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Taz
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Morning all! I'm the first today then?! I'm back to work today and found it surprisingly easy to get out of bed! I have to leave work early to go and see the physioterrorist later though, then back in time to have dinner before I go to training! Busy day for Tazzy! Have a good one everyone
Gemstone
Here for the Journey
:character00238: Good morning everyone :character00238:
I slept badly last night - or to be more precise, hardly at all. By the time I settled to some real sleep the alarm was humming away and as OH got up I rolled over and knew that if I let myself go I could REALLY sleep for a couple of hours but unfortuately I had to get up.
Back on the physical restraint course today, then to a union meeting tonight so it's a quick turn around at home and no evening. Hope to be here again MUCH later
Taz - You beat me to it. Good luck with the physioterrorist :8855:x
:character00238: Have a great Monday everyone x :character00238:
I slept badly last night - or to be more precise, hardly at all. By the time I settled to some real sleep the alarm was humming away and as OH got up I rolled over and knew that if I let myself go I could REALLY sleep for a couple of hours but unfortuately I had to get up.
Back on the physical restraint course today, then to a union meeting tonight so it's a quick turn around at home and no evening. Hope to be here again MUCH later
Taz - You beat me to it. Good luck with the physioterrorist :8855:x
:character00238: Have a great Monday everyone x :character00238:
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abz
Gold Member
good morning everyone. i don't know how many cals were in the stirfry exactly taz, but it had two packs of straight to wok noodles at 150 cals each (i think) and a blue dragon sauce sachet at 120 cals total and then loads of veg and a bit of water to make the sauce go further as it was for two, and two chicken breasts. and then we had it between the three of us.
i had one small bit of pie, and then another small bit of pie later on, which afterwards i decided i didn't need, so next time i won't bother. however i still ate less than everyone else without much effort. i may have gone slightly over my 1500 target but then i'm learning this from scratch again, ha.
today for work i have a cambridge thing for brekki 150 cals, a chicken margherita melt readymeal thing i grabbed in morrisons for 295cals which seems to be a chicken bake thing with potatos, 2 satsumas and a packet of low fat apple biccy things for 150cals which is emergency junk snackables for if the guys here start getting crisps etc out.
so what's that? about 700 cals i think? i'm only keeping a loose eye on it. but that leaves about the same again for dinner tonight. spag bol tonight i think. and i might chuck some soup together so i have something proper for lunch instead of a ready meal. i'm not a ready meal kind of person really but i grabbed a couple until i get used to cooking properly again. and i'm glad because this morning i'm good for nothing!!
going to have to watch the pasta portions tonight because i always make too much and i don't think my poor body can handle it. oh. and i am 1/4lb lighter than when i started eating so i'm not doing too badly, ha, since i expected my weight to keep on skyrocketing for at least a week, so we'll see how we go...
just sitting with a cup of tea (work appears to be out of coffee) with MILK in it, hee.
glad you got your decs sorted elle. hope you enjoyed the documentary. hope you make it through today ok gem. good luck with the torture master taz. they are evil!! mine were always small and pretty... and could cause huge amounts of pain. it always surprised me how much pain could come from something so small... ha.
abz xx
i had one small bit of pie, and then another small bit of pie later on, which afterwards i decided i didn't need, so next time i won't bother. however i still ate less than everyone else without much effort. i may have gone slightly over my 1500 target but then i'm learning this from scratch again, ha.
today for work i have a cambridge thing for brekki 150 cals, a chicken margherita melt readymeal thing i grabbed in morrisons for 295cals which seems to be a chicken bake thing with potatos, 2 satsumas and a packet of low fat apple biccy things for 150cals which is emergency junk snackables for if the guys here start getting crisps etc out.
so what's that? about 700 cals i think? i'm only keeping a loose eye on it. but that leaves about the same again for dinner tonight. spag bol tonight i think. and i might chuck some soup together so i have something proper for lunch instead of a ready meal. i'm not a ready meal kind of person really but i grabbed a couple until i get used to cooking properly again. and i'm glad because this morning i'm good for nothing!!
going to have to watch the pasta portions tonight because i always make too much and i don't think my poor body can handle it. oh. and i am 1/4lb lighter than when i started eating so i'm not doing too badly, ha, since i expected my weight to keep on skyrocketing for at least a week, so we'll see how we go...
just sitting with a cup of tea (work appears to be out of coffee) with MILK in it, hee.
glad you got your decs sorted elle. hope you enjoyed the documentary. hope you make it through today ok gem. good luck with the torture master taz. they are evil!! mine were always small and pretty... and could cause huge amounts of pain. it always surprised me how much pain could come from something so small... ha.
abz xx
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
Morning all,
You all sound like busy beavers today. I have a million and 1 things to do, and not sure how much I will be able to do.
