Right.
Gain is pap. But sounds like your weight is too.
Nobody can tell you what diet to go on. What we can tell you is that you need to stick with it.
Whatever you follow, you need to give it a good clear run, you need to give it your all, and it will work.
Hope you don't think I'm being mean, i know how hard it is. I know what a hard place it is to be to want to lose weight so desperately, yet not to see it happen.
After all my years of trying, one thing I've learnt is that you have to give it your all, pretty much all of the time, for it to happen. And that's hard. It's really hard.
All I can suggest is you pick your plan, and commit to it for maybe 1 month. If you're eating out, then go, but you're gonna have to choose wisely. If you don't, then you'll need to accommodate it elsewhere!
I wish I could it for you hun. But I can't bloody do it for me!!! (This is a bit of a do as I say and not as I do!!!!) Xxx
Charley, apologies in advance if I am being harsh. Do you really want to lose the excess weight?. Sit down and have a good chat with yourself, decide on a plan and stick to it for 2-3 weeks and once you see the results, you want to go on more and it brings you confident to carry on. I know it is difficult when you are surrounded by all delicious stuff and temptations. As Mrs. S says you are the only person who can make that decision and take action. From my own experience, exercise has nothing to do with losing weight - it comes in later on when you want to shape up a bit and get rid of some flab. I have never done any heavy exercise (because I know, I can't stick to it) just do a bit of walking (instead of taking the bus, train or car) whenever possible - you walk from home to station every day and from what you said before you walk a lot during the day too - that is good enough.
We all have seen pictures of your lovely healthy food and know that when you stick to it you lose regularly and do very well. You need to find out why you sabatoge your good work.
For some reason we tend to reward ourselves with food when celebrating and punish ourselves with food when we are sad and stressed - I am a great example of that when I am stressed and sad, I seem to stuff myself with food- any food , even things I hate.
You are a beautiful young lady with a loving BF and supporting family, in a good job and years of happy life ahead of you. You need to work out why you want to lose weight and how you want to do it - You we it to yourself to find this out - just sit down on your own and write down what you want and put an action plan together and stick to it (somehow writing it down makes it stick to our mind). Being on a strict plan is hard but after a while all those temptations become invisible.
Have a lovely day, lots of love.
Ooh you have both made me cry - not because you have upset, but because you responded so supportively, from two ladies who have been there and done it. You both really have hit the nail on the head - I needed some tough love. Thank you both.
My problem lies with eating out and secret eating which I am totally aware that I am doing. When I am out I stick two fingers up to healthy eating, I should (for at least the time being while I want to drop this 4-5 stone) just make good choices - this option does make me sad and does make me not want to go out at all! I see eating out as something fun, but only the eating and socialising, why can't I just enjoy the social aspect, not the eating? Why can't I choose a salad and be happy that I am with loving family or friends? The secret eating is like I said before, its the forbidden fruit, you know you shouldn't but you do anyway.
Ok, you asked me to write down the reasons why I want to lose weight:
1) I hate being uncomfortable in seats like in theatres/planes/some cinemas/train. I want to be able to sit with a little room - its not my bottom but my top half and my belly overspill.
2) I sweat in the summer. I hate that the most. I love the warmth but cant really cope in the real heat. I walked to work this morning and it was freezing, but I was angry about the gain and so I sped walk/stomped to work - by the time I got there my head was sweating! It was really cold this morning!
3) I am in good health and relatively fit - at the moment. I am scared that my body will cope with the strain of my weight less and less.
4) The dreaded plane seatbelt. I have always managed to close it, sometimes with slack, but more often than not, no slack - I would like to see some slack. I would like to pull down the food tray without fear that my belly will stop it from coming all the way.
5) Bras. I have to wear a massive sized bra for my back, not for my cup size, its really hard to get a good fitting bra.
6) I would like to sleep on my back or belly, I can only comfortably sleep on my side - If I sleep on my belly, then I wake up uncomfortable because (I think) my stomach pulls on my back and my back starts to ache and if I try to sleep on my back I wake myself up snoring!
I think that is it, lets face it, thats enough I think! Funnily enough none of the reasons is to do with the way I look - of course I don't want to be a fatty and I hate my double chin and wide shoulders and giant jelly belly. But I have long accepted these things about me and Rosa you are right, Mick loves me to bits no matter what.
I need to do one plan and stick to it, like you both said. I want to go back to SW to be honest. I feel these few months off of it and doing healthy eating that I have really controlled my portion sizes. I think I can probably incorporate that with SW - I realise that I DONT need 2 nests of egg noodles if I have a stir fry and I DONT need half a chicken with chips, a quarter is enough, I CAN eat a normal portion of pasta and be sated.
I went and bought three Fuller Longer meals last night, one of which is in the freezer and I think Mick will eat it, but I need to eat the other two as they are fresh. They are totally synned I reckon. I think I will start SW on Monday morning now. I will be good today and Saturday for sure, but Sunday we are going out for a meal for Mother's Day - so I will make good choices and see where we go with that.
I am not going to go back to SW online or classes for now. But if I need a few SW related questions answered, can I ask please?
E.G - Are WW petit pains still HEB? and those little baby rolls from M&S, am I right in thinking they are HEBs too?
Its going to be back to basics for me. I am going on a hen weekend next Friday to Sunday, I am really not looking forward to it, and I know its going to be foody and boozy. Lets see if I can rise to my own little challenge shall we?
Thanks again ladies for putting my hat on straight. I needed that.
xxx
