ButtErFlies-In It To Win It

[Witchy]

Cant see past it now, he obviousy doesnt want this so balls been pushed for me to be the instigator, men are such cowards.

 

[broxi]

Yes I know that but maybe you are overreacting and he doesn't actuall want to leave and give up on his marriage. It doesn't seem as though that's what he is aactually saying. I mean I don't know but that could be your dread and he could just be confused.- I know Jason always used to get confused and say stuff like that when he was younger.

 

[Witchy]

Just spoke to him on the phone, he doesnt know what he is doing at the moment and will speak to me in the morning.

He says he doesnt see why we cant stay in the same house, to me thats curtains for me but he has no where to go bla bla bla, he cant speak at work so it i have to spend a night worrying, i cant see past this though its clear he wants an escape but cant.

 

[broxi]

It honestly sounds like the stuff Jason used to say to me. Has he ever done this kind of thing before?
He is not wanting to definitely go with this talk about staying in same house- he clearly doesn't want to let you go completely.

 

[broxi]

The waiting and worrying is the most horrible bit.

Many women would advise you to not take his crap but that's not my advice- I think he might just need space and time and I believe very much in trying to make things work- especially if there's love there which there is!

 

[Witchy]

I know and thats what makes it worse as im powerless to do anything just feel lost.

Going to go to bed for a bit and try and sleep will talk later on when I know more, thank you so much for listening i just broken right now and lost.

 

[broxi]

Victoria, sent you another pm.

Listen I will be thinking about you and will say a prayer for you. Try to think positive about this- I honestly don't think he is definitely leaving you- just maybe needs some time and space- lots of men have these types of crises. You get to sleep and take care. If you want to talk, I'll pm you my mob tomorrow xxx

 

[claira07]

morning girls, hope things are better for you this morning victoria, stay strong honey, you will work things out, xxxx
broxi you always talk sense luvvy, and your a good support to all of us xxx

 

[Zoe.D]

Morning all, Victoria I am sorry to hear about the probs you are having at the moment, you must feel awful. I hope you and your Husband can sort it out. I am sending you big big hugs.

The kids break up today, well my 7 year old Bethany should have but she has had to stay off as she is has cough, runny nose and temp and as her school has had swine flu cases there they are not alowed in if they so even sneeze so she is at home. I'm sure it is just a cold as me and Huby and Megan have had one as well recently. It's just so worrying with it all going about and the uncertainty of what if it is.

 

[claira07]

well charlie is certainly being his normal self so cant be that ill, he just snuck to the bathroom and put all my tampax down the loo and flushed it, does anyone fancy having a 2 1/2 yr old boy, extremely cute but possibly the son of the devil xxx

 

[Zoe.D]

I am with you there Claira. My Megan is that age and I keep looking for the 666 on the back of her neck lol. She is an Angel really and I love her to bits but sometimes they can be little devils can't they.

 

[claira07]

we are waiting to see a behavior nurse, he is driving me potty x
do you want to swap for a bit and see if it helps lol x

 

[Zoe.D]

I won't take you up on that one Claira lol, I had real probs with my eldest at that age and when I think of Beth at that age Megan really is an angel. Good luck hon xx

 

[claira07]

lol, i need it today, when hes ill he has even more naughty energy. xx
i dont know how he does it.

 

[Zoe.D]

Does he get worse when hes tired? Beth still gets worse when she's tired, it's like her body reacts the opposite way and she's always been like it, even as a baby. I think she may have ADD but we are finding it so hard to get diagnosed.

 

[Witchy]

Hey butterflies thank you for the lovely thoughts, unfortunately he left this morning, im gutted and devestated but nothing i can do, i just hope he changes his mind and comes home but heard nothing from him and dont know where he is so im just falling apart at the moment while trying to be there for the kids. Will come back when im stronger, im not giving up the diet but just dont want to come online for a bit.

 

[Zoe.D]

I'm so sorry to hear that Victoria. I am thinking of you and the kids and hope things get better for you. Take care sweetie xxx

 

[broxi]

So awful for you Victoria, I've sent you pm. He might just be going through a bad patch hopefully. I'm really thinking of you xxx

 

[Wannabeelovely]

Hi everyone!! Can't sleep so I've got out of bed to come and catch up on here! I've been working extra hours again this week and I'm over-stimulated I reckon! I'm not getting much of a life at the moment but at least its extra money so I shouldnt grumble.
Victoria, I'm so, so sorry to hear about your troubles lovey. I really hope it gets sorted out very soon and that you can be happy in life again cos you deserve it. I can't imagine how you must be feeling but my thoughts are with you. xxxx
Hey Broxi - you're back!! Yay!!! So glad you had a fab holiday - did you go down that hill on one of those tea-trolley thingies??? You've done great to only gain 3lbs in 3 weeks!! I had a major 2 day binge-eating session over the weekend and gained 2lbs I'd only just lost and another 2 - I was gutted but managed to get back on CD ss and I've since re-lost it plus another 1lb - thank goodness!!!! Hope you can get back on the nightmare but dream diet that is CD very soon hun so you can be even more gorgeous than you are now!!!
Zoe - you did great to lose that 4lbs - and so last minute!!! You and Contrary are spot on re not getting on the scales but I'm afraid I'm with super-skinny-size-14-jeans-soon-to-be-fitting-in-a-pencil-skirt-and-leathers-Claira!!! I too have replaced my eating with weighing and I get on those pesky scales at least twice a day!! Ever likely I go off on a binge every couple of weeks - I don't half make life hard for myself but I can't stand the idea of being disappointed at my CDC weigh-in. I like to know where I stand with this diet!!! I'm probably talking crap but I can't help myself!!!! lol
Right - I'm off to do a bit more reading now. I'm supposed to be getting more tired but its waking me up!!!! Love you all girlies!!!! xxx

 

[broxi]

Hi Iamlovely, good to hear from you! I agree with you about scales-I couldn't bear to be disappointed at wi so I need to weigh every day. In a lot of the CBT stuff about weight loss they tell you to record your weight daily too cos it keeps you focused!