So far this morning I have had, a small glass of orange juice, to knock my vitamins down with, two bananas and two nectarines. So that is my fruit and veg down all 5 portions down for the day, but I am having some tuna salad for lunch, so I am sure I will get more in.
Well, there is still some stuff going on at the moment, that I am not too sure what I can do if, anything, about it. Well, see my OH hasa a mild form of tourettes. It is not like you see on the telly where someone is yelling out curse words, and such. He is very mild, he has a couple of small vocal tics, and a couple of phsycial ones. And tbh, I never knew he had it until, I was already pg with my son. He got the courage ( after a few drinks) to tell me the truth. It was very hard for him, as he never told any about it before. He kept his secret to himself since he found out when he was 15. He is able to control his tics, or disguise them. But the issue is, I noticed when my LU was 18 months that he was doing this weird thing with his mouth. I mentioned it to the healthy visitor, who just put it down to "kids form little habits and grow out of them." but he never has. And in october, he started doing a vocal tic as well....luckily it only lasted 2 weeks. I am certain he has tourettes, too, which is heartbreaking for us both. I mean we are lucky he is healthy and smart. And I have no doubt my OH will help him to cope with it. It's just I hope it doesn't get too bad. To the point it really effects his self esteeme and his life in general. The last two days he had been doing what I think may be another tic, which is rubbing his chin on his chest as though he has an itch. He says he is itchy, but he is doing it repeatedly. Which is a sign. But I thought maybe it was that I switched softeners and that maybe it was irritating his skin, but even after a show and change of clothes to ones without the softener he still does it. I mentioned it to the health visitor, but tbh there really isn't anything any one can do. Thing is my OH blames himself, but we also found out about 3 years ago that my oldest brother has it too, ( mild) as well as mild bi-polar. So I am not sure what chance if any my children will have. I mean this baby, I am carrying now, may well develope it too. And it scares me. Not that is life threatening ....but the implications of it all are very effecting. Other than the couple phsycial tics, he is fine...and so, I just love him all the more...not that I think I could possible love him any more that I do.=-) I know we all will be fine, but it was very hard when we relaised it. We are a strong couple, and family, and I know we will deal with this like a family.And I am a strong enough mother to not let my son get overly effected by it.But I think as long as I instill as much confidence in himself as I can, he will be fine with himself. Anyway, I will let you all go now...I have had a say. I am going to be tidying and cleaning etc....all day and playing with my baby.
J
You all sound like busy beavers today. I have a million and 1 things to do, and not sure how much I will be able to do.
So far this morning I have had, a small glass of orange juice, to knock my vitamins down with, two bananas and two nectarines. So that is my fruit and veg down all 5 portions down for the day, but I am having some tuna salad for lunch, so I am sure I will get more in.
Well, there is still some stuff going on at the moment, that I am not too sure what I can do if, anything, about it. Well, see my OH hasa a mild form of tourettes. It is not like you see on the telly where someone is yelling out curse words, and such. He is very mild, he has a couple of small vocal tics, and a couple of phsycial ones. And tbh, I never knew he had it until, I was already pg with my son. He got the courage ( after a few drinks) to tell me the truth. It was very hard for him, as he never told any about it before. He kept his secret to himself since he found out when he was 15. He is able to control his tics, or disguise them. But the issue is, I noticed when my LU was 18 months that he was doing this weird thing with his mouth. I mentioned it to the healthy visitor, who just put it down to "kids form little habits and grow out of them." but he never has. And in october, he started doing a vocal tic as well....luckily it only lasted 2 weeks. I am certain he has tourettes, too, which is heartbreaking for us both. I mean we are lucky he is healthy and smart. And I have no doubt my OH will help him to cope with it. It's just I hope it doesn't get too bad. To the point it really effects his self esteeme and his life in general. The last two days he had been doing what I think may be another tic, which is rubbing his chin on his chest as though he has an itch. He says he is itchy, but he is doing it repeatedly. Which is a sign. But I thought maybe it was that I switched softeners and that maybe it was irritating his skin, but even after a show and change of clothes to ones without the softener he still does it. I mentioned it to the health visitor, but tbh there really isn't anything any one can do. Thing is my OH blames himself, but we also found out about 3 years ago that my oldest brother has it too, ( mild) as well as mild bi-polar. So I am not sure what chance if any my children will have. I mean this baby, I am carrying now, may well develope it too. And it scares me. Not that is life threatening ....but the implications of it all are very effecting. Other than the couple phsycial tics, he is fine...and so, I just love him all the more...not that I think I could possible love him any more that I do.=-) I know we all will be fine, but it was very hard when we relaised it. We are a strong couple, and family, and I know we will deal with this like a family.And I am a strong enough mother to not let my son get overly effected by it.But I think as long as I instill as much confidence in himself as I can, he will be fine with himself. Anyway, I will let you all go now...I have had a say. I am going to be tidying and cleaning etc....all day and playing with my baby.
