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[FatFairNForty(ish)]

Didn't get the job

Well, it's 7pm , Tuesday 13th February.
Not been the best day I've ever had..

Got home from work to find that a bit of my pathetic hedge was looking not dissimilar to the leaning tower of Pisa , and, when I asked my mate (with the now not-so-complicated love life) why it always seems to be over. She told me it's the kids playing football.. so.. I righted the poorly privet and dashed into the house and grabbed my gym bag and set off.

Before leaving the house, I checked our post box. There was a letter from the job application. I didn't get it.:sigh: :sigh: :sigh: I can't tell you how disappointed and upset I am - so shan't even properly try. Suffice it to say, my mother hasn't heard me cry like that in a very long time..:cry: and.. bless her.. one of my lovely friends on here caught me weeping :cry: when she rang and I was in the changing rooms at the gym

Ah well... been rejected before.. will be again no doubt.. so.. not looking tonight, but tomorrow I will be back on the hunt again with a vengeance .

Got home from the gym to find said sad privet completely flattened!! NOT good!! I leapt out of the car and stared at the kids with their ball and demanded to know who was responsible!! They ALL pointed at this one boy, lol, who quickly tried to babble an explanation (I can be quite scary when cross!)... I just told them that I had had enough of them playing football near my house, my car and my garden! (Victor Meldrew has nowt on me!!! ) and that I don't ever want to see them playing ball out there again!! (this instruction was given at a fairly high volume and reinforced with vociferous finger wagging) .. the thing is.. the little darlings have already hit the car with the ball before and I am always asking them to be careful.. but today... privet that broke the woman's back!!!

(I'm girding meself for a mob of outraged parents - but if they choose tonight to be outraged then they're in for a shock!!)

Oh.. forgot to say, took the posters to shops and pub AND library so that was a job well done.

Work this morning was crap too - had an accountant in with me ALL morning , asking me ridiculous questions about stuff I have diddly squat knowledge about!! So.. he left with a bit of a huff on (I told him I wouldn't know anything.. lol.. why don't folks believe me when I say that when dealing with matters financial!!)

PLUS.. today is the anniversary of my dads funeral - not as upsetting as the death.. but still and all.. on top of the rest of the days frustrations I'm sure those memories had a bit to do with the crying thing

Anyway... another day done and dusted. I need to keep looking for a job.. get the paper again on Thursday,.. call up my friends and ask if they know of any jobs going anywhere too etc etc etc

Had a lovely lovely supportive text and then call from Mr K. He says there will be extra special hugs Thursday to make up for not being able to be here for me today ... awwwww... sweet innit! He was so sweet... said that 'we' would get through this and everything will be fine..

So there we are.. I'm already bathed and in me night-time finery (see my avatar! ) and looking dead glam! lol

Definitely going to bed for 9. Promised myself that. I think an early night will do me loads of good.

I emailed the chap who's giving me the tickets for tomorrow nights gig and he replied this afternoon saying to ask for him when I get there and he will give me my passes!!! (Passes!!!!!!) lol Better be on me best behaviour and take my music festival fliers and business cards with me! lol

It's going to be a busy rest of the week.. gig tomorrow.. Mr K Thursday., Sing-a-longa-Abba Friday (debating whether to do fancy dress for that or not.. ) ah but Saturday.. nothing in the diary for then as yet! Might tootle down to the local wine bar and sit and drink a bottle of fizzy (treat meself) and listen to their musical offering! then again.. might just veg out in front of the telly! lol (Might depend on what Zoe's up to..)

Zoe's off to her mate Ashley's tonight so I'm home alone - ah, that probably means NOT going to bed at 9.. or going to bed at 9 then getting up again to let the flippin pooch out as and when required!!

Ho hum... glad today is almost over. Might ring my welsh mate up in a moment and arrange to go there for a visit at Easter.. haven't seen them in yonks.. before last summer I think.. in fact.. maybe further back than that!!

Still got a toffee-walnut husky muffin to look forward to as I didn't have it earlier but instead had another half pack of soup and, another half pack just now.. I am so glad mini gave that advice!! I feel so much fuller for it!!

Will have a tootle around the site for a bit now but off by 9..please please do nag me to sod off if you see me on here after 8.45! Ta ever so x

 

[cah-ching]

Hey FFnF,

Rejection isn't good. However these things happen for a reason. It doesnt seem that way now, but you'll get something 10 zillion times better and you'll look back on this day and think "pah - glad I didn't get it anyway!" I know there is a lot of pressure on you to et another job and may be this is what makes the situation worse? I have no idea and I don't want to guess as only you know. Please look for a positive and focus your mind on all the fun stuff you have coming up this week; most notably your date with Mr. K AND SING-A-LONG Abba and I think you SHOULD dress up, you can be the pretty blonde one you have all the right credentials!

