Alex's Diary - No big goals, just taking one day at a time!

[Alex_1978]

I'm here! Looks like I'm facing another pretty hefty gain this week, but I will just have to face it and try to make tomorrow a new starting point
I'm just mulling over a different approach to all this at the moment - I think I might need to take it one day at a time, rather than being so goal focussed. It's just getting me down that I keep making goals, and then not acheiving them.

When I gave up smoking, I tried not to look at the bigger picture but took each day as it came, and didn't put pressure on myself to do anything other than to not smoke that particular day.
Maybe I need to take that approach with dieting, rather than focussing on where I'll be at Christmas, or the spring or whatever. It might help me to just take a day at a time, and see where I end up - especially until I get over this blip and get my head back into gear.

Oh I don't know...I just despair with myself at the moment! Any ideas???!
x

 

[downsizeme]

Alex, you have lost nearly 50lbs that's such an amazing weightloss! Don't know how to make you more motivated but your loss has motivated me!
Are you still taking xenical?

 

[KittyBling]

Alex, sometimes I think you're me. It's getting spooky. I gave up smoking too, it will be 4 years ago in January. I can't blame my weight on that, my problems started way before that! Like you, sometimes it wasn't even one day at a time but it was one hour at a time but it worked. I am trying to trail myself back in to the zone as well, I haven't done too badly the past few days but it's still a struggle. As you say, maybe we need to look at the bigger picture. OK so you've put on a few pounds the past few weeks but look at what you have achieved overall. Go on the way you are now, with some good weeks and some bad, and you'll still win in the end. A couple of bad weeks aren't the end of the world as long as we can keep focused on the end result and don't let things slip to such an extent that we undo all our hard work. Get on the scales tomorrow, take it on the chin and then decide there will be no more messing about (well, till the next time anyway!)

KB xx

 

[Kes]

you might be right just take each day as it comes and even each hour....
see how you go
i know you can do this, and i have every faith in you that you can!

 

[Alex_1978]

Alex, you have lost nearly 50lbs that's such an amazing weightloss! Don't know how to make you more motivated but your loss has motivated me!
Are you still taking xenical?

Aww thank you - although it's not so near 50lbs now...I need to go and update my ticker after this
I am still taking Xenical, although it's a bit hit and miss at the moment. I take it when I'm having a good day, and skip it when I'm not.

Alex, sometimes I think you're me. It's getting spooky. I gave up smoking too, it will be 4 years ago in January. I can't blame my weight on that, my problems started way before that! Like you, sometimes it wasn't even one day at a time but it was one hour at a time but it worked. I am trying to trail myself back in to the zone as well, I haven't done too badly the past few days but it's still a struggle. As you say, maybe we need to look at the bigger picture. OK so you've put on a few pounds the past few weeks but look at what you have achieved overall. Go on the way you are now, with some good weeks and some bad, and you'll still win in the end. A couple of bad weeks aren't the end of the world as long as we can keep focused on the end result and don't let things slip to such an extent that we undo all our hard work. Get on the scales tomorrow, take it on the chin and then decide there will be no more messing about (well, till the next time anyway!)

KB xx

It really is getting spooky isn't it?!! Our stories seem to mirror each other almost constantly!
I think I will start taking the one day at a time approach - it worked with smoking, and hopefully it'll work now, or at least until I'm back on an even keel.
I do think it's important to set goals, but I know that if I did that now, I'd just be reflecting back on how much weight I have to re-lose, rather than looking forward.
Or at least that's the plan! :sigh:

you might be right just take each day as it comes and even each hour....
see how you go
i know you can do this, and i have every faith in you that you can!

Thank you Kes I really am going to try to draw a line under it, and get my act together now...one day at a time!

xx

 

[Alex_1978]

So today is the dreaded weigh-in day, and I've gained another 1.5lbs It's not as bad as I thought it would be, but still 5.5lbs over the course of three weeks, when it should be going the other way!

As you know, I've decided to have a little re-think about my approach to dieting. So my only goals for now will be:

* take one day at a time
* make the best choices possible at each meal, without beating myself up if I can't/don't make a good choice
* draw a line under each meal/day and move on
* do not weigh-in again until next Wednesday

And that's it for now...!