J
abz
Gold Member
hey jenn. it's always a shock when we find out things like this. and of course you are going to be concerned. but it doesn't really change anything other than your knowledge. your baby is still your baby. and your new baby will be who they are too. you couldn't love them any more if you tried. i don't think your two children could have more supportive parents. you are both stars.
abz xx
abz xx
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
Abz....Thanks hun. Well i hope we are going to be good enough. I really won't know more till LU goes to school. No one has noticed at nursey, so I am sure his tics will come and go...but the lip and nose one he does I think will stay as he is 3 and a half now and he has done it for 18 months now. I think my OH was more devestated than I was, as I gerneally more postive than he is. But I think he blames himself for what LU has. TBH there is a 50/50 chance...and 3/4 of sufferers are male. So if my baby is a girl...then we may be in luck. I am hoping that is has mainly physical tics as he can surpress those more than vocal ones. As my OH describes it....it is like having an itch that you can't scratch. You have to do it...you can't help yourself. But over the years he has learned to mask it with other things moved or laughter. If you met him you'd never know or even guess. But when he is at home he tics away. But then he still shields some of it from me...and I know that is why we don't go out and do LOADS of things. But we still have our date nights and go out to dinner, which I know is a big push for him, and I appreciate it. I know, how lucky I am. I have a wonderful, supportive, handsome, generous, loving, best friend and I am married to him. And my son couldn't be more goreous, loving sweet, cleaver and hilarious if he tried. And I am grateful for everyday, I have with them both. They are my world, and my life, and there is nothing I wouldn't give up or do for either of them.
And next month is my 12 year anniversary...I can't wait....still not sure what i want to get for my OH. I want it to be special...just not sure what.
And next month is my 12 year anniversary...I can't wait....still not sure what i want to get for my OH. I want it to be special...just not sure what.
elle2585
8 t whole wheel of cheese
Hey Jenn, I just checked out tourettes on the net because of what you said your OH said about it being like an itch you can't not scratch. It turns out there are quite a few people that have mild tourettes that don't know it - it just goes unoticed. After reading it, i reckon I have it too. Ever since I was little \i've had this incredibly annoying 'habit' with sniffing and coughing. There are some moments when i'm just sat around and I have to keep sniffing. Sniff sniff bloody sniff. there's nothing in my nose but i can't help it, i HAVE to.If i don't do it it really makes me edgy. And sometimes i have to include little coughs here and there (and this is a bit OCD) if im listening to music or watching the telly, or even sometimes if it's dead quiet, i have to cough at a certain beat or at a certain count in my head lol. it's ridiculous. my family are always going "oh for GOODNESS SAKE stop bloody sniffing". And try as i might I just can't. It also makes me really paranoid sharing a room with someone. When im on my own i can lie there sniffing and coughing, or having a "sniffing/coughing fit" as I like to call it, and it really doesnt matter. If im sharing with someone I HATE it. because i lie there and i have to sniff. thiis sounds so funny. But i dont wanna annoy them - theyre trying to sleep. But i can't sleep till i've sniffed and sniffed and sniffed (sometimes). So i have to lie there feeling REALLY uncomfortable because im trying desperately to hold it in, and wait for the person to fall asleep before I can sort myself out and fall asleep hahaha. Also, my aunty in cyprus has a tic where she continuously flicks at her hair, like she has a hair in her face that she just can't get rid of, and hasn't been able to since the day I was born! I guess what i'm trying to say is that I suppose it's more common than what we might think! Thankfully your son has a mild form - i'm sure he will cope ok. And you and your OH are clearly great parents, you'll give him the support he needs
Well, after that essay. Hi everyone, i've had a very long day already - still a good few hours till i get to go home. Ill put a pick of the tree up later. I'm still feeling tired and i've most definitely got a pinched nerve in my back. my right leg feels like it's on fire, and is sensitive to touch. and when i put pressure on my right foot i get a lovely shooting pain up my leg. grrr x
Well, after that essay. Hi everyone, i've had a very long day already - still a good few hours till i get to go home. Ill put a pick of the tree up later. I'm still feeling tired and i've most definitely got a pinched nerve in my back. my right leg feels like it's on fire, and is sensitive to touch. and when i put pressure on my right foot i get a lovely shooting pain up my leg. grrr x
abz
Gold Member
oh elle hon. i hope your back feels better soon. i have happy pills to take when my sciatica kicks up. get yourself to the docs if you need to.