((((((HUGS))))))​

C-C

 

[canireallydothis!!]

Hugz about the job but I reckon cah ching is right, Im a firm believer in what will be and all that malarky. loved toffee and walnut muffins, think i might splash out and make one this week!

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

Hey FFnF,

Rejection isn't good. However these things happen for a reason. It doesnt seem that way now, but you'll get something 10 zillion times better and you'll look back on this day and think "pah - glad I didn't get it anyway!" I know there is a lot of pressure on you to et another job and may be this is what makes the situation worse? I have no idea and I don't want to guess as only you know. Please look for a positive and focus your mind on all the fun stuff you have coming up this week; most notably your date with Mr. K AND SING-A-LONG Abba and I think you SHOULD dress up, you can be the pretty blonde one you have all the right credentials!

((((((HUGS))))))​

C-C

Thanks so much CC. There is a huge amount of pressure on me to get something, and fast, and yes, it is definitely making the situation worse. I'm trying to think positively, honest I am, and something will turn up I'm sure. lol @ the abba thing.. but bless your heart for saying so thanks too for those mega hugs. xx

 

[MadamDotty]

So sorry to hear about the job, but agree wholeheartedly with Cah-ching, it wasn't meant to be and something better will come along - it just doesn't feel that way right now.

I almost (I said almost) felt sorry for those annoying kids, I bet they didn't know what hit them, they sure picked the wrong day for knocking down your hedge - I don't expect they'll do it again.

Take care Jennie & make sure you get you're early night. I'm off downstairs in a minute, promised my DD I'd go on the Playstation with her, so you've got 27 minutes & then it's off to bed for you young lady!

I hope tomorrow is a brighter, sunnier & kinder day for you

Much love

xx

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

Thanks Vicky... still haven't had the muffin yet.. I fancy taking it to bed .. lol.. comfort eating habits die hard eh!!

Hiya MD... am going off site now.. thanks MD.. tomorrow is a new day.. it's the only way to look at it! Have fun with the playstation. lol Oh, and as for those kids... well.. I have to admit to an evil chuckle at their terrified state! Muahh haah haah lol (not really - I kinda ALMOST feel sorry for them too.. but heaven help them if that bloomin privet is flattened again tomorrow!!!!)

night night xx

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

February 14th 2007 - Valentines Day

A new, fresh day

First of all - confession time! I didn't go to bed early - instead I "made" a Valentines gift for Mr K AND I registered with monster.com and put my CV on there and applied for 4 jobs!

To my surprise - I had a call this morning about one of them and am waiting to hear if they call me up for an interview. Will keep you posted! (not great hours 6am start, but a job nonetheless). It will also mean working every other Saturday, but you know what., if that's what it's going to take to keep my home, then that's what I shall do!

If I can I will try to also do a few hours here too. IF I can physically and mentally cope with that! It will mean working near enough a 12 hour day 5 days a week and then 8 on alternate Saturdays. Bit of a jump from just doing 20 hours a week in the mornings!

I also revamped my cv to make it more concise (lots of people suggested that so I took it on board and have done it!) PLUS.. I called the company who said I was over-qualified and they have filled the post now... but hey ho.. lots more ads to get my teeth into. I've also registered on JobsToday and have scoured the local job centre ads.

This morning I had the sweetest call from Mr K .. I'm not going to say what he said, but it made me feel very very special and, dare I say it.. loved! Tomorrow is going to be such a special evening. (might see if I can get some more tickets to tomorrows gig and take him as a surprise!! )

Last night I split my packs and had half a choc mint pack (with husks) as a muffin, and the other half as truffles!

Have to say - yummy!!!!! Definitely liking this pack splitting lark!

It's my sister's birthday today - so rang and sang to her (it's a family tradition, well, it's what I always do )

So.. halfway through the morning and lots ahead of me today.

Will catch up later! Thanks for being so lovely about yesterday - it was a hard day. Still... am determined so.. lol.. on I go!!

 

[flirty40greeneyes]

Sorry about the job Jenni, but agree with the others and hopefully the right one for YOU will be round the corner.

Hope you have a lovely Valentines Thursday with Mr K and it's all you want and more.

 

[Karen1972]

Hi Jen

Sorry to hear about the job hun, but it's their loss!! You will find something soon, you have so much to offer!

I bet you're sooooooooo excited about spending the whole night with Mr K tomorrow, i'm almost as excited as you!!

