol
 
I dont envy you fran I couldnt live somewhere where buses are very few even if it is nice and peaceful.

Mmm smarties lucky nate lol
 
Thanks ladies :) How did you meet your other half then CH2B (Sorry, I've forgotten your name :sigh:...I'm pretty sure you've said it, if not then ignore me.)? Internet dating? Is it weird I hope so lol, I love stories like that where people fall for each other purely on personality. Shame the world is so shallow...I can't even lie, I'm probably about as deep as a puddle myself lol!
 
A lot of my reason for rejoining SW is that I feel my weight is holding me back. I am so preoccupied with how I look and worrying that people will be judging me because of my weight that I think I forget to be myself sometimes. I just find it hard to let go. I've always been the biggest girl in my group of friends and it's really eroded my confidence over the years.

I've put on 2 stone since being with my OH and it was turning me into a miserable, closed person and I was really worried I was going to screw it all up by pushing him away because I felt so disgusted with myself. He has been incredibly supportive and patient through all sorts of fad diets (including a pure juice detox - hell!) and I want to get back to how vibrant we were when I felt fabulous about myself. Don't get me wrong, our relationship has always been really good, but I know that has largely been due to how lovely he is!

The fact that an engagement is looming large on the horizon is a big vanity factor too! I want to love the first picture of engaged us and not faff around trying to take one where I don't look fat! I also don't want to be approaching a wedding with trepidation that I have x amount of weight to lose! Beyond that, I don't want to be obese and trying to get pregnant - nor do I want all the risks it would bring.
 
CH2b said:
Aww bless jenna, the good ones will love you for you no matter what weight and theres no time limit to finding the one x

Im grateful that me and my OH fell in love before we had even met, however I then panicked that when he met me he would change his mind and think I was fat, but he didnt and he always tells me im beautiful which is helping me hold on to the last of my confidence atm lol
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For some reason it doesn't give me the option to like your posts - but this is perfect!

Jen - my little sister is 23 and in a similar situation. Internet dating would scare the hell out of me but I don't know where else I'd go to meet someone these days! I re-met my OH at work - we met 9 years ago when I finished uni because he was my boyfriend's sister's boyfriend (got that?! :D) I thought he was absolutely gorgeous then but I didn't really know him (shallow as a puddle...) Thankfully he has a gorgeous personality too. He had a major car accident 3 years ago so that's shaped him a lot - he's still recovering but he's always been so positive and motivated.

And totally clueless when it comes to other girls hitting on him. We were out at the weekend and bumped into my friend's sister and her mates. Unbeknownst to me, one of the girls was (my OH's words) 'making cat noises and winking' at him across the table! Bless him, he didn't know where to put himself!
 
Lol its christie, not an easy one to remember dont worry x

Yes we met online, I always say it was fate lol he played pool on yahoo for a long time and my ex bf used to play on it too sometimes and one time asked me to have a game with him so I did and then never used it again after that time with him, anyway about a year and half later I was bored so I decided to go on for a few games against someone and saw my OH sat at a table waiting for someone to play so I joined and we chatted while we played and then we exchanged msn addys and I never played pool on there again after that, we talked for a few months and then although I had my doubts about internet dating we started going out, we stayed like that for 4 years before we met as I was so paranoid about him leaving me once he saw what I looked like in person it came to the point where he booked me a coach ticket and said be on it or we should think about if this is ever going anywhere so that gave me the kick up the butt I needed as I didnt want to lose him so I went (although I missed that bus and had to buy another ticket lol) anyway it was great, didnt feel like we were just meeting because we already knew everything about each other, a year later he moved from newcastle to be with me and hes been here 2 and half years now
 
Omg that is too funny about your other half, bless him! Aww that's so lovely that you got together after all that time :D
I'm the same with internet dating, I think it's totally the most sensible route to go down these days but I am far too terrified of doing it, simply because of what my friends and family would think. Ridiculous, I know!

Christie, you have actually made me go 'aww' I hope you're pleased with yourself haha. Your oh sounds so lovely and I love that he pushed you in to meeting him, shows how strongly he must have felt for you before he even met you. Too cute!
 
Aww that is so sweet!

Jenna I forgot to say it is better to be single than be with one knobhead after another.

Mmm just had a bowl of soup and debating having another. Looked outside and it is peeing it down! Nate's snoozing when hr is up he can have something to eat while I clean then baking time! Going to have a go at modifying a courgette cake to make it lower syn. Thinking of having a good look at a cola cake recipe to see what I can do. thank you absent buses!
 
Jenna88 said:
Omg that is too funny about your other half, bless him! Aww that's so lovely that you got together after all that time :D
I'm the same with internet dating, I think it's totally the most sensible route to go down these days but I am far too terrified of doing it, simply because of what my friends and family would think. Ridiculous, I know!

Christie, you have actually made me go 'aww' I hope you're pleased with yourself haha. Your oh sounds so lovely and I love that he pushed you in to meeting him, shows how strongly he must have felt for you before he even met you. Too cute!
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Christie that is adorable!!
I too met my OH on the Internet sort of! I used to work at Morrisons and worked with a lad called Robbie an me and him became really good friends, he was like my best friend, we used to speak on msn every night and then one night from Robbies msn account someone said 'oi Oo sexy' I was like 'erm, hello??? Who's this? This isn't Robbie!' And they were like 'it's a secret I'm not telling, I've heard all about you though' I was abit freaked out hahaha! Then I got a random person add me and it was a lad called Dan! My OH, Robbies cousin! So we got chatted, fell madly in love and he decided he wanted to meet me, all of my photos were just of my face so one night I asked if I could ring him cos I needed to tell him something, so I rang him and told him I didn't think it would work cos I was fat and I felt like he was too good for me. He told me I was being silly and I could be his big beautiful woman. I was too scared and then a few days later I was working at Morrisons on the deli counter, hair net and silly hat!!! And Robbie comes trotting over to the counter and says Jess there's someone here to see you, and hiding behind a cake stand is dan!! He comes over smiling from ear to ear, don't think I could have been shaking anymore then I was! He said 'I told you you had nothing to be scared of, your perfect!' And that was it, 5 years and 2 babies later we couldn't be happier!!!! X
 
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