as for ocd, well i have a totally weird numbers thing. i can't deal with prime numbers or odd numbers. it's not so bad that i can't just ignore it at work when i have to, but the telly can't be on an odd number, i can't buy things in odd numbers other than 1. we end up with loads of tins of tomatoes because i can't buy three of the bloody things. i can justify it to myself when i need to (i bought number 37, well it adds up to 10 doesn't it?) but really it's irritating. so you see, we all have strange eccentricities that we manage.
abz xx
as for ocd, well i have a totally weird numbers thing. i can't deal with prime numbers or odd numbers. it's not so bad that i can't just ignore it at work when i have to, but the telly can't be on an odd number, i can't buy things in odd numbers other than 1. we end up with loads of tins of tomatoes because i can't buy three of the bloody things. i can justify it to myself when i need to (i bought number 37, well it adds up to 10 doesn't it?) but really it's irritating. so you see, we all have strange eccentricities that we manage.
abz xx
abz
Gold Member
i agree. mine is still messed up. and when i asked what caused it i was told 'sometimes they just go'. since i was 22-23 at the time this wasn't very promising...
losing weight has helped a lot and it was one of the big spurs on that i needed. if i dash about too much i still have a bad day and the only painkillers that touch it knock me sideways. i was off work for three months the first time it went and about a month the second time it went as i worked in an active role in the university and their health and safety wouldn't allow me to work. i still have the painkillers but can't take them at work because my brain stops functioning, hee.
losing weight has helped a lot and it was one of the big spurs on that i needed. if i dash about too much i still have a bad day and the only painkillers that touch it knock me sideways. i was off work for three months the first time it went and about a month the second time it went as i worked in an active role in the university and their health and safety wouldn't allow me to work. i still have the painkillers but can't take them at work because my brain stops functioning, hee.
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
Abz, I am going to be 32 on boxing day. I got married a few weeks after I turned 20. *LOL*
Well I have a bit of ocd myself. I can't stand LCD lights on...well any lights on when I am sleeping. My room must be completely dark. my clocks are covered with socks....even the tv in my room is turn off at the plug as I can't bare the thought of it being on, even though of course my eyes are close. It bugs the crap out of me. And I have a thing with people driving with their hands on the wheel in, what I consider, and odd position. It may be normal to that person, but it physically hurts me if they don't move their hand and even sometimes their leg. I have to shout " please please move your hands it is hurting me.! *LOL* I've been like that since I can remember.
Tourettes, is classified as someone with normally 2 or more tics, which is normally accompanied by, but not exclusive to, having OCD. There are loads of people who have tics...and some with multiple tics, but they don't necessarily have tourettes, and it is also hard to diagnose. There are loads of people who having blinking tics, facial tics, arm or leg tics...it all depends. Some have vocal tics...different kinds...and some have are compelled to say the one thing they are desparately trying not to say, but they can't help it....it does turn into a physical pain. Imagine having an itch in your arm...and someone holding your hands back so you can't scratch it....at first it is annoying....but then it starts to drive you nuts...until the point where it phsycially hurts you not to scratch it. Once scratched you get the relief from it...but then 3 seconds later the itch comes back..and it goes all over again. It isn't a nice thing, and can really effect kids and people. Some kids grow out of it in there teens...and some continue on....some learn to cope, and some can't do anything but use meds to try to control the urges.