Pesky kids huh! The local kids to me have a habit of playing footie in my front garden (it's quite large and i don't have a gate) and it annoys the hell out of me!!! Tasked my uncle to make me a gate pronto!

Take care,

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

thanks Karen. I spent some of this afternoon sending my cv out to all and sundry. Applied for a total of 6 jobs. Jobs paper comes out tomorrow so will do the same again then! Off to the gig now. Will catch up on minimins tomorrow! xx

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

What can I tell you about last night - not all good I'm afraid. Got to the gig and the there was a huge fiasco about tickets (I was a guest) - no ticket available - standing room only - so.. I told him.. don't /can't do standing. So that gave him (the promoter who had invited me) a dilemma. Duty officer told him that there was a no show but would have to pay for seat! I waited, not altogether patiently I admit.. and in the end got a front row seat! Well.. the band were superb.. I'm definitely going to recommend we book them for next year's festival as a support act for one of the headliners! Got their cd and listened to it on the way home.

Now for that bad stuff... my sister was supposed to be getting engaged yesterday.. on her birthday/St Valentine's day. BUT.. no word from her boyfriend - ALL day.. and ALL night.. not only that , but there was supposedly some big surprise organised for her.. well that happened alright.. there she was, in the hotel, booked in... dolled up in new outfit,. suitcases packed (both due to fly out this morning to Tobago) and no sign of him at all! She was, as you can imagine, hysterical. I told her to call the police (in case he was hurt) or the hospitals.. to give him the benefit of the doubt. Quite frankly I think he is a liar and a cheat and a thief. (He has her £500 spending money) and there is no excuse for yesterday. He called her this morning - just before she flew out. He claims (and I'm sorry but, he did this to her on New Years Eve too) that he was in hospital AND that his daughter was run over yesterday. I simply do NOT believe him. Even IF any of that was true then it takes 30sec to call or text someone to let them know - let's face it, he had 24 hours of the date (14th Feb) in which to contact her. His phone was on and ringing up until about 2pm then it was switched off. I think he was with another woman. I think that is what he did also on New Years Eve to her. (She had given him a ring to sell for her - it cost her £100's and was to be her husbands wedding ring until he treated her like dirt and she called off the wedding!!).. My gut feeling is that this man is even lower than the last.

I do not trust him even an inch.

Maybe I'm wrong - but until her money is back in her account and she has that engagement ring on her finger, I will not believe a single word he utters!

I can script write what he will tell her next.. he will claim that he couldn't get to the bank (despite his allegedly working for one!) due to visiting daughter in hosptial.. he will then claim daughter has died (I know thats harsh, but I think he will).. he will claim that funeral took place whilst she's away.. he will then cancel wedding plans because it will be too soon after losing his child.. he will then say, no point in being engaged if no wedding... THIS way - he doesn't have to give her the ring he claims to already have for her., he won't have to go through the wedding scenario... and I think he will say that he didn't tell her about daughter's death and funeral whilst on holiday as nothing she could do about it and she needed the break... he will also give some excuse as to why she can't see his other child again (too distressed... family time only... blah blah blah.. ) so she doesn't find out the extent of his fantasy world!!

Sorry if I sound nasty and harsh, but if he is the conman I believe him to be.. then that is how I think it will all pan out.

Hopefully, whilst she is away, she will have time to reflect on what he has and is doing (and with HER money!).. and reach the conclusion that he has a lot of work to do to build up her trust in him again!! Personally - I would walk away from him .. try and recover the money - report him to the police if not forthcoming.. and leave it at that.

I hate the thought of my sister being taken for a ride again.. she doesn't deserve it. No-one deserves this kind of treatment.

In all this, I hope I am wrong about him.. and if I am I will tell him so. I already told him once before that I was very cynical about him - even more so now though!!

Sorry - real rant head on!

Anyway... some good news! I have a job interview tomorrow at 5pm! (have to go to recruitment office first then from there for the interview).

Its the job with the dodgy hours.. and not great pay.. but.. as they say.. beggars can't be choosers!

Jobs paper comes out today.. going to get it at lunchtime and, after gym, get stuck in to another round of applications!

Hope all had a lovely valentines day... mine is tonight!!

 

[Isobel1965]

OMG!!! I really hope you're wrong about your sister's fella - but I wouldn't be surprised at the lengths some men go to - been there, done that etc.

One bloke I was desperately in love with said he couldn't see me as his father had just died and then got engaged to someone else 3 months later (it didn't last!) so it's possible.

Sheesh!

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

I know! yes... she spoke to me this morning from the departure lounge, in floods of tears..