Thanks everyone for your lovely words of encouragement and support :heartpump: It means so much to me xx

 

[KittyBling]

Could have been so much worse, Alex, you must be retaining some control somewhere. Good luck with the new way of going, if it works for you then that's what is important. Good luck for the next week, we CAN do this.

KB x

 

[Kes]

well all i can say is i put on over august.. and look at what i came back and did in sept...
use that as inspiration if you need to...
you can do it!

 

[kae]

Hello hunny!

I love your new approach to your diet! I certainly am gunna take them on board! Ive gained more than a few pounds lately and im sick of it!

5.5 may not be going in the right direction but just look at all the things that you have done over the past few weeks! Jamaica, V and a few nights out thrown in too! I reckon thats pretty good going! Yes, you are on a diet but life is also for living! So I think you should be proud that you have only gained 5.5lbs! Just think if you werent following your plan the damage would probably been so much worse!

Hope u had a fab day chicka

xxxx

 

[Alex_1978]

Thanks everybody - and welcome back Katie, we missed you

Well yesterday was my first proper day back on track, so I'm going to post my food diary (not sure if I'll keep it up, but I'm going to try)

B - Porridge/museli/raisins
L - Aldi beef and vegetable soup, 1 slice of bread
S - Oatybar (white choc)
D - WW ham and mushroom tagliatelli with extra mushroom and leeks
S - WW choc brownie desert

If only every day could be like that!
x

 

[KittyBling]

What a good day that was. All you need is more good in a week than bad and you're flying. Well done!

KB x

 

[Kes]

wow well done...remember take each day as it comes

 

[Alex_1978]

What a good day that was. All you need is more good in a week than bad and you're flying.
Well done!KB x

Thank you It did feel like a really focussed day...hopefully the first of many! My first instinct was to leap onto the scales this morning but I resisted!

wow well done...remember take each day as it comes

Thanks Kes - this is where I struggle really. I have one good day and I start thinking "if I could just lose 3lbs this week, and 2.5lbs next week, I'll be back on track"
But I know this isn't realistic because I've got 'real life' stuff coming up, so I'm desperately trying to just stay in the here-and-now, rather than looking forward too much.

 

[Alex_1978]

Today's food diary:

B - porridge/museli/raisins (more than usual as I slipped with the milk and had to top up with more museli)

L - WW mexican chilli and wedges (the Birds Eye one is nicer, but this is only 225 cals or thereabouts)

S - Aldi's version of Velvet Crunch sweet thai chilli crisps (not as nice as the real ones)

S - Apple

D - Innocent italian mushroom risotto snack pot thingy (315cals) with extra mushrooms, leeks, brocolli and peppers (quite nice, and half price at Tesco at the moment, as are all the Innocent pots)

S - Curly Wurly

S - About 10 Sula sugar free sweets

So not a bad day - maybe not quite as angelic as yesterday, but I'm drawing the line as we speak!

 

[Kes]

i dont think thats a bad day! so well done!
dont look past today!! (well you can look at tomorrow now... but thats only because its 2 hours away)

 

[newcomer]

Do you have any bad effects from eating the curly wurly due to it breaking the 5g or less per 100g rule?

 

[Alex_1978]

I've always been fine with Curly Wurlys actually, although I can't say that everyone would be.
They do break the 5g rule, so they could cause side-effects, but it's just one of those trial and error things really.
I'm pretty lucky, it takes quite a serious slip-up for me to get noticeable side-effects!

 

[KittyBling]

All good so far then, Alex, good for you. Must have a look for those Innocent pots, are they in the fresh bit?

KB xx

 

[Alex_1978]

Ummm, I think so - although I have my food delievered so I couldn't tell you for definite. Theyre not frozen so I presume they'd be with the ready meal stuff.

Just realised that I have my appointment with the nurse at 5pm tonight!! ARRRGGHHHHHHHHHHH! Shall I go? i reckon it's a 4-5lb gain since I last went

 

[kae]

Evening hunny!

Did u go flower?

Xxxx