Elle, my brother had a sniffing thing...I used to try and do it too when I was little but I just didn't get it. And my mother has a coughing thing, but I think that is just habitual rather than a tic. Tourettes is a slight chemical imbalance in the brain, can sometimes be hard to control. My brother had over 17 different tics along with with OCD and bi polar...so the poor guy didn't stand a chance doing it on his own. He is on meds which have calmed the tics down quite a bit. He has still managed to keep his concentration with the meds, and is a RN in the US in trauma medicine. We are really proud of him and what he has done. He was never a school boy and never really applied himself, but once he did there was no stopping him. And my OH well I think for him he sees it as something to be ashamed of. But it is something he can't help and could do nothing about. I too am so so very proud of him and what he has accomplished for himself and us. He has a hard time with his concentrion, and if disturbed lose it in 2 seconds, but over all he does very well. He knows he has nothing to fear from me. I think more of him for telling me. Albriet, 8 years after we got married, but at least he told me, and I know it took a lot for him to have the strength to do it. I think he was afraid I would leave or not want kids. But he should have known there was nothing to fear. I am in this for life. Always have been always will be.
LU will be fine I know...labels are labels...as long as he can deal with it, and with us by his side, I know he will be strong and accompish everything he dreams of.
Well I have a bit of ocd myself. I can't stand LCD lights on...well any lights on when I am sleeping. My room must be completely dark. my clocks are covered with socks....even the tv in my room is turn off at the plug as I can't bare the thought of it being on, even though of course my eyes are close. It bugs the crap out of me. And I have a thing with people driving with their hands on the wheel in, what I consider, and odd position. It may be normal to that person, but it physically hurts me if they don't move their hand and even sometimes their leg. I have to shout " please please move your hands it is hurting me.! *LOL* I've been like that since I can remember.
Tourettes, is classified as someone with normally 2 or more tics, which is normally accompanied by, but not exclusive to, having OCD. There are loads of people who have tics...and some with multiple tics, but they don't necessarily have tourettes, and it is also hard to diagnose. There are loads of people who having blinking tics, facial tics, arm or leg tics...it all depends. Some have vocal tics...different kinds...and some have are compelled to say the one thing they are desparately trying not to say, but they can't help it....it does turn into a physical pain. Imagine having an itch in your arm...and someone holding your hands back so you can't scratch it....at first it is annoying....but then it starts to drive you nuts...until the point where it phsycially hurts you not to scratch it. Once scratched you get the relief from it...but then 3 seconds later the itch comes back..and it goes all over again. It isn't a nice thing, and can really effect kids and people. Some kids grow out of it in there teens...and some continue on....some learn to cope, and some can't do anything but use meds to try to control the urges.
Elle, my brother had a sniffing thing...I used to try and do it too when I was little but I just didn't get it. And my mother has a coughing thing, but I think that is just habitual rather than a tic. Tourettes is a slight chemical imbalance in the brain, can sometimes be hard to control. My brother had over 17 different tics along with with OCD and bi polar...so the poor guy didn't stand a chance doing it on his own. He is on meds which have calmed the tics down quite a bit. He has still managed to keep his concentration with the meds, and is a RN in the US in trauma medicine. We are really proud of him and what he has done. He was never a school boy and never really applied himself, but once he did there was no stopping him. And my OH well I think for him he sees it as something to be ashamed of. But it is something he can't help and could do nothing about. I too am so so very proud of him and what he has accomplished for himself and us. He has a hard time with his concentrion, and if disturbed lose it in 2 seconds, but over all he does very well. He knows he has nothing to fear from me. I think more of him for telling me. Albriet, 8 years after we got married, but at least he told me, and I know it took a lot for him to have the strength to do it. I think he was afraid I would leave or not want kids. But he should have known there was nothing to fear. I am in this for life. Always have been always will be.
LU will be fine I know...labels are labels...as long as he can deal with it, and with us by his side, I know he will be strong and accompish everything he dreams of.
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
Taz, well what mother in their right mind wouldn't when others in the family have it too. I have done loads of research. Thanks...=-)
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
man I am sooooooo hungry. I have had just my fruit today and a hand full of doritos...I've been busy. I think I will have my tuna for dinner, I miss that. Just hope it doesn't repeat or I will pay for it later.
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
Taz, well thank you so much. That is so kind of you to say. All any mother ( well at least me) wants is for her children to grow up healthy, happy and well adjusted. And that is all I want and I hope that I have learned from my mother mistakes and try to make sure that my kids will feel loved, cared for, important, and confident. We try our best, and you know when my son says " mom, you're the best mom in the whole world!" or "you're the nicest mama in the whole wide world!" it makes every thing I do worth while.
So thank you again, it is nice when others think you do a good job. I am not perfect, by any means, but I try and that is what is important.=-)
So thank you again, it is nice when others think you do a good job. I am not perfect, by any means, but I try and that is what is important.=-)
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