I went out with a guy who swore he was mid-divorce, living with his mother then I found out the truth (lived with mumsy M-Fr - home at weekends!!).. another span me the 'love you, here's a diamond ring, met all of one anothers families (including crabby granny) and then, out of the blue. 'can't do this, can't be in a relationship any more' to find the next day he was on a dating site and within months was shacked up with someone.

Now - don't get me wrong - perhaps I am just a totally gullible muppet (maybe a familial trait!!!).. BUT.. I am NOT saying that ALL men lie.. just that SOME men do.. and this one (my sister's man) seems to be a hum-dinger of one! If you have ever heard of Walter Mitty - that is what I think is going on with this man.. once sis gets back (and boy do I wish there was a way I could have gone with her to be a support for her.. ) she will decide whether she believes him or not.. and I will continue to love and support her whatever the outcome. I shall never trust him though - even if she does. I shall never like him either. I won't hate him.. but what he has done appalls me. I don't know how he sleeps at night (perhaps I could nominate him to appear in those horlicks ads! ) anyway.. sorry for ranting but I just want my sister to be happy and she isn't now.. she was... but that's been crushed again

 

[Karen1972]

hi honey

oh your poor sister what an absolute w*nker!!!!

i got worried about the title of your thread and assumed you were talking about mr k - phew!

so is you sister going to tobago alone now?? poor love, my thoughts are with her!

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

hi honey

oh your poor sister what an absolute w*nker!!!! agreed!

i got worried about the title of your thread and assumed you were talking about mr k - phew!

No no, Mr K is many things, but he is, most definitely, honest! lol

so is you sister going to tobago alone now?? poor love, my thoughts are with her!

Yes - she's gone.. she's somewhere in the sky en route as I type... heaven only knows what's going through her mind! I feel so sad for her.

 

[Karen1972]

poor poor darling!!!

was it a last minute thing, him going with her then?? she was going with a friend who let her down i seem to remember??

how long have they been together?

 

[MadamDotty]

He sounds exactly like my ex-husband, only I was stupid enough to marry him. The lies and fantasties he told defy belief, it's incredible now what I did believe. My sister, who saw through him from the start always said he must be the unluckiest man in the world as the number of family and close friends that were in serious accidents (including his own son at one point) or died, and the number of times he got stuck in the most horrendous traffic jams making him hours late. I won't go on, it would take all day, but he sounds exactly like this character you're sister is with. Poor girl, I hope she gets rid of him before too much longer. You're right to be so wary of him & not trust him an inch and all you can do is be there to support your sister, it must be very tough for you watching her hurt, but when you're in a relationship like that it's unbelievable what you cannot see that is so plain to everyone else. My sister was there when it finally all went wrong & you will be for yours. I don't know what's wrong with these men, to lie to the extent they do, it's more than just sneakiness, I really think there was something seriously not right with my ex and I'm sure wherever he is he's still spinning the same lines to some other poor woman. He's no longer a part of my life, even though he's my DD's father, but I believe that it's for the best, we have no idea where he is and I'm sure he'll turn up at some point, but my wonderful DH has been Georgia's father to her since she was 4 and she's a happy, well adjusted girl - which she wouldn't have been if I was still with the ex.

Gosh sorry went on a bit there - that all just spilled out!

Anyway Jennie if i don't catch up with you again today, have a wonderful, wonderful time tonight (as if you need me to tell you that) with your fabulous Mr K. There are good men out there as you've found and I've found with my own Mr K and hopefully in time your sister will too.
x

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

blimey Karen...nosey mare ! LOL .. yes it was last minute he said he didn't want her to go alone, and that he had booked them both into somewhere very special for when they got there.... they've been together.. umm.. dunno.. will have to get back to you on that! lol (might have to trawl back in me diary to see if I mentioned him!) not very long though. (don't even get me started on that one!!)..

Yes, her friend let her down.. and has no intention of giving her the money either!... so now.. she's down the £600 for her friends ticket (non refundable etc...) £500 that mr scummy liar has had off her.. £300 hotel bill that is due when she arrives.. plus... she has had to go all alone. SImply not fair. Not fair at all. She cannot afford to lose all that.

Anyway - bit of good news on the job front...another agency rang me and want to know if I will go and work evenings.. (money not great but might make it poss for me to keep my house!). So.. having a think on that.. they want immediate starters.. which I can do.. no social life though apart from weekends.. so MEGA probs for me an Mr K!!! Need to do some real hard thinking and soul-searching... not good!!!!

 

[MadamDotty]

p.s. good news on the job front, sounds like a few things are coming your way.

 

[FatFairNForty(ish)]

hi MD... I think you're right.. I think men who are compulsive liars actually are ill. I'm so sorry to read you had similar experience and dead chuffed you and your daughter have found happiness.